IqraSense shares an Infograph with Six To Do’s to practice Islam in a family unit.
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As soon as you get a negative thought about someone, realize that Shaytan is playing with your mind. Don’t let him win. Instead, ask Allah (swt) to protect you from him.
When something happens that you do not understand or like, understand the facts. By taking a colder look at the facts, you will see that the situation is lot less dramatic than you originally thought.
How are you interpreting the facts? This is usually what is triggering your negative emotions-except that you have added this interpretation yourself, and that you can choose to have an empowering interpretation instead.
As difficult as it may feel, let go of the idea that someone else in your situation is the enemy who is out to get you. Stop making others wrong and yourself right.
By choosing to put yourself into the role of the innocent victim, you are avoiding taking responsibility for your situation. Instead, be proactive and look at what you can do to make the situation better.
The Sunnah encourages us to think good of others and make excuses for them whenever possible. In fact, Hazrat Umar (rta) said: “Do not think badly of a word uttered by your brother when you can find a good interpretation for it.”
Allah (swt) has given you freewill- no matter how difficult a situation may appear to you, it is entirely up to you how you choose to react. Remember- the test of life is not what happens to you, but whether you deal with it in a manner that is pleasing to Allah (swt).
May Allah (swt) give me and you the Tawfeeq to implement these tips. Ameen.
Transcribed for hiba by Anoshia Riaz
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Smiles in the childhood, and lot to play
Shiny is the night, and bright is the day.
No need to worry, no reason to cry
No need of wings to get to fly.
When comes the time, when we become teenager
Friends in school, and messages on pager.
Play the football and eat the chips
Laugh a lot while having slips.
Then soon you enter the crew of youth
And this is the time to choose your booth.
One is responsibility, and other is just fun
With one comes success, and with other life burns.
Choice is yours, so select the good
And don’t hide your abilities in a hood.
Work hard and wear noble kits
Because we get spoilt by bad habits.
Then time comes, when one gets age
And bones get weak in body’s cage.
When conscious level is down, and comes nervousness
But grand daughters and sons give happiness.
Not all happiness, not all grief
In any case- be patient and heave.
There will be hard times, don’t let you hide
The thing is that, this is life.
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Allah (swt) has granted great status to parents- not only because they bring the children in this world, but they are raising future Muslims. Children are the responsibility of parents, and Allah (swt) will ask about that responsibility on the Day of Judgement. Parenting is not an easy job, and can’t be learned from any book- one can learn it from experience only.
Mostly, the word ‘respect’ is associated with elders only. But, children also have the right to be respected.
“Don’t yell at your children, when you yell the message is lost. Speak calmly for words to be heard, and they’ll retain the message better”. (Mufti Ismail Menk)
Give respect to your children to gain respect. When children feel respected, it boosts their self-esteem.
All parents love their children, but only a few express that love. Parents should express their love to children by actions live kissing, hugging and complimenting them. One can learn from Prophet Muhammad’s (sa) behaviour with kids also. Prophet (sa) also said:
“He is not from us who does not show mercy to the young, and does not honour the old.” (Tirmidhi)
Comparison Is Not Good
Parents compare their child with children of the same age group. This shouldn’t be done. Every person has its own abilities and talents. The comparison may lead to wrong way. They should encourage their children for doing good things and build their confidence. What happens next after this comparison is a child starts to copy others- instead of discovering his/her hidden talent and polishing own skills.
“As parents, we must learn from our children and guide them in daily lives. Parenting goes both ways- it’s a give and take relationship”. (Mufti Ismail Menk)
Sometimes parents complain that my child doesn’t pay attention to whatever I say. He/she does not bother to listen. I think, somewhere, it is their fault because a child seeks full attention of parents which they fail to give. This often occurs when mothers are helping their young children to do homework, their finger of one hand is on a copy of child, and the other hand is on a smart phone.
Also, elders don’t listen to younger ones whole heartedly; or do not let them complete because they are taking a lot time to convey their matter. Parents should give full attention to their children, and let them talk. They should spend quality time with them indulging in activities like storytelling, cooking their favourite food, playing games.
“Spending time with children is more important than spending money on them’’. (Mufti Ismail Menk)
Don’t call your children by nicknames like “Munnu” or “Baby”. Name has an impact on personality. If you call your child by a nickname, then avoid calling by that name in the presence of his/her friends. Sometimes these nicknames embarrass children in a gathering of friends and school.
Parents are Role Models
I heard my 4-year-old cousin saying: “Mama, I want to be like you. I want to wear earrings like you and have long hair like yours.” This shows that children follow their parents, and want to be like them. So, that’s why parents should be careful of their actions and words in front of children- because these little ones are great observers as well.
