- You are in the middle of composing an email on a tricky subject to a difficult family member. Your toddler bounces up to you with cries of ‘Mommy, mommy!’ What is your most likely reaction?
- Cry out: “Will you let me do ANY work?”
- Ignore and keep typing.
- Sigh loudly, clench your fists, stop typing and say: “Yes?”
- Sigh inwardly, stop typing and attend to the toddler.
- Toddler is unlikely to come as you made sure he or she was fast asleep before you tackled this particular email.
- You are preparing some snacks for guests who dropped by unexpectedly. Your toddler clings to your legs, demanding attention. What would be your strategy to deal with this?
- Tell him or her to get out of the kitchen and bug the guests instead.
- Ignore him or her completely.
- Say irritably: “Wait till uncle and aunty leave, and I will deal with you”
- Give him or her some pots, pans and spoons and allow him or her to play with them.
- If guests come unexpectedly, you never bother to prepare fresh snacks; you are likely to serve them something that doen’t need much effort.
- Your toddler just threw an object at the maid. How would you react?
- Stand on his or her head until he or she apologizes to the maid.
- Tell the maid to ignore it completely; if she reacts, he/she will do it more.
- Pick up the object and apologize to the maid (when the toddler is out of sight).
- Give your toddler a time-out, and then talk to him gently but seriously about how it hurts when we throw things at others and that we can try not doing it again.
- Your toddler would never throw anything at anyone because he/she is taught that one only throws balls.
- 1 b. 2 c. 3 d. 4 e. 5
- 3 b. 2 c. 1 d. 4 e. 5
- 5 b. 2 c. 1 d. 4 e. 3
13-15: Excellent. You definitely realize that your schedule needs to follow the toddler. It is also good to note you do not make allowances for others which disturb your toddler. That said, do realize that unexpected and unplanned events happen, and one must be prepared to deal with them.
9-12: Fairly good. At times, you are able to distract your toddler from negative behaviour, but do remember to use time-outs sparingly and at the end, have a chat with the child about acceptable and non-desirable behaviour.
8-5: Good. You mostly employ a strategy to ignore your toddler’s negative behaviour. At times, it is the best technique. However, you need to know when you need to step in and be firm.
4 and below: Oh dear! You seem to be caught up in reactive parenting. Categorize your child’s behaviour into “I can ignore it” and “I can distract him/her”. These two strategies work wonders. Remember toddlers repeat their parents’ oft-used sentences when they start speaking – be positive and inculcate positivity.