Innovators in Islam: Say ‘Hello’ to Hellfire

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Today, everything is available online, and Muslims fall for anything- because of their lack of knowledge about Quran and Sunnah. This results in practicing rituals that were never practiced by the Prophet Muhammad (sa), or by his companions (rta). These practices are wrongly associated with Islam. If I even dare to mention all innovations that we see educated people practicing in the name of religion, people would declare war here. This extremism is also due to falling prey to Shaytan.

Muslims belonging to any sect have one thing in common, which joins all of them together in the end- Quran and Sunnah

. Anything out of it or in addition to it- has to be rejected by every single Muslim. We need to study Quran and Sunnah to correct our practices, and leave which are wrong.

The disbelievers of Quraish tribe in Prophet’s (sa) time didn’t accept Islam because they weren’t ready to leave the ways of their ancestors.

Today, we don’t want to leave the innovations that were introduced as part of Islam, and practiced by our ancestors.

Definition of Bid’ah – Innovation 

Bid’ah is a new thing, introduced to and made part of the Deen (Islam) that has no origin what so ever from the Quran or the Sunnah of RasulAllah (sa).

Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim write that there was some companions talking and the Prophet (sa) was listening. One of them said: ‘I will make prayers (Salah) all night long.’ The second said: ‘I will fast (Sawm) all the time.’ The third said: ‘I will never marry.’ When our Prophet  (sa) heard them say this, he said: ‘I am the most Allah (swt) conscious than any of you. I pray (Salah,) I fast (Sawm) as well, and I do marry women. And, who so turns his face from my Sunnah, cannot be of my Ummah’. (Mishkat, Muslim, Bukhari)

The reason why our Prophet (sa) stopped them from doing what they wanted to do was because it was against Sunnah (his way). Whatever we do which is against the way of our Prophets (sa) Sunnah is a Bid’ah Sayiah.

RasulAllah (sa) stated: “On the Day of Judgement, some people will come to me when I will be standing by Haudh-e-Kauser (Well). They will be grabbed and taken towards the Hellfire. I shall say: “These are my people,” but in reply I will be told: “These are the people who introduced innovations after you, so they are unbelievers.” (Bukhari, Muslim, Kitab-ul-Haudh)

A person once sent Salam to Abdullah Ibn Umar (rta) who replied: I do not accept his Salam, as this person has innovated by becoming Qadriyyah (A sect which does not believe in destiny) (Mishkat, Kitab-ul-Iman wa-al-Qadr, transmitted by Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah)

The above narration emphasizes upon the fact that Bid’ah is to hold such an Aqeedah which is in direct opposition to the Quran and Sunnah- i.e. to become Qadriyyah, Jabriyya etc.

RasulAllah (sa) stated: “Every innovation leads astray; and every creator of the astray goes in the Fire.” (Muslim)

An example of this Bid’ah is given by Hafidh Ibn Al-Qayyim who writes: ‘The one who denies the punishment of the grave is an innovator’. (Kitab-ur-Rooh)

Some people think that if they are just following someone else, as long as they themselves did not invent something, then their action is acceptable. This is not true; every person is responsible for being diligent in making sure their actions are correct. Emulating and following the Prophet (sa) is a Quranic obligation. Allah (swt), the Almighty says,

“Indeed in the Messenger of Allah (Muhammad (sa) you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in (the Meeting with) Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah much.” (Al-Ahzab 33:21)

Hadeeth about innovation in Deen (Bid’ah)

و كل بدعة ضلالة، وكل ضلالة في النار

And every innovation (in Deen) is misguidance, and all misguidance is in the Hellfire.

ہر بدعت گمراہی ہے اور گمراہی کا انجام جہنم ہے۔

( Muslim)

No doubt, it is obligatory for the Muslim to be a follower of his Prophet (sa) in what he prescribed; and it is not permissible for him to go against him, or to introduce any innovation in the religion for any reason whatsoever.

It is Bid’ah if…..

