Innovators in Islam: Say ‘Hello’ to Hellfire

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Today, everything is available online, and Muslims fall for anything- because of their lack of knowledge about Quran and Sunnah. This results in practicing rituals that were never practiced by the Prophet Muhammad (sa), or by his companions (rta). These practices are wrongly associated with Islam. If I even dare to mention all innovations that we see educated people practicing in the name of religion, people would declare war here. This extremism is also due to falling prey to Shaytan.

Muslims belonging to any sect have one thing in common, which joins all of them together in the end- Quran and Sunnah

. Anything out of it or in addition to it- has to be rejected by every single Muslim. We need to study Quran and Sunnah to correct our practices, and leave which are wrong.

The disbelievers of Quraish tribe in Prophet’s (sa) time didn’t accept Islam because they weren’t ready to leave the ways of their ancestors.

Today, we don’t want to leave the innovations that were introduced as part of Islam, and practiced by our ancestors.

Definition of Bid’ah – Innovation 

Bid’ah is a new thing, introduced to and made part of the Deen (Islam) that has no origin what so ever from the Quran or the Sunnah of RasulAllah (sa).

Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim write that there was some companions talking and the Prophet (sa) was listening. One of them said: ‘I will make prayers (Salah) all night long.’ The second said: ‘I will fast (Sawm) all the time.’ The third said: ‘I will never marry.’ When our Prophet  (sa) heard them say this, he said: ‘I am the most Allah (swt) conscious than any of you. I pray (Salah,) I fast (Sawm) as well, and I do marry women. And, who so turns his face from my Sunnah, cannot be of my Ummah’. (Mishkat, Muslim, Bukhari)

The reason why our Prophet (sa) stopped them from doing what they wanted to do was because it was against Sunnah (his way). Whatever we do which is against the way of our Prophets (sa) Sunnah is a Bid’ah Sayiah.

RasulAllah (sa) stated: “On the Day of Judgement, some people will come to me when I will be standing by Haudh-e-Kauser (Well). They will be grabbed and taken towards the Hellfire. I shall say: “These are my people,” but in reply I will be told: “These are the people who introduced innovations after you, so they are unbelievers.” (Bukhari, Muslim, Kitab-ul-Haudh)

A person once sent Salam to Abdullah Ibn Umar (rta) who replied: I do not accept his Salam, as this person has innovated by becoming Qadriyyah (A sect which does not believe in destiny) (Mishkat, Kitab-ul-Iman wa-al-Qadr, transmitted by Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah)

The above narration emphasizes upon the fact that Bid’ah is to hold such an Aqeedah which is in direct opposition to the Quran and Sunnah- i.e. to become Qadriyyah, Jabriyya etc.

RasulAllah (sa) stated: “Every innovation leads astray; and every creator of the astray goes in the Fire.” (Muslim)

An example of this Bid’ah is given by Hafidh Ibn Al-Qayyim who writes: ‘The one who denies the punishment of the grave is an innovator’. (Kitab-ur-Rooh)

Some people think that if they are just following someone else, as long as they themselves did not invent something, then their action is acceptable. This is not true; every person is responsible for being diligent in making sure their actions are correct. Emulating and following the Prophet (sa) is a Quranic obligation. Allah (swt), the Almighty says,

“Indeed in the Messenger of Allah (Muhammad (sa) you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in (the Meeting with) Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah much.” (Al-Ahzab 33:21)

Hadeeth about innovation in Deen (Bid’ah)

و كل بدعة ضلالة، وكل ضلالة في النار

And every innovation (in Deen) is misguidance, and all misguidance is in the Hellfire.

ہر بدعت گمراہی ہے اور گمراہی کا انجام جہنم ہے۔

( Muslim)

No doubt, it is obligatory for the Muslim to be a follower of his Prophet (sa) in what he prescribed; and it is not permissible for him to go against him, or to introduce any innovation in the religion for any reason whatsoever.

It is Bid’ah if…..

It should be noted that differing from the way of the Prophet (sa) and falling into Bid‘ah may mean one of two things:

  1. Introducing an act of worship for which there is no basis in Islam, such as touching graves and seeking help from their occupants. The scholars call this real innovation (Al-Bid‘ah Al-Haqeeqah). This is that which was not prescribed at all.
  1. The act of worship may be originally prescribed in Islam, and what is contrary to the Sunnah may have to do with defining a certain time or place for it, or a certain number of times it is to be repeated, or the manner in which it is to be done or the reason for which it is to be done. This is called innovation by addition (Al-Bid‘ah Al-Idafiyah); it is not Bid‘ah unless it is done regularly and repeatedly. If it is done only once or twice without adhering to that, then it is not Bid‘ah, such as if people pray Qiyam (night prayer) in congregation (Jam‘ah) on some occasion, without thinking that there is any particular virtue in doing so.

Common innovations of today

Some commonly seen innovations in today’s world which are passed on by the ancestors to modern day Muslims:

  1. Putting Quran on brides head during her Rukhsati.
  2. Ceremony of putting Quran first thing in a new office
  3. Mourning for the deceased on the tenth or fortieth day after his death.
  4. Putting finger in the grave right after burial and reciting selected verses for his protection in the grave.
  5. Putting perfume, Zamzam and other things in the grave.
  6. Celebrating special nights that are or are not mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, and believing it is part of Islam.
  7. Wearing amulets for protection.
  8. Sacrificing animals in the name of saints.
  9. Celebrating birthdays of Prophets or Saints.
  10. Making monuments on graves or making solid graves.
  11. Believing in the altered concept of Tawassul.
  12. Believing in the Sufi methodology, their Tarikat such as believing that Allah (swt) can only be approached with the help of a Sheikh (Na’uzu billah)
  13. Singing Qawali- thinking it is part of Islam.
  14. Doing Tasbeeh on pebbles, and stones alone, or in a group.
  15. Making additional conditions of Salah which were never part of Sunnah.

