By Eman Al-Obaid – Al-Huda Sisters, Dubai
Adapted for Hiba Magazine by Tasneem Vali
Ibn Umar reported: Two men came to the Messenger of Allah (sa), and said: “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most beloved to Allah? And which deeds are most beloved to Allah?” The Prophet (sa) said: “The people most beloved to Allah are those who are most beneficial to the people; and the most beloved deed to Allah is to make a Muslim happy, or remove one of his troubles, or to forgive his debt, or to satiate his hunger, or to walk with his brother regarding a need…and whoever walks with his brother regarding a need until he secures it for him, then Allah the Exalted will make his footing firm across the bridge on the day when the footings are shaken.” (At-Tabarani)
Clearly, the best among us is the one who gives the most to our fellow humans. It does not specify that we must be beneficial and of help to only Muslims, we must contribute toward helping everyone. The ways in which we can be beneficial are simple:
- Benefit oneself – meaning stop yourself from committing Haram or forbidden acts, and obey Allah’s commands regarding all aspects of your lives (forbidden acts will destroy you).
- Obey the Prophet’s (sa) directives, anything that Allah and His Messenger (sa) forbade, stay away from it.
- Perform not only the obligatory, but also go above and beyond to achieve Allah’s love.
Obviously, to be the ‘most’ beloved to Allah, we must be the best at everything we do. We cannot be ordinary, we cannot follow what others do – we have only Allah and the Prophet to guide us. In our hi-tech space age lives, with everything labelled as Top 5 or Top 10 ways to do something, let us look at the most authentic Top 10 list on how to be Allah’s beloved.
Top 10 Characteristics of Anfa’uhum
- Constantly make Dua to Allah for guidance.
- “The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best of you to my family.” (Tirmidhi) Benefit your household, family and children (not only yourself) by:
- Righteous upbringing/nurturing dependents.
- Making your family realize the greatness of Allah, teaching them about Allah, making them love the religion and confident about being on the right path.
- Teach your dependents prayer, fasting, charity, etc. and their importance.
- Meet your spouse/parents and children with a beaming, happy face.
- Become a good example for everyone around you – the way you talk, the way you deal with others, etc.
- Instil love and respect for Allah and the Prophet (sa) in everyone you meet.
- Benefit other Muslims (Muslims around you) with the most beloved deeds to Allah.
- Happiness enters your heart by doing/fulfilling righteous acts commanded by Allah.
- Help in removing any distress from your brother/sister in Islam, Allah will remove your distress on the Day of Resurrection.
- “The best of you are those who feed others and return greetings.” (Abu Ya’la, Hasan)
- Distress can be of any type, large or small – work, life, study, money, advice, opinion, hunger.
- Distress of life is nothing compared to the distress of the Day of Judgment, so make sure you help.
- Do not be selfish to only benefit yourself – wish the best for the others.
- Smile to spread happiness, Allah loves it; it is an act of charity. Meet others with a beaming smile, this is the least you can do.
- Do not expect any reward, gratitude, praise or thanks, help only for Allah’s sake. Wait patiently for the best reward possible from Allah.
- Fulfil someone’s needs; Allah will be there during your time of need.
- Be very helpful, examples: pick, drop, photocopy, grocery, anything at all
- You start the act; most people feel shy or feel it beneath their dignity to ask for help so approach them yourself in a respectful manner.
- Allah will deal with you the same way, when you are shy to ask for help – Allah will help you.
- Benefit yourself by keeping your anger away from others.
- Do not show your anger. When you are angry – forgive people.
- When you are angry, you are harming others and are of no benefit to them.
- Learn to suppress anger.
- Forgiving and pardoning people is following Allah’s commands.
- “The best of the Muslims is he from whose hand and tongue the Muslim is safe.” (Muslim)
- Treat people with most excellent manners/character.
- Treat others the same way you want to be treated.
- “The best of people are those with the most excellent character.” (Tabarani)
- “The best of people are those that bring most benefit to the rest of mankind.” (Daraqutni, Hasan).
- “The best of people are those who live longest and excel in their deeds, whereas the worst of people are those who live longest and corrupt their deeds.” (Tirmidhi)