It should be noted that differing from the way of the Prophet (sa) and falling into Bid‘ah may mean one of two things:

  1. Introducing an act of worship for which there is no basis in Islam, such as touching graves and seeking help from their occupants. The scholars call this real innovation (Al-Bid‘ah Al-Haqeeqah). This is that which was not prescribed at all.
  1. The act of worship may be originally prescribed in Islam, and what is contrary to the Sunnah may have to do with defining a certain time or place for it, or a certain number of times it is to be repeated, or the manner in which it is to be done or the reason for which it is to be done. This is called innovation by addition (Al-Bid‘ah Al-Idafiyah); it is not Bid‘ah unless it is done regularly and repeatedly. If it is done only once or twice without adhering to that, then it is not Bid‘ah, such as if people pray Qiyam (night prayer) in congregation (Jam‘ah) on some occasion, without thinking that there is any particular virtue in doing so.

Common innovations of today

Some commonly seen innovations in today’s world which are passed on by the ancestors to modern day Muslims:

  1. Putting Quran on brides head during her Rukhsati.
  2. Ceremony of putting Quran first thing in a new office
  3. Mourning for the deceased on the tenth or fortieth day after his death.
  4. Putting finger in the grave right after burial and reciting selected verses for his protection in the grave.
  5. Putting perfume, Zamzam and other things in the grave.
  6. Celebrating special nights that are or are not mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, and believing it is part of Islam.
  7. Wearing amulets for protection.
  8. Sacrificing animals in the name of saints.
  9. Celebrating birthdays of Prophets or Saints.
  10. Making monuments on graves or making solid graves.
  11. Believing in the altered concept of Tawassul.
  12. Believing in the Sufi methodology, their Tarikat such as believing that Allah (swt) can only be approached with the help of a Sheikh (Na’uzu billah)
  13. Singing Qawali- thinking it is part of Islam.
  14. Doing Tasbeeh on pebbles, and stones alone, or in a group.
  15. Making additional conditions of Salah which were never part of Sunnah.

Sadly, the innovations are increasing and the tolerance is decreasing. We refuse to listen to anyone else, and want to stick to whatever we do without even trying to open the book of Quran and Sunnah. This is how stubborn we have become.

When it comes to Bid’ah- those who are involved in it that have to prove its authenticity from Quran or Sunnah, not the other way around

. But if some persist, then my proof for classifying all the above as Bid’ah is that we do not find any reference to these actions in the Quran or authentic Ahadeeth which is classified as Sahih.


Note: If there is any error in the above list, then it is from me and Shaytan. I ask Allah (swt) for forgiveness for the mistakes and sins that we know, and for those that we do not know. And I ask Allah (swt) for guidance, mercy, faith, and compassion for all of us. Ameen.



Compass in the Ant’s Eye




We need guides to show us the direction when we travel to another country, or another city. In particular, when we do not know the place we are going to, we definitely must have a compass and a map. Map shows us where we are, and the compass shows us which way to go. We find the way by using these tools, and consulting other people so we do not get lost. Have you ever wondered how other creatures find their way? Have you ever thought how an ant seeking food in the desert returns to its nest?


Black desert ants inhabiting the Mediterranean coasts of Tunisia are among those creatures who build their nests in the desert.

These ants are very good at finding their way in the vast desert, and getting back to their nests without the help of a compass or a map.


As the sun rises, temperatures in the desert reach up to 70 degrees Celsius (158 degrees Fahrenheit). The ant leaves its nest to find food in the heat of the day. Frequently halting and turning around itself, it follows a devious route within an area that may be 200 meters (655 feet) away from the nest. You may see this route on the map. But do not think that the ant will get lost because of these zigzags. Once it finds a source of food, the ant follows a straight course and returns to the nest. With respect to their sizes, this journey of the ant may be compared to a man’s returning to his starting point taking a straight course after wandering 35-40 kilometers (22-25 miles) away from that point in the desert.



How is it that an ant successfully does a task that is virtually impossible for a human?


It cannot be that the ant finds its direction by looking at objects. Signs and way-marks such as trees, rocks, rivers or lakes which help one find the way are quite rare in the desert. There is only sand all around. Even if there were such signs, it would not make any difference, since it is not possible for an ant to keep these signs in mind, to memorize where they are, and to use them while finding its way. Thinking about it this way, one can better understand the significance of the task that the ant performs. The ant can perform this difficult task thanks to the special body structure it has been given.


There is a special direction-determination system in the ant’s eyes. This system that Allah (swt) placed in the ant’s eyes is more advanced than mechanical devices that determine direction.

Being able to perceive some rays that we cannot, the ant can determine directions, and know where north and south are. Thanks to this ability, it is not difficult at all for the ant to estimate where its nest is, and to return to it.