Sadly, the innovations are increasing and the tolerance is decreasing. We refuse to listen to anyone else, and want to stick to whatever we do without even trying to open the book of Quran and Sunnah. This is how stubborn we have become.

When it comes to Bid’ah- those who are involved in it that have to prove its authenticity from Quran or Sunnah, not the other way around

. But if some persist, then my proof for classifying all the above as Bid’ah is that we do not find any reference to these actions in the Quran or authentic Ahadeeth which is classified as Sahih.


Note: If there is any error in the above list, then it is from me and Shaytan. I ask Allah (swt) for forgiveness for the mistakes and sins that we know, and for those that we do not know. And I ask Allah (swt) for guidance, mercy, faith, and compassion for all of us. Ameen.



Compass in the Ant’s Eye




We need guides to show us the direction when we travel to another country, or another city. In particular, when we do not know the place we are going to, we definitely must have a compass and a map. Map shows us where we are, and the compass shows us which way to go. We find the way by using these tools, and consulting other people so we do not get lost. Have you ever wondered how other creatures find their way? Have you ever thought how an ant seeking food in the desert returns to its nest?


Black desert ants inhabiting the Mediterranean coasts of Tunisia are among those creatures who build their nests in the desert.

These ants are very good at finding their way in the vast desert, and getting back to their nests without the help of a compass or a map.


As the sun rises, temperatures in the desert reach up to 70 degrees Celsius (158 degrees Fahrenheit). The ant leaves its nest to find food in the heat of the day. Frequently halting and turning around itself, it follows a devious route within an area that may be 200 meters (655 feet) away from the nest. You may see this route on the map. But do not think that the ant will get lost because of these zigzags. Once it finds a source of food, the ant follows a straight course and returns to the nest. With respect to their sizes, this journey of the ant may be compared to a man’s returning to his starting point taking a straight course after wandering 35-40 kilometers (22-25 miles) away from that point in the desert.



How is it that an ant successfully does a task that is virtually impossible for a human?


It cannot be that the ant finds its direction by looking at objects. Signs and way-marks such as trees, rocks, rivers or lakes which help one find the way are quite rare in the desert. There is only sand all around. Even if there were such signs, it would not make any difference, since it is not possible for an ant to keep these signs in mind, to memorize where they are, and to use them while finding its way. Thinking about it this way, one can better understand the significance of the task that the ant performs. The ant can perform this difficult task thanks to the special body structure it has been given.


There is a special direction-determination system in the ant’s eyes. This system that Allah (swt) placed in the ant’s eyes is more advanced than mechanical devices that determine direction.

Being able to perceive some rays that we cannot, the ant can determine directions, and know where north and south are. Thanks to this ability, it is not difficult at all for the ant to estimate where its nest is, and to return to it.


Human beings have lately become aware of the characteristics of light. However, the ant has known and used a characteristic of light, which was unknown to human beings, since it was born. Certainly, such a perfect structure as the eye of this ant cannot be attributed to random coincidences. The eyes of the ant must have been so since it came into existence. Otherwise, the ant could not have returned to the nest in the desert heat, and could not have survived. Indeed, eyes of all desert ants have been equipped with this system since the first day they came into existence. Allah (swt), the All-Knowing, created these eyes for them.

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Camel milk- The new hope

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Camel milk has been used for thousands of years. Although, camel milk is not  high in supply as cow milk- but it has a number of clear advantages over the more common supplies of milk- including more powerful nutrients, and better chemical compounds.

Camel milk has a distinct taste that’s slightly saltier, and more watery than other familiar milk varieties.

Due to its distinct taste, camel milk may not be people’s first choice on their breakfast. Camel milk is a great dairy substitute for people who cannot have regularly dairy product.

Medicinal use of camel milk

Camel milk has been used medicinally for centuries by nomadic people. There is a Hadeeth narrated by Anas (ra) – some people were sick and they said: “O Allah’s Apsotle (sa)! Give us shelter and food. So, when they become healthy, they said: “The weather of Madinah is not suitable for us.” Prophet (sa) sent them to Al-Harra with some she-camels of his and said: “Drink of their milk,” but when they became healthy, they killed the shepherd of the Prophet (sa) and drove away his camels. The Prophet (sa) sent some people in their pursuit. Then, he got their hands and feet cut; and their eyes were branded with heated pieces of iron. I saw one of them licking the earth with his tongue till he died. (Bukhari)

Camel milk is closest to human mother’s milk, which means that it gives us an ideal nutritive mixture, with many  benefits for our body than the other  alternatives we use quite commonly. It contains ten times more iron, and three times more vitamin C than cow milk. It contains protein as well as less fat content. Camel milk has greater contents of other vitamins and minerals, such as, potassium, phosphorus, zinc, iron and manganese.

Camel milk possesses unique, powerful immune-system components. Camel milk might potentially benefit for protection against certain auto-immune disease, and boost heart health, prevent diabetes, improve the immune system, stimulate circulation, treat autism, and lessens allergic reaction. 

The Camel Milk Association says it can be digested by people with lactose intolerance. Camel milk does not coagulate easily, even in an acidic environment such as in our stomach. Hence, it can easily get absorbed by our digestive system.

