Taming your Tricky Toddler

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  1. You are in the middle of composing an email on a tricky subject to a difficult family member. Your toddler bounces up to you with cries of ‘Mommy, mommy!’ What is your most likely reaction?
    1. Cry out: “Will you let me do ANY work?”
    2. Ignore and keep typing.
    3. Sigh loudly, clench your fists, stop typing and say: “Yes?”
    4. Sigh inwardly, stop typing and attend to the toddler.
    5. Toddler is unlikely to come as you made sure he or she was fast asleep before you tackled this particular email.
  1. You are preparing some snacks for guests who dropped by unexpectedly. Your toddler clings to your legs, demanding attention. What would be your strategy to deal with this?
    1. Tell him or her to get out of the kitchen and bug the guests instead.
    2. Ignore him or her completely.
    3. Say irritably: “Wait till uncle and aunty leave, and I will deal with you”
    4. Give him or her some pots, pans and spoons and allow him or her to play with them.
    5. If guests come unexpectedly, you never bother to prepare fresh snacks; you are likely to serve them something that doen’t need much effort.
  1. Your toddler just threw an object at the maid. How would you react?
    1. Stand on his or her head until he or she apologizes to the maid.
    2. Tell the maid to ignore it completely; if she reacts, he/she will do it more.
    3. Pick up the object and apologize to the maid (when the toddler is out of sight).
    4. Give your toddler a time-out, and then talk to him gently but seriously about how it hurts when we throw things at others and that we can try not doing it again.
    5. Your toddler would never throw anything at anyone because he/she is taught that one only throws balls.

Score Yourself

  1. 1 b. 2 c. 3 d. 4 e. 5
  2. 3 b. 2 c. 1 d. 4 e. 5
  3. 5 b. 2 c. 1 d. 4 e. 3

Your Report

13-15: Excellent. You definitely realize that your schedule needs to follow the toddler. It is also good to note you do not make allowances for others which disturb your toddler. That said, do realize that unexpected and unplanned events happen, and one must be prepared to deal with them.

9-12: Fairly good. At times, you are able to distract your toddler from negative behaviour, but do remember to use time-outs sparingly and at the end, have a chat with the child about acceptable and non-desirable behaviour.

8-5: Good. You mostly employ a strategy to ignore your toddler’s negative behaviour. At times, it is the best technique. However, you need to know when you need to step in and be firm.

4 and below: Oh dear! You seem to be caught up in reactive parenting. Categorize your child’s behaviour into “I can ignore it” and “I can distract him/her”. These two strategies work wonders. Remember toddlers repeat their parents’ oft-used sentences when they start speaking – be positive and inculcate positivity.

Do you Observe Workplace Ethics?


  1. There is an improper system of salary payment in your workplace. What do you plan to do?
  • Make an issue and start complaining.
  • Start gossiping about your boss and backbite.
  • Ignore the situation, thinking it would get better with time.
  • Talk it out with your boss or HR manager and try to resolve the problem.
  1. You need a week off from work for a holiday, and your boss refuses to let you go. How would you handle the situation?
  • Ignore what he says and go for the holiday without informing.
  • Start shouting at him, as you explain to him that this holiday is really important for you.
  • Stalk him every day and keep urging him to give you the week off.
  • Complete your work in advance and wait for an appropriate time to ask again.
  1. In the absence of your boss, what do you do?
  • Come late and leave early.
  • Leave all your work pending.
  • Do the required amount of work and party with colleagues/friends.
  • Complete all your work and act responsible.

4. In case you are handed over the responsibility of some office inventory and cash, how would you manage it?

  • Use everything for yourself.
  • Gift some of the inventory to your friends and manage the cash irresponsibly.
  • Take care of it but use it for personal work too, with intention to return it.
  • Value it as an Amanah (trust) and make sure there is no possibility of any damage or fraud.

Score yourself

For every ‘a’ you score 5 points
For every ‘b’ you score 10 points
For every ‘c’ you score 15 points
For every ‘d’ you score 20 points

For around 20-30 points: You have some trouble getting along with your superiors. We need to remember our responsibility towards the workplace and the commitment we made to the organization we work for. As a responsible employee of the organization, you can maintain the decorum of the office by improving yourself and involving your friends in improvement as well. The pursuit of Halal Rizq demands that we never compromise the interests of our employee/place of employment, and drive the extra mile, when needed.

For around 40-50 points: Since you disagree with lot of office procedures, you tend to indulge in backbiting. Either we communicate with the person involved to resolve or improve the situation, or we ignore it, which usually does not work. The best way is to put a value on the issue – is it just a pet peeve for you, because you do not agree with it, or can it hurt anyone in the long run? It is important to stay content and loyal with your decision to work at a particular place. Instead of cribbing and showing ingratitude, be courageous enough to move to a more suitable place. This is especially so, if you cannot bring positive change in your current workplace environment and end up utterly frustrated most of the times.

For around 60 points: You appear to have confidence in yourself and your boss. Hence, you can approach and discuss with him the problems that can turn into sensitive issues later, if not addressed on time. You realize that everyone has shortcomings, and differences can be worked out. No place of employment is an absolute heaven.

For 70-80 points: Mabrook! You are a proactive individual. Truly a dream employee every organization should have. You are an agent of change for your company, who does not wait for others to think of solutions. You value your job and have faith in your decisions. Allah (swt) has made team members unique and that is the strength of your organization. Your efforts will be rewarded by Allah (swt) for helping your team get along amiably, Insha’Allah.