Human beings have lately become aware of the characteristics of light. However, the ant has known and used a characteristic of light, which was unknown to human beings, since it was born. Certainly, such a perfect structure as the eye of this ant cannot be attributed to random coincidences. The eyes of the ant must have been so since it came into existence. Otherwise, the ant could not have returned to the nest in the desert heat, and could not have survived. Indeed, eyes of all desert ants have been equipped with this system since the first day they came into existence. Allah (swt), the All-Knowing, created these eyes for them.

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Camel milk- The new hope

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Camel milk has been used for thousands of years. Although, camel milk is not  high in supply as cow milk- but it has a number of clear advantages over the more common supplies of milk- including more powerful nutrients, and better chemical compounds.

Camel milk has a distinct taste that’s slightly saltier, and more watery than other familiar milk varieties.

Due to its distinct taste, camel milk may not be people’s first choice on their breakfast. Camel milk is a great dairy substitute for people who cannot have regularly dairy product.

Medicinal use of camel milk

Camel milk has been used medicinally for centuries by nomadic people. There is a Hadeeth narrated by Anas (ra) – some people were sick and they said: “O Allah’s Apsotle (sa)! Give us shelter and food. So, when they become healthy, they said: “The weather of Madinah is not suitable for us.” Prophet (sa) sent them to Al-Harra with some she-camels of his and said: “Drink of their milk,” but when they became healthy, they killed the shepherd of the Prophet (sa) and drove away his camels. The Prophet (sa) sent some people in their pursuit. Then, he got their hands and feet cut; and their eyes were branded with heated pieces of iron. I saw one of them licking the earth with his tongue till he died. (Bukhari)

Camel milk is closest to human mother’s milk, which means that it gives us an ideal nutritive mixture, with many  benefits for our body than the other  alternatives we use quite commonly. It contains ten times more iron, and three times more vitamin C than cow milk. It contains protein as well as less fat content. Camel milk has greater contents of other vitamins and minerals, such as, potassium, phosphorus, zinc, iron and manganese.

Camel milk possesses unique, powerful immune-system components. Camel milk might potentially benefit for protection against certain auto-immune disease, and boost heart health, prevent diabetes, improve the immune system, stimulate circulation, treat autism, and lessens allergic reaction. 

The Camel Milk Association says it can be digested by people with lactose intolerance. Camel milk does not coagulate easily, even in an acidic environment such as in our stomach. Hence, it can easily get absorbed by our digestive system.

  • For diabetic patients

Low-fat camel milk not only contains healthy vitamins and minerals, but also is a rich source of insulin.  Dr. Hosom Habib, an expert in human nutrition said: “It also has an insulin effect, so it is good for those with both Type 1 and Type 2 diabetes. It has some protein with a molecular structure similar to insulin. People with diabetes will benefit from it. Camel milk contains fifty two units of insulin per liter, which is more than 60% of the average necessary external insulin administration for Type 1 diabetics. It’s, therefore, speculated that camel milk could help supplement insulin shots for Type 1 diabetics, in addition to its clear potential for diabetes prevention.

  • Immune-system

Camel milk contains various protective proteins, which may have the possible role of enhancing the immune defense mechanism. These protective proteins are mainly enzymes which exert anti-microbial and immunological properties. The role of immunoglobulin gives the immune protection to the body against infections.

  • Cancer

Camel milk contains a natural antibiotic called Lactoferrin; it could prove beneficial for those suffering from colon cancer

A research led by Dr. Hosom Habib, Lactoferrin, the main iron binding protein of the milk which showed a fifty six percent decline in cancer growth when applied to cancer cells.

Lactoferrin showed antioxidant activity, and could prevent DNA damage by binding catalytic.

  • Autism

Camel milk might prove to be beneficial for autistic children; autistic children who drinking camel milk have had an amazing improvement in their behaviour and diet. A study published in 2005 edition of the “Journal of human development” observed the effect of camel milk consumption, instead of cow milk, on autistic people. Researchers discovered that a four years old female participant drank camel milk for forty days, her autism symptoms disappeared. A fifteen years old boy also recovered after thirty days of drinking the milk. In addition, several autistic people twenty one years old consumed camel milk for two weeks, and were observed to be a quitter and less self- destructive. Researches show that autistic symptoms have been lessened, or erased completely when camel milk was taken regularly.