  • For diabetic patients

Low-fat camel milk not only contains healthy vitamins and minerals, but also is a rich source of insulin.  Dr. Hosom Habib, an expert in human nutrition said: “It also has an insulin effect, so it is good for those with both Type 1 and Type 2 diabetes. It has some protein with a molecular structure similar to insulin. People with diabetes will benefit from it. Camel milk contains fifty two units of insulin per liter, which is more than 60% of the average necessary external insulin administration for Type 1 diabetics. It’s, therefore, speculated that camel milk could help supplement insulin shots for Type 1 diabetics, in addition to its clear potential for diabetes prevention.

  • Immune-system

Camel milk contains various protective proteins, which may have the possible role of enhancing the immune defense mechanism. These protective proteins are mainly enzymes which exert anti-microbial and immunological properties. The role of immunoglobulin gives the immune protection to the body against infections.

  • Cancer

Camel milk contains a natural antibiotic called Lactoferrin; it could prove beneficial for those suffering from colon cancer

A research led by Dr. Hosom Habib, Lactoferrin, the main iron binding protein of the milk which showed a fifty six percent decline in cancer growth when applied to cancer cells.

Lactoferrin showed antioxidant activity, and could prevent DNA damage by binding catalytic.

  • Autism

Camel milk might prove to be beneficial for autistic children; autistic children who drinking camel milk have had an amazing improvement in their behaviour and diet. A study published in 2005 edition of the “Journal of human development” observed the effect of camel milk consumption, instead of cow milk, on autistic people. Researchers discovered that a four years old female participant drank camel milk for forty days, her autism symptoms disappeared. A fifteen years old boy also recovered after thirty days of drinking the milk. In addition, several autistic people twenty one years old consumed camel milk for two weeks, and were observed to be a quitter and less self- destructive. Researches show that autistic symptoms have been lessened, or erased completely when camel milk was taken regularly.

Camel milk was first mentioned in the Holy Scriptures as being a gift for hungry people, and a remedy for sickness. This claim is still valid today; it can be used as a medicine for various  diseases. Camel milk is a whole food- meaning it has enough nutrients to sustain a person through the day.


Still so busy: Give elders time before time flies


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The older people are never a burden, but a blessing and a source of Barakah for the home and the family. Their experience and life stories can enlighten you in a way that no book or novel ever can.


If you see anyone around yourself- please be a source of pleasure and help for them. Listen to them; they are the people who have no careers, no success, and no vacations to look forward to. The major portion of their life is past them. It’s them and their sickness. Imagine how depressing! If they are in your homes, or you know them by any other source, it becomes your responsibility and duty to look after them; make them feel important, and let them take part in everything that matters.


The best thing you can give them is your time, and your patience to understand them- even if they can’t hear you properly, are not able to remember anything that you told them the other day, their behaviour changes with you frequently, or if they require extra time to carry out the daily life tasks. Realize that this phase comes with physical as well as emotional weakness.

Before brushing off the thought aside, all of us should keep in mind that this age could come to us too; we are all aging, and if not now, but at one point in our lives, we might go through the same dilemma.


It’s when they leave you that you realize how much they have taught you, and how much effect their presence had- even if they were bedridden. When I lost my grandfather, I realized that there was no one who could replace him. After his death, I used to find folded  pages of useful articles in magazines and newspapers that he kept  for me to read, for which I never had the time when he was alive. He was the one who had all the time of the world to listen to my tantrums, laugh at my silly chatter, and share jokes with me. He would talk about his love for photography, his travelling experiences, and the things he learnt from them; never did he talk about his illnesses, or the pain he was in- but it was his love that made us all look after him.


Therefore, help them out- not because they need it- but because you can look after them, and do things for them; help them not because they are old and weak, but because you are young and active. Believe me these people can be your gateway to Jannah. You can take their prayers, and Duas, and conquer the world and hereafter.

The increasing number of old homes in our society is a clear indication that most of us have failed to consider them important, value their right to be respected, and no more recognize their part in our upbringing, well being and happiness.

The tales of the people there are heart wrenching; how their kids never come, and meet them; how they told them that they are useless once they retired, and how they promised to come back to pick them, but never did. On the other hand, it tells us about how more and more people are willing to take care of the ones who have been abandoned.


These words sum up what you attain and lose- if you take care of your elder ones, especially when they are your parents. A Hadeeth says:  May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both , attain old age during his life time, and he does not enter Jannah (by rendering being dutiful to them) (Muslim).

Date- A man’s mate


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Dates are a miracle food that gives us tons of benefits. They are packed with a host of nutrients that provide several benefits for health; it is eaten as a regular dry fruit by most of the people. Many people consume dates as a staple food.

Dates contain vitamins, minerals, protein and they are a good source of fruit sugar. . They also contain magnesium, sulphur, iron, potassium, phosphorous and chlorine. Dates are rich in fiber- they contain both fibers soluble and insoluble fiber. Soluble fiber helps to lower the level of cholesterol, and insoluble fiber prevents from constipation.

The American Nutrition Center recommends an intake of 20-30 grams of dietary fiber per day, which can be supplied through dates. Dates are also good for gaining weight.

Eating a dates in the morning on an empty stomach kills intestinal worms, and other parasities. It is narrated said that Allah’s (swt) Apostle (sa) said: “He who eats seven “Ajwa” dates every morning, will not be affected by poison, or magic on the day he eats them.” (Bukhari)

Why dates are useful for your health?

Bones strengthen

Calcium and magnesium are important elements for skeletal growth, and balancing the body bone structure. Dates contain high level of calcium and magnesium, which protect the body against bone weakness, and preventing from osteoporosis.

