Are you a short tempered person? If yes, then you must be having a hard time keeping relationships with your family, friends, neighbours or colleagues. If you are a boss, then your subordinates might be unhappy with this nature of yours. This might even result into losing your hardworking and talented employees to your business competitor. So why not try to get rid of your angry, edgy nature and change your life forever?
You can start by cultivating the habit of overcoming anger and making positive changes daily by forgiving others and thus receiving Allah’s (swt) mercy. You will become a better person, if you stop keeping grudges in your heart – no matter what happens. It is hard – but not impossible – to control our anger. Overcoming our anger will make us strong.
Abu Hurairah (ra) has narrated that Allah’s Apostle (sa) said: “The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the one who controls himself while in anger.” (Bukhari)
A famous Muslim scholar Mufti Ismail Menk says: “Bitterness and grudges cause diseases of the heart, both physical and spiritual, and affect the mind and body, too.” So remember: love and forgiving – two great aspects that many overlook.
Do not break relationships
We should try not to cut the relationships due to our anger and misunderstandings. We should have a dialogue or discuss the matter with the other person, instead of harbouring feelings of anger and grudges.
Allah’s (swt) final Messenger Muhammad (sa) said: “A Muslim is not allowed to stay angry with his Muslim brother for over three days, because he who does that, and then dies, will go to hell (fire).” (Abu Dawood, Al-Jami)
How to control anger?
The Prophet (sa) also said: “Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created with fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.” (Abu Dawood)
It is narrated in Bukhari that two people were arguing in the presence of Rasulallah (sa). One of the two became so angry that his face went red and his veins swelled. Rasulallah (sa) lifted his face towards that person and said to him: “I know of a sentence, if you were to say it, your anger will go away. The sentence is (Taw’wz): Aouzu Billahi min as-Shaytan-ir-Rajeem (I seek protection with Allah (swt) from Shaytan, the rejected).”
Narrated by Abu Dharr: The Apostle of Allah (swt) said to us: “When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.” (Abu Dawood)
We should always supplicate to Allah (swt) for showing His mercy upon us and saving us from His wrath. It is narrated by Abu Hurairah (ra) that Allah’s (swt) Apostle (sa) said: “When Allah (swt) completed the creation, He wrote in His Book, which is with Him on His throne – My mercy overpowers My anger.” (Bukhari)
May Allah (swt) never seal our hearts with negative thoughts and hatred. Ameen.