Camel milk was first mentioned in the Holy Scriptures as being a gift for hungry people, and a remedy for sickness. This claim is still valid today; it can be used as a medicine for various  diseases. Camel milk is a whole food- meaning it has enough nutrients to sustain a person through the day.


Still so busy: Give elders time before time flies


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The older people are never a burden, but a blessing and a source of Barakah for the home and the family. Their experience and life stories can enlighten you in a way that no book or novel ever can.


If you see anyone around yourself- please be a source of pleasure and help for them. Listen to them; they are the people who have no careers, no success, and no vacations to look forward to. The major portion of their life is past them. It’s them and their sickness. Imagine how depressing! If they are in your homes, or you know them by any other source, it becomes your responsibility and duty to look after them; make them feel important, and let them take part in everything that matters.


The best thing you can give them is your time, and your patience to understand them- even if they can’t hear you properly, are not able to remember anything that you told them the other day, their behaviour changes with you frequently, or if they require extra time to carry out the daily life tasks. Realize that this phase comes with physical as well as emotional weakness.

Before brushing off the thought aside, all of us should keep in mind that this age could come to us too; we are all aging, and if not now, but at one point in our lives, we might go through the same dilemma.


It’s when they leave you that you realize how much they have taught you, and how much effect their presence had- even if they were bedridden. When I lost my grandfather, I realized that there was no one who could replace him. After his death, I used to find folded  pages of useful articles in magazines and newspapers that he kept  for me to read, for which I never had the time when he was alive. He was the one who had all the time of the world to listen to my tantrums, laugh at my silly chatter, and share jokes with me. He would talk about his love for photography, his travelling experiences, and the things he learnt from them; never did he talk about his illnesses, or the pain he was in- but it was his love that made us all look after him.


Therefore, help them out- not because they need it- but because you can look after them, and do things for them; help them not because they are old and weak, but because you are young and active. Believe me these people can be your gateway to Jannah. You can take their prayers, and Duas, and conquer the world and hereafter.

The increasing number of old homes in our society is a clear indication that most of us have failed to consider them important, value their right to be respected, and no more recognize their part in our upbringing, well being and happiness.

The tales of the people there are heart wrenching; how their kids never come, and meet them; how they told them that they are useless once they retired, and how they promised to come back to pick them, but never did. On the other hand, it tells us about how more and more people are willing to take care of the ones who have been abandoned.


These words sum up what you attain and lose- if you take care of your elder ones, especially when they are your parents. A Hadeeth says:  May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both , attain old age during his life time, and he does not enter Jannah (by rendering being dutiful to them) (Muslim).

Date- A man’s mate


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Dates are a miracle food that gives us tons of benefits. They are packed with a host of nutrients that provide several benefits for health; it is eaten as a regular dry fruit by most of the people. Many people consume dates as a staple food.

Dates contain vitamins, minerals, protein and they are a good source of fruit sugar. . They also contain magnesium, sulphur, iron, potassium, phosphorous and chlorine. Dates are rich in fiber- they contain both fibers soluble and insoluble fiber. Soluble fiber helps to lower the level of cholesterol, and insoluble fiber prevents from constipation.

The American Nutrition Center recommends an intake of 20-30 grams of dietary fiber per day, which can be supplied through dates. Dates are also good for gaining weight.

Eating a dates in the morning on an empty stomach kills intestinal worms, and other parasities. It is narrated said that Allah’s (swt) Apostle (sa) said: “He who eats seven “Ajwa” dates every morning, will not be affected by poison, or magic on the day he eats them.” (Bukhari)

Why dates are useful for your health?

Bones strengthen

Calcium and magnesium are important elements for skeletal growth, and balancing the body bone structure. Dates contain high level of calcium and magnesium, which protect the body against bone weakness, and preventing from osteoporosis.

Rich in Iron

Dates contain iron, which is highly recommended for those who suffer from iron deficiency. Moreover, it is great for blood purification as well.

Great energy booster

Dates are a good source of sugar- this sugar is not glucose, which rapidly raises the level of blood sugar but the fruit’s built in sugar does not. Dates are considered as the perfect snacks for an immediate boost of energy.