Rich in Iron

Dates contain iron, which is highly recommended for those who suffer from iron deficiency. Moreover, it is great for blood purification as well.

Great energy booster

Dates are a good source of sugar- this sugar is not glucose, which rapidly raises the level of blood sugar but the fruit’s built in sugar does not. Dates are considered as the perfect snacks for an immediate boost of energy.


Organic sulphur is present in dates. This is not a very common element to find in fruits. But, it has excessive health benefits, including the reduction of allergic reaction and seasonal allergies. Dates can fairly handle the problem of seasonal allergies with its benefits of organic sulphur.

Weight gain

Dates possess sugar protein and many essential vitamins, which are good for health. Thin and slim people who are willing to raise their weight eat dates in even number. One-kilogram dates contain 300 calories, and the calories are enough to fulfill the day demand of your body. Of course, you should not eat just dates throughout the day, but if u want to increase your weight, you need to eat it

Why break the fast with dates?

Breaking the fast with dates is a Sunnah. Breaking ones fast with dates, as well as, praying before Iftar, are both mentioned in the Hadeeth.

“The Messenger of Allah (sa) would break his fast with ripe dates, then he would pray. If those were not available, he would eat dried dates. If those were not available, he would drink some water”.

Breaking the fast with dates is considered healthy, because dates contain high level of natural sugars. Sugars travel most quickly to the liver, where they are converted into energy more quickly than any other nutrient. Muslims have an immediate need for this energy when they break their fast, for they need energy to perform their sunset prayers. Ironically, when a person eats, the body uses energy to digest the food. Eating large quantities of food immediately after fasting is not healthy for the body. Eating a date first helps the body start its digestive process, and gives it the energy to deal with the secondary, more complex foods, eaten during Iftar.

Dates are also high in vitamins, and thus,  eating dates daily during Ramadan is like taking a daily multivitamin. This daily multivitamin can create a stronger and healthier body  fit for fasting. Dates also have a special place in Islam. In fact, they were one of the Prophet’s (sa) most frequently consumed foods.

Rules of writing a “Will” in Islam


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We need to educate ourselves with the compulsory rules of writing a “will” in Islam.  The topic is huge, but I will try to be as brief as possible. If Allah (swt) wills.

  1. Allah’s (swt) prescription for the six

Allah (swt) has decided our will for six relationships- husband, wife, son, daughter, brother and sister. We “cannot” write anything for these relationships in our will. They will get what is written for them in the Quran.

  1. Charity in the will

Similarly, we cannot leave in charity more than “1/3” of our wealth. Remaining is the right of the above mentioned six relations.  Charity is recommended to be done within the lifetime.  Once we leave this world, we can part 1/3 of our wealth for charity.

  1. Remain just to daughters and wives

Sadly, daughters and wives do not receive their rightful shares from the inheritance. Allah (swt) has taken our right to make any changes in the will He has made for the above six relationships.

Anyone, changing Allah’s (swt) decision, shall be answerable to Him in the hereafter.

  1. Will vs. gift

Will and gift are different. Anything given when one is alive is a gift. All children must be given equal amount of gifts under Islam.

There is a narration of a Hadeeth by Al-Nu’man ibn Basheer, where he said that his father brought him to the Prophet (sa), when he gave him a gift, to ask the Prophet (Allah (sa) to bear witness to it. The Prophet (sa) asked: “Have you given something similar to all your children?” He said: “No.” He said: “Then take it back.” Then he said: “Fear Allah (swt) and treat your children fairly.”(Bukhari)

Allah (swt) has stressed again and again to divide the wealth after settling debts. Once the debts are settled, whatever is left, can be divided amongst the six relationships according to what is ordered in the Quran.

A person has authority of writing a will for 1/3 part or less from his wealth only.

  1. The Will formula

Formula:  Wealth – Debts – (Charity, if written in the will to the extent of 1/3 of the total amount left) OR (anyone can be given 1/3 of the total wealth if it is in the will. Relatives, needy and poor are recommended) = Wealth remaining for distribution among husband, wife, son, daughter, brother and sister.

  1. Distribution of wealth- in the light of Quran

With regard to the distribution of personal belongings, we do not have the right to state how they should be distributed after we die, because the share of each heir has been defined by Allah (swt), and He has explained who inherits and who does not inherit.

So, it is not permitted for any person to transgress the limits set by Allah (swt), because Allah (swt) has warned against doing that.

Allah (swt) says in Surah An-Nisa (interpretation of the meaning),

“Allah (swt) commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance): to the male, a portion equal to that of two females; if (there are) only daughters, two or more, their share is two-thirds of the inheritance; if only one, her share is a half. For parents, a sixth share of inheritance to each if the deceased left children; if no children, and the parents are the (only) heirs, the mother has a third; if the deceased left brothers or (sisters), the mother has a sixth. (The distribution in all cases is) after the payment of legacies he may have bequeathed or debts. You know not which of them, whether your parents or your children, are nearest to you in benefit; (these fixed shares) are ordained by Allah (swt). And Allah (swt)is Ever All‑Knower, All‑Wise.

In that which your wives leave, your share is a half if they have no child; but if they leave a child, you get a fourth of that which they leave after payment of legacies that they may have bequeathed or debts. In that which you leave, their (your wives) share is a fourth if you leave no child; but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts. If the man or woman whose inheritance is in question has left neither ascendants nor descendants, but has left a brother or a sister, each one of the two gets a sixth; but if more than two, they share in a third, after payment of legacies he (or she) may have bequeathed or debts, so that no loss is caused (to anyone). This is a Commandment from Allah (swt); and Allah (swt)is Ever All‑Knowing, Most‑Forbearing.