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How can you forgive someone when it seems too difficult? Try considering the following:
May Allah (swt) make forgiveness easy for us. Ameen.
Transcribed for hiba by Anoshia Riaz
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When the things seem too dark, then Allah (swt) gives us a spark
When the shade of ignorance scares us, then the light of Quran glares us
When the desolation is at its Peak, then the Seerah of Prophet Muhammad (sa) is there for our relief
When we entangle in obscurity, then Islam lends us towards clarity
When the life becomes mysterious, then Iman makes us illustrious
When the loneliness tries to slaughter, then Taqwa provides us a divine partner
When the enemies try for a abase, then Jehad gives us a grace
When it is difficult to stand up, then the Pillars of Islam are always there to help us
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For raising our children to become responsible and well-groomed Muslim youth, we, as parents, have to put forth efforts into development of their character and personality. Since home is the first nurturing place of every child, it is of utmost importance to create within it a supportive atmosphere, which will facilitate the stability and confidence of our children. The following tips will help you to build loving homes for your children:
1. Trust comes first
Parents and children should have a relationship based on friendship and trust. No matter what age they are, our children need guidance from the inside of the home, not the outside.
2. Home Safe Home
Home should be the most comfortable place for your children. If they are not comfortable staying home for studying, playing and relaxing, they may look for options out of the home, which can become a negative influence on them.
3. Be the problem solver
Trust your children. Give them as much space, as they are comfortable to share with you. If they have a problem, listen to them and help solving it- instead of making a big issue of it, which would encourage your kids to hide from you their other problems.
4. Befriend their friends
Know the friends of your children for ensuring that they are in a good company. Let your children invite their friends to your home, so you can keep a watch over them and get to know them.
5. Keep a hawk’s eye
Keep parental controls over social media, technologies, gaming and mobile phones. There are more wolves out there than you can imagine.
6. Stay tuned to their life channel
Never be overly confident that your child is the purest person on earth. It may happen that our children fall in bad company, which affects them in ways we could not have dreamed of.
7. Family’s day out
Limit the time your children spend with their friends and increase family outings to compensate for it. Sleepover at any friend’s place must be a big ‘no’.
8. Their life, their choice- Accept!
Accept your children’s choices, whenever possible. Often they are not wrong in asking what they wish for, whether it is their career choice or even a prospective spouse.
9. Matured rightly? Time to marry!
Encourage your children to marry early, as that helps in character building and assuming a responsible attitude towards life. This is encouraged also in the Sunnah. From our surroundings, we can see the repercussions of doing the opposite. If you are against early marriage, your child may find an alternative in the form of a girlfriend or boyfriend outside the home. Thus, it is wise to marry your children, both boys and girls, when you are sure they are mature enough to think rightly.
10. Home is not a place, it’s a feeling
Don’t build a luxurious and lavish house for your children, indulging them with the material goods of this world. Instead, make loving homes for them, guide them with advice and nourish them emotionally, so that they are ready to face the adverse environment of today’s society.
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Some tips to get closer to Allah (swt) are:
Call out to Him
Make Dua to Allah (swt). When you take one step towards Allah (swt), He will take ten steps towards you. So, ask Allah (swt) to help you get closer to Him, and to accept all of your actions.
Some good stories must stay untold
Do more secret good deeds. Hide rather than publicize your good deeds. Without the watchful eyes of people, it will be easier to purify your intentions, and do things for the sake of Allah (swt).
Death is running after you
Remember death. Death is the only thing guaranteed in life; so remember where you are heading. Imagine lying in your grave; imagine the angels questioning you; and imagine standing in front of Allah (swt) on the Day of Judgement.
Nothing is sweeter than His own name
Find out Allah’s (swt) names and attributes. The more you know about Allah (swt), the more your heart will become attached to Him. Also, learn about the life of the Prophet (sa) and his companions; this will increase your love for them, and ultimately, your love for Allah (swt).
Keep Allah (swt)-loving company
Find good friends. The Prophet (sa) said: “A man will follow the religion of his close friend; so let each of you look to whom he takes as a close friend.” It is critical to surround yourself with friends who will help you get closer to Allah (swt).
Connect with the Quran daily
The Quran contains Allah’s (swt) words to us, which is medicine for our soul. Set aside time daily to read the Arabic and translation- even if it’s a small amount, and reflect on the meaning.