Organic sulphur is present in dates. This is not a very common element to find in fruits. But, it has excessive health benefits, including the reduction of allergic reaction and seasonal allergies. Dates can fairly handle the problem of seasonal allergies with its benefits of organic sulphur.

Weight gain

Dates possess sugar protein and many essential vitamins, which are good for health. Thin and slim people who are willing to raise their weight eat dates in even number. One-kilogram dates contain 300 calories, and the calories are enough to fulfill the day demand of your body. Of course, you should not eat just dates throughout the day, but if u want to increase your weight, you need to eat it

Why break the fast with dates?

Breaking the fast with dates is a Sunnah. Breaking ones fast with dates, as well as, praying before Iftar, are both mentioned in the Hadeeth.

“The Messenger of Allah (sa) would break his fast with ripe dates, then he would pray. If those were not available, he would eat dried dates. If those were not available, he would drink some water”.

Breaking the fast with dates is considered healthy, because dates contain high level of natural sugars. Sugars travel most quickly to the liver, where they are converted into energy more quickly than any other nutrient. Muslims have an immediate need for this energy when they break their fast, for they need energy to perform their sunset prayers. Ironically, when a person eats, the body uses energy to digest the food. Eating large quantities of food immediately after fasting is not healthy for the body. Eating a date first helps the body start its digestive process, and gives it the energy to deal with the secondary, more complex foods, eaten during Iftar.

Dates are also high in vitamins, and thus,  eating dates daily during Ramadan is like taking a daily multivitamin. This daily multivitamin can create a stronger and healthier body  fit for fasting. Dates also have a special place in Islam. In fact, they were one of the Prophet’s (sa) most frequently consumed foods.

Rules of writing a “Will” in Islam


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We need to educate ourselves with the compulsory rules of writing a “will” in Islam.  The topic is huge, but I will try to be as brief as possible. If Allah (swt) wills.

  1. Allah’s (swt) prescription for the six

Allah (swt) has decided our will for six relationships- husband, wife, son, daughter, brother and sister. We “cannot” write anything for these relationships in our will. They will get what is written for them in the Quran.

  1. Charity in the will

Similarly, we cannot leave in charity more than “1/3” of our wealth. Remaining is the right of the above mentioned six relations.  Charity is recommended to be done within the lifetime.  Once we leave this world, we can part 1/3 of our wealth for charity.

  1. Remain just to daughters and wives

Sadly, daughters and wives do not receive their rightful shares from the inheritance. Allah (swt) has taken our right to make any changes in the will He has made for the above six relationships.

Anyone, changing Allah’s (swt) decision, shall be answerable to Him in the hereafter.

  1. Will vs. gift

Will and gift are different. Anything given when one is alive is a gift. All children must be given equal amount of gifts under Islam.

There is a narration of a Hadeeth by Al-Nu’man ibn Basheer, where he said that his father brought him to the Prophet (sa), when he gave him a gift, to ask the Prophet (Allah (sa) to bear witness to it. The Prophet (sa) asked: “Have you given something similar to all your children?” He said: “No.” He said: “Then take it back.” Then he said: “Fear Allah (swt) and treat your children fairly.”(Bukhari)

Allah (swt) has stressed again and again to divide the wealth after settling debts. Once the debts are settled, whatever is left, can be divided amongst the six relationships according to what is ordered in the Quran.

A person has authority of writing a will for 1/3 part or less from his wealth only.

  1. The Will formula

Formula:  Wealth – Debts – (Charity, if written in the will to the extent of 1/3 of the total amount left) OR (anyone can be given 1/3 of the total wealth if it is in the will. Relatives, needy and poor are recommended) = Wealth remaining for distribution among husband, wife, son, daughter, brother and sister.

  1. Distribution of wealth- in the light of Quran

With regard to the distribution of personal belongings, we do not have the right to state how they should be distributed after we die, because the share of each heir has been defined by Allah (swt), and He has explained who inherits and who does not inherit.

So, it is not permitted for any person to transgress the limits set by Allah (swt), because Allah (swt) has warned against doing that.