These are the limits (set by) Allah (swt)(or ordainments as regards laws of inheritance), and whosoever obeys Allah (swt)and His Messenger (Muhammad sa) will be admitted to Gardens under which rivers flow (in Paradise), to abide therein, and that will be the great success.

And whosoever disobeys Allah (swt) and His Messenger (Muhammad sa), and transgresses His limits, He will cast him into the Fire, to abide therein; and he shall have a disgraceful torment.” (An-Nisa 4:11-14)

  1. Wealth to nieces and nephews

There is no reason why we should not give our nephews and nieces whatever we want of our wealth whilst we are alive. As they are not our own children, we are not obliged to give to them all equally. We can give gifts to those whom we love, and to whoever we wish; or to whoever among them is in need according to his or her need. Try to give to those who are religiously committed in ways that will help them to obey Allah (swt). It is also permitted to leave to them one-third, or less of your wealth- so long as they are not your heirs.

  1. Alteration of the deceased will

It is permissible to alter a will by the heirs- only if- it is made against Allah’s (swt) orders, with the intent to protect the deceased from Allah’s (swt) wrath. Similarly, it is a great sin to alter a will for personal gains. It is a great sin to deprive anyone of his/her share of the will.

And Allah (swt) knows best.




Girls’ tales: I want to marry but….”

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Observing the struggles of young girls with pre and post marital life, I was forced to search the reasons of their constant strife.


  • Why marriage is such a pain in neck for the parents of girls?
  • And why unmarried girls who are in the perfect age to marry, or have crossed the perfect age, those who could not marry at all, or divorced women, have to live their lives in constant agony?
  • Does Islam enforce this ruling that a girl be married at a younger age- even if she does not find a suitable match?
  • Does Islam call for suppression of women through marriage?
  • Is it only the girl who has to be blamed if she is found guilty of hating, or being disobedient to her husband?

Let me explain you one thing before we move on to find answers to these questions; and the duty of the parents regarding this issue is that we should understand that Islam and Muslim culture are very distinct entities.


Islam is our religion, our belief, but Muslim culture is what we practice in our day to day life.

We Muslims, often confuse religion with our regional cultures- because somehow Islam is considered to be integrated deep in our lives- which on profound insight can reveal that Muslim culture is very different from Islam.


The core issue is that girls are mostly brought up in a way where their hymens are considered much more precious than they themselves. They are to be married as soon as possible so that parents can be acquitted from this responsibility of presenting the girl with her intact virginity to her true owners. In this quest of parents, most of the girls have to face numerous problems with their individuality, faith and lives which I am daring to address here. I will try to throw light on these problems one by one highlighting the points where parents need to ponder.


Firstly, parents have to remove the generation gap, and try to understand, and accept the challenges of the modern age with a new and fresher perspective. For example- when you are trying your best to protect the virginity of your girl in this generation, the old orthodox method of keeping her locked up (metaphor) at home can yield worst results in this contemporary age.


You cannot prevent them from falling into Fitnah, but you can help them learn how to get out of it. Give them a good (not strict) spiritual environment to grow up in, and then trust them with their choices; if you truly succeeded in bringing them up well, then you will never have to struggle with them at any age.


Secondly, parents have to let their daughters attain good religious education as well as best modern education possible. Most of the girls are deprived of education, or forced in to this by cultural criterion. Hence, a girl is not appreciated by family where you will hear things like: “Why study so much when you know you will end up doing household chores after marriage?” Or “Islam gives more importance to your husband and family than your education” or in worst case, “

You are a woman; your sole purpose is to raise children.” This kind of attitude towards your daughters will only cause them to rebel (a gift of modern age).


Islam gives rights to all

Islam gives all rights to women to get education, and marry whenever and whoever she wants to. I know that you are trying your best to convince your daughters; but convincing them that Islam orders you to do so, or our culture demands this, is yielding some serious consequences; where girls- whenever in their life given a chance- try to break free from these shackles of “religio-cultural” prison.


You may find real life examples of Aminah Wadod, Ayaan Ali and many other women like them who are now questioning the genuineness of Islam.


Thirdly, parents usually don’t aim to see the compatibility of both parties before marriage. A girl, if she is crossing the age of twenty, is forced into marriage- as parents fear that no one will accept her after this because our motto of marriage is “the younger the better”. This is very frustrating for young girls as they are married usually against their will. Despite of her difficulty to accept her marriage, she is forced to comply with her husband, and in-laws- no matter what; and again people take support of Islamic rulings, and tell her to bear all what comes because Allah (swt) and His messenger (sa) asked her to be obedient to her husband, and not to go against his will.


The avalanche behind ‘I do’

In this scenario, where she is married without her consent- a marriage for which she has to repress her dreams, or even herself. And, when she finds it difficult to cope with, she is told to be patient- as Islam demands wife to be submissive to her husband. The only refuge Allah (swt) and His messenger (sa) also become cruel and unjust in her eyes.


What do you think it will result in? Only in disobedience or “heresy” for which you can find numerous examples around you- when a married girl would be found guilty of extra marital affairs, hostility towards children, self-loathing and in extreme situation, suicide.


Marriage in Islam

Marriage in Islam is a very blessed act which aims to safeguard modesty, practice intimate love in a legal way, build a strong family, and a generation who would be spiritually, mentally, and physically strong enough to uphold and implement Islam in the entire world etc. But, my question for readers is that: Is today’s Muslim marriage fulfilling its objectives? A girl as a daughter, wife, and a mother is the most important part of a family; and when, this oppression and confusion becomes a part of her life- she can’t find an escape; she just chooses to give up life, which makes a huge impact on the society as a whole. Children brought up by such a mother would be spiritually dead and will just be another blemish on the Muslim Ummah.