Speak your heart in Salah
Understand what you recite in Salah. The prayer allows you to speak to Allah (swt), but it will only deeply affect your heart when you understand what you’re saying. Learn the meaning of the words, and think about the meaning as you pray.
May Allah (swt) give me and you the Tawfeeq to implement these tips. Jazak’Allah Khair.
Transcribed for hiba by Saneya Qadir
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The Holy Prophet (sa) said: “Paradise lies under the feet of mother.” This Hadeeth highlights the importance of a mother, and the role of a mother in a child’s life.
A mother is not only the gateway of paradise for a child; rather she is a ray of hope in all problems.
I experienced a serious problem a few weeks ago. I was bullied for being short. My classmates used to make fun of me and call me “Choti Auntie (short-heighted woman).” As a result, I became increasingly conscious about my appearance, and became quite self diffident. I talked to some friends about it, and they told me not to worry about it. Their satisfying words did not satiate me completely- as the thought of being physically defected had made a niche in my mind.
All the other thoughts of positivity could not pass through this barrier of self doubt. My mother is an extremely conscious lady. She observes all the family members to find out whether they are okay or not. She had been noticing my odd behaviour. I had not been eating well. I had been skipping meals, and staying quite doleful. She observed my condition for a week after which she made her move. After Fajr, my mother called me and asked me to go for a walk. I declined at first because I was not in the mood. She persisted and I gave in. We went to a park near our house for the walk. We walked for about five minutes after which my mother finally spoke up.
She asked me why I had been too different recently. “School stuff and stress!” I replied in an impassive way. She persuaded me, and finally convinced me into telling her why I was so upset. I told her about being bullied. I explained that I had become the laughing stock of my class fellows because of my short height. She listened to all my complaints with concern. I started to cry and she began to console me. I realised that day that the only shoulder which can offer me satisfaction and calm my inner storm is that of my mother.
She explained how people become jealous of your abilities, and point out flaws in you to let you down. Her soothing words made me re-think about my behaviour for the past few days, and I reached the conclusion that I should not waste my time thinking about the flaws. Her words instilled a positive spirit in me.
It is strange how a mother’s love and her kind words can cure the incurable wounds easily.
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For the chicken:
Mix all the above ingredients with chicken pieces, and leave for marination for at least ½ an hour.
For the pita bread dough
For the pickle
For the sauce
Mix all of the sauce ingredients.
How to make:
The Pita bread
The assembling of Shawarma
Your hard work and patience is about to pay off.
And voila! Your Chicken Shawarma is ready to be devoured.
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We hear the phrase “Allahu Akbar” being used and misused daily. Some use it to declare the Glory and Enormity of Allah (swt), while some misuse it to legitimize their own personal animosity towards certain people.
When we use certain phrases much frequently, such as, Allahu Akbar, Subhan’Allah, Alhumdulillah, and Masha’Allah, we lose the true essence of these phrases, and use them as a sheer habit.
When we say “Subhan’Allah”, it means we are declaring His Exaltation and His Glory. When we say “Alhumdulillah”, it means we praise Him for all the blessings He has bestowed up on us. These phrases are much more than a set of words. They are a part of our faith in Allah (swt). Similarly, Allahu Akbar is much more than just two words. Even if a whole book is written on these two words, it would not do justice to what they truly contain.
Allahu Akbar – Social Media is a liar!
Social Media is full of negative content that shows the world that “Allahu Akbar” is used mostly when people of sick and twisted minds kill others
Who is the Master of the miraculous galaxies- Allahu Akbar
Allahu Akbar means Allah is the Greatest. Earth is approximately 85,345,714,285,714,286 times bigger than an adult human being. Earth’s sun is so large that 1,300,000 planet earths could fit inside the sun. The star Eta Carinae is over 5,000,000 (five million) times larger than our sun. Star Betelgueuse is 300 times larger than star Eta Crinae. VY Canismajoris is a billion times larger than our sun.
The galaxy we live in is called “Milky Way”. It has all these stars and planets within our solar system. There are 300 billion suns within our own galaxy.
We have a neighbour galaxy which is called “Andromeda”. It is twice in size compared to our galaxy. There is another galaxy called M81, which is 60 times bigger than our galaxy, whereas galaxy IC01011 is 600 times bigger than our galaxy. Remember, that each galaxy has billions of suns million times bigger than our sun, which is 1,300,000 times bigger than our earth, which is 85,345,714,285,714,286 times bigger than a human being. But this is not all; the way stars and planets make galaxies, similarly galaxies make clusters. We live in “Virgo” cluster which has more than fifty four 54 galaxies. Clusters together make “super clusters”. Our super cluster is known as “Local Group Galaxy Cluster”, which has 100 clusters in it approximately. The number of super clusters in the “observable universe” is estimated to be 10 million. The diameter of observable universe is 93 billion light years. One light year equals to 10 trillion kilometers. This is only what is observable to us. This is the Creation of The One, The Only, Allah (swt).
