The ears have entangled the senses with romantic tales,
The eyes have caged the heart with the base desires.
The seeds of the beautiful tomorrow in the palm of hands
You’re the farmer and planter of these blooming buds.
There are two delicate and fragile relationships in life: marriage and parenthood. These two aspects of life involve radical turns of perspective: from being single to married; from being a couple to having a family. If we compare life to a drama, then these three beautiful stages are the three acts of the play, which can either earn hellfire or Paradise for you, with you being the sole purchaser of them.
Celebrating these relationships just a single day in a year isn’t what our beautiful religion teaches us. It is funny, how people think it’s their duty to love their fathers on Father’s Day, mothers on Mother’s Day and spouses on Valentine’s Day, forgetting about the remaining days of the year. For Muslims, every single day of our lives is a father’s day, a mother’s day and Valentine’s day. We aren’t taught to love one day; instead, we’re giving Muhabbat, which is so intense that it’s for a lifetime indeed; eternity, if you buy Paradise for your children and spouse.
Our vague criteria in the wind of modernism have taken away the essence of the right age of marriage, which leads to illegal relations. The heart cries a billion tears to see the Muslim youth going astray. How will we face the Father of the Ummah? The Prophet (sa) said: “After me, I have not left any affliction more harmful to men than women.” In verse 26 of Surah An-Nur, Allah (swt) clearly defines who deserves what, when it comes to marriage:
“Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women), such (good people) are innocent of (each and every) bad statement which they say, for them is Forgiveness, and Rizqun Karim (generous provision i.e. Paradise).”