“Divorce is described by the Prophet (sa) as the most hated permissible act in Allah’s (swt) sight. When difficulties in a marriage cannot be reconciled, divorce in its various forms is a blessing to the involved man and woman allowing them to end their union, so they may go on to find a more compatible mate.” (Amira Murphy)
Here the question arises: how wisely, justifiably and frequently is this option being selected today? This law was prevalent in yester years as well – but why was this option hardly ever considered? And why do we witness an unprecedented upward spiral in broken marriages today?
Dr. Julie Macfarlane from Canada researched the ongoing trends in the Muslim communities of North America. Surprisingly, the results that emerged appeared to be very similar in nature to what Pakistan is currently witnessing. Some reasons why Muslim marriages are on the rocks are as follows:
- Disconnection from the spirit of Islam.
We need to understand that what the Molvi Sahib or Qaariya set for your child or what he learned in his or her Islamiat course in school does very little for him/her in terms of providing a sound Aqeedah and a deep Iman. Every Muslim has to go through the Quran and the Seerah cover to cover before entering into the realms of marriage. And once married, they have to stay a lifetime student for newer challenges arising. The Quran and the Sunnah are empowering courses for people of understanding and resolve. Our brides and grooms are ignorant and unaware of their marital responsibilities.
- Pursuit of happiness and free will.
Many of us see marriages as our source of instant personal happiness. We have to understand that this is a relationship, which promises gratification to all those who are willing to work hard on it – it is like a fertile land waiting to be cultivated. However, many want to hire gardeners who would sweat it all out for us. We just want to stroll in the flowering and full of fruits garden of bliss with no contribution on our part. Happiness comes to those who wait around for it, and, sadly, in many marriages, patience is lacking. Most marriages are not even lasting two years to give each other a sufficient chance for turning a new leaf. Simply because the relationship does not grant instant happiness and free will, it is ended far too soon.
To read the rest of this article, and more, subscribe to Hiba Magazine today