The Power of His Right Hand
Allah says, “They made not a just estimate of Allah such as is due to Him. And on the Day of Resurrection the whole of the earth will be grasped by His Hand and the heavens will be rolled up in His Right Hand. Glorified is He, and High is He above all that they associate as partners with Him!.” (Az-Zumar 39:67)
Recall what is explained above, and imagine it in Allah’s (swt) right hand. This is the meaning of Allahu Akbar – Allah is the Greatest! How can we be arrogant? We have no control over anything. He has all the Power and Control over everything. Allahu Akbar – Allah (swt) is the Greatest! This is just a small fraction of Allah’s (swt) Might. This is what our weak minds can collect and imagine. Allahu Akbar – Allah is the Greatest! Whenever we say Allahu Akbar, we must understand what it truly means; and once we comprehend, we must fall in prostration immediately.
Hiba Magazine conducted an exclusive interview with Ustadh Asif Uddin who was on a visit to Pakistan recently.
Ustadh Asif Uddin is a graduate of Business and Information Technology from the University of North London. He further pursued a Masters in Information System at Brunel University. He has been heavily involved in Dawah from the time he was at university. He is a keen student of knowledge and has studied the Islamic sciences in Mauritania, Egypt, and Qatar, and continues that journey today. Ustadh Asif gives weekly circles on Aqeedah and Tafseer and is a lecturer for Sabeel (Muslim Research and Development Foundation) and Chief Editor at Islam21c.com.
The interview was conducted by Talha Arif, a 15-year-old student of L2L Academy, on behalf of Hiba.
You can listen to the audio of the interview below:
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Intelligence quotient (I.Q) is a globally accepted score, or standard showing the person’s ability to understand the world. However, in short, I.Q is the way people perceive the world based on their understanding of the subject, backed by their information and knowledge gained through communication – reading, talking, and writing – and through observing.
Raising smarter children is, perhaps, the concern all parents are living with. With an ever-competitive and an ever-evolving world, parents want their child to know the world and the way to live in it; thereby using their own intellect and wisdom to take necessary decisions at the right time to lead a successful life.
Often times, parents do not realize the need to raise kids with a higher I.Q or with a mind that can decipher signs to make a worthwhile meaning out of it.
Parents often believe that talking about everything with their children is not appropriate. However, any time is a good time to converse with your child about topics and issues of life you think are important, or which will affect your child in the future. Talking with children from an age when they understand words and simple concepts of life will build their vocabulary, help them talk better, and realize the world they live in. For instance, when the child is three to four years old you should talk to the child about cleanliness, about wearing neat clothes, about going early to bed, about the moon, the sun, and the stars. However, this conversation should be as simple as ABC, thereby telling the children what you mean without you sounding too mature for them to understand your content.
Children become confident when parents talk to them. Since, children reply to this conversation- they use their mind to think of answers, and use observation to know more about what to add to the conversation.
Read with them, Read to them
Reading, among all modes of communication, is by far the most important tool in making your child confident and intelligent. Colorful books with illustrations and lots of information, stories, facts, and comics, give a child the sense to see things, learn, and implement in life. Helping your child develop a reading habit is a gift the child will treasure for life. Sit with your child for half an hour or an hour – depending on your availability and the child’s mood – and read to them, or read them books they are fond of; Asking them questions on your own- as you read to them- will also help the child in thinking out of the box. All bookstores have a children’s section. You can buy books covering all genres and topics, in all sizes for your child so they can read, learn, and accumulate information in their mind that will help them as they grow up. For toddlers, books about shapes, colors, sizes, alphabets, things, and other concept books a must-read by parents.
Having a good memory is also imperative for having a strong I.Q. When reading books to your child, ask questions from the content they have read the same day, or a few days later, to check how much your child has retained in mind.
Never get Angry
Children have a weird temper. They have their moods, and you cannot change them. Do not get angry if the child is not focusing on a task. Give the child time to adjust, or use a different strategy. Lure them in studying, playing, or talking by giving them an incentive of a chocolate or taking them out for a walk once they finish the talk. Never get angry with them, or they will lose the motivation to learn.