My advice to parents is to get out of this mesh of religious teachings, and cultural norms. Learn true principles, and objectives of Islam; and neither be victims nor victimize your children with religion brimmed with cultural beliefs; and “enter Islam completely” to shun such grim culture.


The calm after the storm – Beautiful Dua

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And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqun.

(Al-Furqan 25:74)

 Our Master. Our Lord. Gift us. Grant us. In Quran we find ‘آتِنَا’ give us, ‘اعطنا’ to give a grand gift, gift us an expected gift, a beautiful gift,’ لَنَا هَبْ this is a gift you are asking Allah (swt) to give you; this prepositional phrase is brought earlier especially for us. We are asking for a special favour from Allah (swt), and what is this favour that we are asking of Allah (swtَ)? Grant us from our spouses, and not just our children which is ‘اولاد – ذُرِّيَّتِنَا’ future generations of us.

In other words, you are not even asking for your immediate children, but your lineage for generations to come. Grant us from all of them coolness of eyes.  Make our eyes cool by means of spouses, and by means of our children.

Afflicted by an indoor storm?

All of us  have to appreciate the power of this Dua because of the crisis of the world today. The world’s fundamental institution of family is under attack. Most of the people here, even Muslims are not immune to this problem.  You find refuge from the storm in your home. But today, the storm is not outside the house, the storm is inside the house, and you have to get away from home to get away from the yelling, the screaming, and the name calling, and the insults, and the depression, and the sadness, and the friction between husband and wife, and parent and children. Our homes are broken. Brother is not talking to brother. Parents are not talking to children. This is a crisis inside the home. The family has become a place of sorrow, of depression, of sadness, of anger, of rage.

So what’s the escape plan?

People feel like they want to escape this indoor storm, and here Allah (swt) tells us to ask so perfectly, so eloquently that the home should become the place of refuge.

It’s like the outside world is a storm, and you suffer on the outside, and your refuge, your safe haven is the door to your home, to your spouse, to your children. When you see them, your worries disappear. But for most of us, when you see them, your worries begin.

And so, we ask Allah (swt) to give us from our spouses, and our children- coolness of eyes, that’s what we ask Allah (swt). When somebody says I want to get married- go further, not just get married, I want to get married to a spouse that will cool my eyes. That I will be coolness of his/her eyes and he/she will be the coolness of mine. And, Allah (swt) took the Dua further, and then we understand why talk about future generations.إِمَامًا’لِلْمُتَّقِينَ ‘وَاجْعَلْنَا -and make us leaders over those who are cautious, conscious, fearful, pious, righteous. Those who are fearful before Allah (swt) and it makes you realize your relationship right now isn’t just about you.

Be the proud leader of your generation

You are setting a precedent in your family for generations to come. So, when you are not acting as good husbands, and good wives, and good parents, and good children- what are your future generations going to do? And, who is going to be answerable for that negative trend that was started by you? Who is going to be answerable for that? It’s an intelligent Dua that we should find coolness of our eyes- not only in our immediate family- but the future generations should be people that are righteous too.

Because, when we are raised on the Judgement day, we are Imam over the entire family- whether they were messed up or not.

We better ask for the kind of people if they are underneath us- not those who are dragging us down on the Judgement day- but those who are elevating us. And, we beg Allah (swt) that He gives all of us those kinds of families. I beg all of you sincerely that we all make this sincere Dua to Allah (swt)…

I sincerely pray that Allah (swt) gives all of us, and makes from our spouses, and our children those that our coolness of our eyes, and that he makes us Imam, a leader over those that are pious and righteous. May Allah (swt) forgive all of our shortcomings; accept all of our Dua, and make the means of our forgiveness easy upon us. Ameen.



Transcribed for hiba by Sarah Saqib Teli


Reality check- Assess your success!

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If I was going with a bunch of young men and women on the bus, and we drove by a beautiful mansion- just a gorgeous house on top of the hill; just an absolutely beautiful stunning house; and the driveway enters the house; the gorgeous car parked outside; and on the back of the house there is an incredible backyard, a swimming pool and whatever you can imagine  is there. As if a piece of Jannah on Earth. And, as we are driving through, we see the man walking into the house, and I ask these young men and women that: “Do you think that this guy is successful?” Overwhelmingly, what is going to be the response? “Yeah, pretty successful. Look at him- he is accomplished with many successful things.”

When you take a picture of someone graduating from a college, shaking hand with the President of university, and handed over their Degree of Diploma; and somebody asks that do you think that he is successful?

Muslims or non Muslims, everybody going to say that: “Sure! It is a kind of success”.

When somebody gets a job, it’s a kind of success. Sure, we congratulate them for getting good job.

When somebody buys a house; when somebody starts a new business; when somebody buys a new car; when people get married; people accomplish things in life, and we celebrate them because these are different kinds of small and big successes- isn’t that true?

So the bus keeps driving, and  we see a  homeless man whose living in a  cardboard box on the street, and it looks like he is wearing clothes from a couple of years, and you don’t want to go close to him because of the smell; and I ask my students if they think that guy is successful.

What do they say? They say he is not successful. Now imagine- I was riding in this bus but in this bus, there were not Muslim boys and girls; they were Christian boys and girls; or Jewish boys and girls; or Atheist boys and girls; or Buddhist boys and girls; and I ask them the same questions. Do you think their answers would be same? Yes, their answers will be the same! That’s the problem.

