- Zero talent or hobbies
A child who has to give nearly six hours to the school in the morning and another six hours shuttling back and forth through his tuitions has lost half of his productive day. Now, he is left only with hours to sleep, eat, play video games or be on the social media. Many guilty parents are unable to discipline their over-stressed kids, because of the academic pressures they demand out of them. It’s like demand and supply literally. So they let them be when these kids are not studying.
Very few creative kids are able to squeeze in some time for a sport, hobby or interest to hone their talents. A Ph.D. currently serving at a reputed university in Karachi states: “Students with top scores have not developed themselves otherwise. It is such an imbalanced personality. And they are not considered for admission or jobs at all. On the contrary, a jack of all trades has better prospects. He has pursued non-academic interests as well that are healthy and normal.”
- Who are you?
Storytelling, dialogue, and conversations are fast disappearing. The communication between a parent and their kids is most essentially based either on instructions or interrogations. As a consequence, the child never learns who his real parents are, and neither do the parents know what their kid’s dreams, fears and passions are. Because of a busy schedule, these children neither chip in into the house work, nor serve their elders, nor look after younger ones and are seldom available for family outings or get-togethers. They dwell either in their prison of an academic world or are granted the freedom of choice in the virtual world of a smart phone or screen.
Break-ups of marriages are a stark reality of this kind of upbringing that is academic centred only. The child never played a role of an active family member; hence, he never learnt to serve or sacrifice for others, clean up after himself, express and hold a loving conversation as well as missed out on mastering the art of making decisions. All he learnt was how to score an ‘A star’ on his next exam. Such child may become a very selfish and self-centred adult, who does not value relationships.
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