Math and Numbers
When talking to your child in everyday conversation, build the child’s mathematical and numerical skills. This may increase the I.Q- since every part of life has mathematics and numbers involved in it. Teach the child numbers from 1 to 100, or when playing with them ask them the number of toys they have. Moreover, make the child learn to read and tell time since it is all numbers-based.
Train the Mind
The child’s mind needs a parent’s constant nurturing, and the best way after reading to them is to make them play with block toys. Lego is perhaps the best toy available. It gives children an opportunity to use their creative skills and imagination to build anything they want. Let the child build whatever comes to mind for its makes the child confident.
Criticism and disapproval kill the inside of a child. Even a child has built a strange object with Lego, or has drawn doodles on paper that makes no sense, always encourage them and motivate them and appreciate their efforts. This is the only way to make them believe in themselves. Self-belief is the only way any child can attain greatness in life and parents are the ones who can introduce this in their child.
Let them Do it!
Often parents want to complete their child’s entire task. When the child is able to walk, hold things, and have understood basic concepts of life- let them complete simple tasks. These include tying shoelaces, putting toys in one place, putting up shirt buttons, wearing socks, combing their hair, drinking water from the glass, drawing, climbing up and down on a bed, or sofa, and so on. Giving the child the room to complete tasks, and appreciating once done, will be a morale booster.
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Islam upholds certain distinct values, singling it out from all other prevalent religions present upon the globe. Among these values stands the prominent issue of choosing career. Making money is the need of every human being on the globe, irrespective of the religion to which they belong. Denouncement of career or jobs would only make the survival more problematic.
An acute moment in life of a Muslim is to opt for the suitable career. One does not have to follow the norm of society, but actually interpret the multiple sides of that particular career to determine its relevance in religion. The selection must be parallel to Islamic injunctions, incapable to impair productivity of Muslim, and possess sufficient potential to raise levels of a person in Hereafter.
An ideal case would be to select an option in career that would benefit the entire Muslim Ummah, as well as, provide sustenance to the individual himself.
Following are a few steps that must be followed by an individual when making career decisions:
A person will never be productive enough in his job- unless he puts his heart into that task. Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses- with particular focus on the subjects you enjoy. Carefully weigh the implications of certain career on your lifestyle, then contrast those with the kind of lifestyle you desire; pursue the chosen field if these go hand in hand. Cast aside if they don’t.
It is highly important for one to consult elders when making grim career-oriented decisions- that ought to have far-reaching consequences upon one’s life. Since career building matters to yield long term results, one shall always consult with parents, guardians, teachers and fellows prior to making any decision. They will provide sincere and experienced thoughts about the issue, helping in acquiring a more reliable and beneficial decision
A mandatory condition for all considered career opportunities is that, they must serve Halal income.
Abu Hurairah (rta) said: “The Messenger of Allah (sa) said: ‘if one of you were to carry a bundle of firewood on his back and sell it, that would be better than asking a man who may or may not give him something.”‘ (An-Nasai)
Working to earn a Halal earning is a religious obligation in itself, apart from the other basic obligatory acts- like fasting, Hajj and Zakat.
Material pleasures may come and pass eventually, but the earning means are recorded in the Deed Book, for eternity. Islam does not even deny the manual labour when it comes down to earning.
Therefore, whatever career you choose, evaluate the Islamic limits, and whether the profession falls within the premises of Islamic guidelines.
Connecting Career with Ibadah
When a person opts for any career, particularly Muslim, he must have a religious perspective in sight, too. That would mean that he must only go for the career that would allow him to follow teachings of Allah (swt), and remain steadfast to Islamic laws. This will be then imputed as a good deed, Insha’Allah.
“Shaytan (Satan) threatens you with poverty and orders you to commit Fahsha (evil deeds, illegal sexual intercourse, sins etc.); whereas Allah promises you Forgiveness from Himself and Bounty, and Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower.” (Al-Baqarah 2:268).
This point also implies that an individual must choose a profession that would benefit the Ummah directly or in the long run.
Seek Allah’s (swt)Assistance
All human efforts are meaningless- unless they are in accordance with Allah’s (swt) commands, or seeking His pleasure. Humankind, as frail as it is, is always at the risk of attaining wrath of Allah (swt) through the actions attempted in ignorance, or in complete senses. In order to reduce the probability of falling under Allah’s (swt) disgrace, be assured that you follow His commands. Refer to Him in all matters, and make Him your confidant for He truly is the only One to show correct path.
Thus, we conclude this topic with the belief that- no matter what profession we choose, we need to stand on firm-footing about its placement in Islam- along with imploring for Allah’s (swt) help constantly. The sound repercussions of such career would clearly be felt throughout one’s life.