“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” (Ar-Room 30:21)
The institution of marriage amazes me. It is indeed a sign from Allah (swt), how two different people from diverse backgrounds come to live together, love each other and build a family.
Nonetheless, maintaining a healthy married life is not as easy as it seems. For marriage is not limited to fancy dresses, romance and honeymoon. It goes beyond to handling differences, managing relationships effectively and strengthening the bond through thick and thin. It comes with a fair share of responsibility.
It is not very difficult either. We can all concoct a happy marriage by putting to practice a few simple ingredients. Following are the elements I have observed in the successful marriages around me. Let’s explore the five Cs:
- Connect with your spouse. No matter how busy you are with your work, office, children and chores, make time for your spouse. You don’t always have to go out of the way to connect. It’s the small and simple daily things that build a happy marriage: smiling and winking at each other, reading together, taking a short walk, giving unexpected love notes, helping around with work or attending Islamic lectures together. Turn off the screens and spend some quality time together. Moreover, the strongest form of connection is when the spouses are connected in the common goal of gaining Allah’s (swt) pleasure. Together they work towards it and share the same aspirations and dreams.
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