Allah (swt) says in Surah An-Nisa (interpretation of the meaning),

“Allah (swt) commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance): to the male, a portion equal to that of two females; if (there are) only daughters, two or more, their share is two-thirds of the inheritance; if only one, her share is a half. For parents, a sixth share of inheritance to each if the deceased left children; if no children, and the parents are the (only) heirs, the mother has a third; if the deceased left brothers or (sisters), the mother has a sixth. (The distribution in all cases is) after the payment of legacies he may have bequeathed or debts. You know not which of them, whether your parents or your children, are nearest to you in benefit; (these fixed shares) are ordained by Allah (swt). And Allah (swt)is Ever All‑Knower, All‑Wise.

In that which your wives leave, your share is a half if they have no child; but if they leave a child, you get a fourth of that which they leave after payment of legacies that they may have bequeathed or debts. In that which you leave, their (your wives) share is a fourth if you leave no child; but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts. If the man or woman whose inheritance is in question has left neither ascendants nor descendants, but has left a brother or a sister, each one of the two gets a sixth; but if more than two, they share in a third, after payment of legacies he (or she) may have bequeathed or debts, so that no loss is caused (to anyone). This is a Commandment from Allah (swt); and Allah (swt)is Ever All‑Knowing, Most‑Forbearing.

These are the limits (set by) Allah (swt)(or ordainments as regards laws of inheritance), and whosoever obeys Allah (swt)and His Messenger (Muhammad sa) will be admitted to Gardens under which rivers flow (in Paradise), to abide therein, and that will be the great success.

And whosoever disobeys Allah (swt) and His Messenger (Muhammad sa), and transgresses His limits, He will cast him into the Fire, to abide therein; and he shall have a disgraceful torment.” (An-Nisa 4:11-14)

  1. Wealth to nieces and nephews

There is no reason why we should not give our nephews and nieces whatever we want of our wealth whilst we are alive. As they are not our own children, we are not obliged to give to them all equally. We can give gifts to those whom we love, and to whoever we wish; or to whoever among them is in need according to his or her need. Try to give to those who are religiously committed in ways that will help them to obey Allah (swt). It is also permitted to leave to them one-third, or less of your wealth- so long as they are not your heirs.

  1. Alteration of the deceased will

It is permissible to alter a will by the heirs- only if- it is made against Allah’s (swt) orders, with the intent to protect the deceased from Allah’s (swt) wrath. Similarly, it is a great sin to alter a will for personal gains. It is a great sin to deprive anyone of his/her share of the will.

And Allah (swt) knows best.




Girls’ tales: I want to marry but….”

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Observing the struggles of young girls with pre and post marital life, I was forced to search the reasons of their constant strife.


  • Why marriage is such a pain in neck for the parents of girls?
  • And why unmarried girls who are in the perfect age to marry, or have crossed the perfect age, those who could not marry at all, or divorced women, have to live their lives in constant agony?
  • Does Islam enforce this ruling that a girl be married at a younger age- even if she does not find a suitable match?
  • Does Islam call for suppression of women through marriage?
  • Is it only the girl who has to be blamed if she is found guilty of hating, or being disobedient to her husband?

Let me explain you one thing before we move on to find answers to these questions; and the duty of the parents regarding this issue is that we should understand that Islam and Muslim culture are very distinct entities.


Islam is our religion, our belief, but Muslim culture is what we practice in our day to day life.

We Muslims, often confuse religion with our regional cultures- because somehow Islam is considered to be integrated deep in our lives- which on profound insight can reveal that Muslim culture is very different from Islam.


The core issue is that girls are mostly brought up in a way where their hymens are considered much more precious than they themselves. They are to be married as soon as possible so that parents can be acquitted from this responsibility of presenting the girl with her intact virginity to her true owners. In this quest of parents, most of the girls have to face numerous problems with their individuality, faith and lives which I am daring to address here. I will try to throw light on these problems one by one highlighting the points where parents need to ponder.


Firstly, parents have to remove the generation gap, and try to understand, and accept the challenges of the modern age with a new and fresher perspective. For example- when you are trying your best to protect the virginity of your girl in this generation, the old orthodox method of keeping her locked up (metaphor) at home can yield worst results in this contemporary age.


You cannot prevent them from falling into Fitnah, but you can help them learn how to get out of it. Give them a good (not strict) spiritual environment to grow up in, and then trust them with their choices; if you truly succeeded in bringing them up well, then you will never have to struggle with them at any age.