The problem is:

The way we think about Success, and the way we think about Failure- for Muslims, it is supposed to be different.

All human beings can see in a certain way- that’s fine! They have an apparent view of Success and Failure- but us Muslims, Allah (swt) has given us clear glasses;  and once you look reality through these glasses- you see something that other people cannot see. And, when you put those glasses on, and you start thinking about the Book of Allah (swt), and you realize that one of the most beautiful, captivating, magnificent homes that was ever built was the castle of Firon, and if our bus was driving by the house, and he was walking into his house, and I ask my Muslim children: “Is that man successful?” What would there answer be? Firon is not successful; He is one of the worst losers in the human history.

Who was second kind of the person we ran into? The homeless guy.

Ibrahim (as) was kicked out of his house. He was told to leave the house, and so he became homeless. Was he successful? He’s one of the most successful human beings that ever lived.

Now, the Quran is teaching that a homeless man is successful, and incredibly wealthy man is a loser- meaning “Success has nothing to do with wealth, and failure has nothing to do with poverty. “

Success and failure are different concepts for us than they are for everybody else.

Transcribed for hiba by Faiza Rizwan


‘Boys will be boys’- is a hoax!

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Are all men same?

The word ‘men’ tends to make ones insides churn with frustration;
and brings to mind all kinds of words like chauvinists, annoying, irritating

. They like limiting women in all spheres of life; are hungry for dominance over them, and consider it their moral ‘duty’ to subjugate the independent ones of today. God forbid, she decides that she wants to pursue a career and bring dishonour to the family!

A recent conversation that I had with my brother to shed some light on what’s really their ‘problem’. Recently, having learnt how to drive, I was ranting to him about how I should be allowed to drive myself to wherever I wanted to go. I accused him of being someone who couldn’t accept that women of today are independent, and don’t need men to get everything done- it’s something which irks them, making them feel like they’re losing the control, resulting in conflict between the two parties. However, that’s what I thought. What he had to say was something completely different, and I had to admit, unexpectedly.


‘We want to take responsibility for our women. That’s all.’

Looking at it from their perspective, I realised that their desire isn’t to lock us up in the house, slaving away to cooking food for them from dawn to dusk.

They just want to make sure that their women don’t need to be worried about the tiniest of things because they’ve taken care of it.

They’d rather be the ones to stand in the lines under the scorching heat to pay the utility bills, or to make sure that the car’s filled with gas, or that the kids are dropped to and picked from school at time- in case the driver decides to take an impromptu leave. They would rather be the ones to deal with the vicious world outside the safety and protection of the house, than have their beloved women go through it every single day. Not because they can’t deal with it because they’re too weak- but rather- because they’d themselves rather be the ones to bear the brunt.

I’m in no way saying that there aren’t men who are abusive, or inconsiderate- because unfortunately, that is far from the truth. Many women suffer from extreme pain at the hands of the men they love and care for. All I’m saying is that all of them aren’t like that, and a vast majority of them are misunderstood as a result of the actions of a few.

So, instead of bashing the men in our lives all the time, and calling them out for every little mistake they do, we need to cherish the thousands of little things they do, which go unnoticed by us. Being respectful towards them, and being mindful of what they do for us- will go a long way in simmering down heated arguments with them.

Lastly, let’s try to hear them out. We tend to form judgements about them without even knowing their part of the story- resulting in them feeling misunderstood, and bottled up feelings- which pop up in ugly forms later. Know that it isn’t it a competition, so let’s not make it one.

Summing it all up with the beautiful verse in the Quran,

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means…”(An-Nisa 4:34)

Let’s pray to Allah (swt) to make our men the leaders of the righteous, to give them the courage and strength to stand up for the right, and to protect them always. Ameen.


Life plays harder- Until you find the secret soft corner!

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Everybody goes through his own set of tribulations, and it’s very rare that people have a happy time all their life; such people are rare.

But Ibn Abbas (ra) said that the foundation of  Dunya ‘world’ is tribulation.

The best worship is waiting for the ease from Allah (swt) to come when you’re in hardship.

So if Muslims would just have that perspective, they would realize that if they are just patient here, with all these tribulations- it will surely pay off later in Jannah. While being patient, we are in Ibadah (worship); we can just be sitting in our house, and if you’re ‘Muhtasib’ (engaged in Hisba) with Allah (swt), you’re in Ibadah (worship of Allah (swt)).

But if, you are there complaining- why always me? And everything is horrible; and it’s doom and gloom; and it’s all black and it’s all dark; Allah (swt) will give you more things to complain about. And, He’ll give you some real things to complain about because there is a Hadeeth- if you complain about small calamities, Allah (swt) gives you greater calamities.

That’s why, Ibn Abbas (ra) said that in every Nikmah (tribulation), there are three Ni’mah (blessing); in every tribulation, there are three blessings.

And, the first one is that it could be worse than it is. That it’s in your worldly matters, and not in your Deen like if you lose money, its money; but if you lose Deen, you lost everything- so that’s a Ni’mah (blessing).

If you think about it, he didn’t say:  “Don’t give us any calamities,” he said: “Don’t give us tribulation in our Deen!” We’re going to get tribulation, and we know that, because that’s the nature of Dunya. So, you are going to get tribulation, but don’t make it in Deen- make it in Dunya. That’s a Ni’mah that you lost your job, Alhumdulillah. I didn’t miss my prayers, Alhumdulillah.  I didn’t lose my Iman (faith), Alhumdulillah. There is Wudhu (ablution) area, and a place to pray Alhumdulillah. Because jobs come and go, but Deen- once it’s gone, Allahu Alam (Allah (swt) knows best) if  you’ll ever get it back.