Secondly, parents have to let their daughters attain good religious education as well as best modern education possible. Most of the girls are deprived of education, or forced in to this by cultural criterion. Hence, a girl is not appreciated by family where you will hear things like: “Why study so much when you know you will end up doing household chores after marriage?” Or “Islam gives more importance to your husband and family than your education” or in worst case, “

You are a woman; your sole purpose is to raise children.” This kind of attitude towards your daughters will only cause them to rebel (a gift of modern age).


Islam gives rights to all

Islam gives all rights to women to get education, and marry whenever and whoever she wants to. I know that you are trying your best to convince your daughters; but convincing them that Islam orders you to do so, or our culture demands this, is yielding some serious consequences; where girls- whenever in their life given a chance- try to break free from these shackles of “religio-cultural” prison.


You may find real life examples of Aminah Wadod, Ayaan Ali and many other women like them who are now questioning the genuineness of Islam.


Thirdly, parents usually don’t aim to see the compatibility of both parties before marriage. A girl, if she is crossing the age of twenty, is forced into marriage- as parents fear that no one will accept her after this because our motto of marriage is “the younger the better”. This is very frustrating for young girls as they are married usually against their will. Despite of her difficulty to accept her marriage, she is forced to comply with her husband, and in-laws- no matter what; and again people take support of Islamic rulings, and tell her to bear all what comes because Allah (swt) and His messenger (sa) asked her to be obedient to her husband, and not to go against his will.


The avalanche behind ‘I do’

In this scenario, where she is married without her consent- a marriage for which she has to repress her dreams, or even herself. And, when she finds it difficult to cope with, she is told to be patient- as Islam demands wife to be submissive to her husband. The only refuge Allah (swt) and His messenger (sa) also become cruel and unjust in her eyes.


What do you think it will result in? Only in disobedience or “heresy” for which you can find numerous examples around you- when a married girl would be found guilty of extra marital affairs, hostility towards children, self-loathing and in extreme situation, suicide.


Marriage in Islam

Marriage in Islam is a very blessed act which aims to safeguard modesty, practice intimate love in a legal way, build a strong family, and a generation who would be spiritually, mentally, and physically strong enough to uphold and implement Islam in the entire world etc. But, my question for readers is that: Is today’s Muslim marriage fulfilling its objectives? A girl as a daughter, wife, and a mother is the most important part of a family; and when, this oppression and confusion becomes a part of her life- she can’t find an escape; she just chooses to give up life, which makes a huge impact on the society as a whole. Children brought up by such a mother would be spiritually dead and will just be another blemish on the Muslim Ummah.


My advice to parents is to get out of this mesh of religious teachings, and cultural norms. Learn true principles, and objectives of Islam; and neither be victims nor victimize your children with religion brimmed with cultural beliefs; and “enter Islam completely” to shun such grim culture.


Cool Fathers, Super Sons!

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Do distinguished fathers grow out of the soil? What is the formula of extraordinary fatherhood? And how is it achieved? Here’s how it all begins.

Selection criteria for the right husband

The Prophet (sa) said: “If anyone comes to you and you’re pleased with their Deen (religious following) and Khuluq (character), marry them! If you don’t, there will be corruption and great harm on the Earth.” (Tirmidhi)

There’s no mention of the man’s academic excellence, income, bank balance, size of family, or looks – the criteria we feel is exceedingly important today when marrying off our girls.

What fills the scales of standard is a man’s comprehension and commitment to the application of his Deen; a man who stands out in terms of a lofty character, as he will have the final say in the house, establishing the same benchmark for the rest of the family. Being the Ameer (leader) of his family, he is one level above his wife; hence, besides having Taqwa (God-consciousness), he is also required to demonstrate high mannerisms.

Living by the Nikah

The Khutbah-e-Nikah (marriage sermon) states: “O you who believe! Fear Allah (by doing all that He has ordered and by abstaining from all that He has forbidden) as He should be feared. [Obey Him, be thankful to Him, and remember Him always], and die not except in a state of Islam (as Muslims) with complete submission to Allah.” (Al-Imran 3:102)

Multiple disputes can be resolved when spouses check themselves against the above command of Taqwa and complete submission to Allah (swt). This Ayah specifies what the state of a believer should be at the time of death.

“O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam) and from him (Adam) He created his wife (Hawwa) and from them both He created many men and women; and fear Allah through Whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship). Surely Allah is Ever an All-Watcher over you.” (An-Nisa 4:1)

This Ayah clarifies what should a believer’s relationship be with his Rabb (Lord).