Then the final one, it’s in this world. As long as the Musibah (difficulty) is in this world- it’s a Ni’mah, because the real Musibah is the Musibah in the next world. Hence, if you look at that and realize, we are in blessing Wallahi- the whole lot of us; some may be more than others outwardly, but the whole of  Ummah is in blessing Wallahi….

Transcribed for Hiba by Faiza Rizwan

Powerful Dua of a parent

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In the name of Allah (swt), the most Beneficent, the most Merciful

All praises are for Allah (swt), the most Compassionate, the most Forgiving.

Salutations and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad (sa), his family and companions.

Oh Allah (swt), I submit myself to You.

I realize that parenting a child is a very difficult task, and I turn to You in humility for Your help.

I implore You for Your wisdom and guidance.

Oh Allah (swt), I know that our children are an Amanah from You, to care for and to raise in a manner that is pleasing to You.

Help me do that in the best way.

Teach me how to love in a way the You would want me to love.

Help me where I need to be healed, improved, nurtured, and made whole.

Help me walk with righteousness and integrity, so that You may always be pleased with me.

Allow me to be a God-fearing role model with all the communication, teaching, and nurturing skills that I may need.

Oh Allah (swt), You know what our children need. Help and guide us in praying for our children.

Oh Allah (swt), put a hedge of safety around our children. Protect their bodies, minds, and emotions from any kind of evil and harm.

Oh Allah (swt), I pray that You protect them from accidents, diseases, injuries, and any other physical, mental, or emotional afflictions and abuse.

Oh Allah (swt), I pray that You keep our children free from any addictions and vices.

Draw them close to You for protection from every ill and evil influence of our society, whether it’s apparent to us or not.

Oh Allah (swt), grant them the best of company as their friends — people who will inspire them to love and worship and obey You.

Oh Allah (swt), grant our children Hidayah, and a heart that loves to obey You.

Shine Your light on any secret or unseen rebellion in their hearts, and destroy it before it takes root.

Oh Allah (swt), guide them away from any pride, selfishness, jealousy, hypocrisy, malice, and greed and make them uncomfortable with sins.

Penetrate their hearts with Your love and reverence today and always.

Oh Allah (swt), make apparent to them the truth in any situation, and let them not be misled by falsehood.

Oh Allah (swt), grant our children the ability to make clear decisions, and let them always be attracted to good things that are pure, noble, true, and just.

Oh Allah (swt), guide them in making choices that please You.

Oh Allah (swt), help them to taste the sweetness of walking with a humble spirit in obedience and submission to You.

Oh Allah (swt), grant them the wisdom to choose their words carefully, and bless them with a generous and caring spirit.

Oh Allah (swt), I pray that they never stray from the path of Deen, and that You give them a future filled with Your best promises.

Oh Allah (swt), always keep our children cleansed, and pure from evil and Shayateen.

Oh Allah (swt), keep them steadfast in establishing Salah, and help them revere the Glorious Quran as Your Word and Law, and to read it with understanding daily. Let it be their source of light and guidance.

Oh Allah (swt), let our daughters love wearing Hijab, and our sons the dress of a humble Muslim.

Let their dress be a representation of their Iman, and of their love and respect for Your commands.

Lead them to a position where they rely truly on Your power alone, and fear You in the open and in secret.

Oh Allah (swt), make them so strong in their Deen that they never encounter doubt.

Oh Allah (swt), do not allow any negative attitudes in the place of our children’s lives.

Oh Allah (swt), guide our children in honouring and obeying You, Your Rasool (sa), and us as parents (when we are commanding that which is pleasing to You).

Make them the coolness of our eyes.

Oh Allah (swt), fill our children with compassion and caring that will overflow to each member of our family and society.

Oh Allah (swt), grant them piety.

Oh Allah (swt), help them love, value, appreciate, and respect one another with good communication between them always.

Oh Allah (swt), drive out any division between our children and bring them healing.

I pray there be no strain, breach, misunderstanding, arguing, fighting, or severing of ties.

Oh Allah (swt), allow them to one day marry righteous, God-fearing, kind, hard-working, intelligent, beautiful, healthy spouses who get along with each other, and respect and love (and genuinely enjoy) every member of our family and who lead our children (i.e. their spouses) even closer to You and Jannat ul Firdaus.

Oh Allah (swt), please grant me the company of pious friends, relatives, extended community members, and teachers who will be inspirational role models for my children, and will help me raise them to be the best of believers.

Oh Allah (swt), please don’t let me become self-satisfied and arrogant in my parenting, but please don’t humble me or shame me through my children’s misdeeds either. Please let me always give credit for their good character to You, and please don’t ever let me stop praying for them.

Oh Allah (swt), please don’t let my children be “late” in meeting any of life’s milestones that are expected of them.

Oh Allah (swt), protect my children from debt. Make them givers and not takers.

Oh Allah (swt), grant my children noble professions with Halal incomes that give them respect and dignity in Your Eyes, and in the eyes of their fellow human beings.

Oh Allah (swt), grant them worldly comfort and Aafiyah so that my children can come to You through the Door of Gratitude, and so that they are not forced to come to You through the Door of Patience. Please let them always be grateful and patient.

Oh Allah (swt), I pray for a close, loving, happy and fulfilling relationship with them for all the days of our lives, and to be reunited with them in Jannat ul Firdaus. آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