“O you who believe! Keep your duty to Allah and fear Him, and speak (always) the truth. He will direct you to righteous good deeds and will forgive you your sins. And whosoever obeys Allah and His messenger (sa), he has indeed achieved a great achievement.” (Al-Ahzab 33:70-71)

This Ayah demands the kind of communication a believer should have with the others. If the above three conditions are met, Allah (swt) will take care of the rest for His slave.

The role of a father

When applying their parenting skills, fathers generally refer first to common sense, next to culture, and period. How many of them ever read about their roles as fathers in the Quran and the Sunnah? Do they invest time in themselves to become improved fathers and better deliver their roles?

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Have We Failed Our Sons?

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“Beta, your wedding is just around the corner. You are about to become a member of another family. Treat them like your own. Be patient if there is something you dislike about your husband or in-laws. Always be nice to your Saas (mother-in-law). When your husband returns home in the evening, take care of his needs, dress up for him, serve him a delicious meal…”

As daughters or granddaughters, most of us have heard such statements of advice from our elders at the time of marriage. And rightly so. The question arises: do the sons receive a similar set of instructions at the time of tying the knot? Experience and probe tells us that boys seldom receive such advice. Generally, the onus of keeping a marriage intact is more on the wife than the husband. And when the marriage passes through turbulent waters, the wife is the first to be held responsible for not being patient, grateful, dutiful… while not putting much blame on the one responsible for manoeuvring the boat. Have we placed too much of a burden on the daughters as compared to our sons when it comes to balancing relationships in a marriage? Are we, as their elders, to be blamed for not grooming our sons into responsible husbands and fathers? Do we only preach them to be dutiful sons, while neglecting their commitments towards other relations? Have we failed our sons?

An interesting aspect is that we want our son-in-law to be the most perfect husband, but when it comes to our own sons, we take a somersault. If our son-in-law is kind and affectionate towards our daughter, he is showered with praises and declared to be the best husband on earth. But when our son displays the same attitude towards his wife, we say he is a Zann Mureed (henpecked husband). Double standards!

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Lives and Legacies of Fathers and Sons

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“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” (Pablo Picasso) But how do people find their gifts? Allah (swt) inspires hearts through different means. Some are motivated simply by observing the magnificent signs of Allah (swt) in His creations. Others are guided by the turn of events in their lives. Yet for some it is the role models around them that lead them to a higher purpose.

When we explore the men in our history, almost all of them are found to be leading their kith and kin to higher lives. It was not their mission to earn careers and leave behind monetary legacies. It was their centre of focus to raise a child who was God-fearing, chivalrous, and intelligently serving the community. And many of them naturally began with their own sons, students, or subjects. Following are some incredible stories and incidents:

  1. Motivation for memorization

Ibrahim Ibn Adham narrated that his father offered him one Dirham to memorize one Hadeeth as a reward.

  1. Naseehah from a child

A boy came to Caliph Umar Ibn Abdul-Aziz (rtam) with a group and started talking. Umar Ibn Abdul-Aziz asked (rtam): “Is there any elder person in your group?” The boy replied: “A man is known by his heart and tongue not by his age. Otherwise, you would not have been the Khalifah.” Umar Ibn Abdul-Aziz (rtam) agreed: “You are correct. Please proceed.” This boy was eleven years old. At the end of the conversation, Umar (rtam) said: “Give me some Naseeha.” The boy did.

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The Alchemy of Happiness

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Imam Al-Ghazali – Muslim theologian, jurist, philosopher, and mystic of Persian descent

The alchemy of happiness is a guide to transform the essence of man from baseness to the purity of the angelic state. This transformation is through increasing one’s knowledge of Allah (swt). However, before you can begin to know Allah (swt), you must first know yourself. This starts with the understanding of a human being’s two distinct components:

  • The body
  • The heart (the spiritual heart)

There are five steps to understand the heart:

  1. Recognize its existence.
  2. Know its true nature: The heart works to seek happiness through the knowledge of Allah (swt), which it acquires through the knowledge of Allah (swt)’s creation.
  3. The body is a kingdom: The body is a kingdom and within it, the limbs and organs are its workers.
    1. Appetite is the tax collector;
    2. Anger is the policeman;
    3. Intellect is the Chief Minister;
    4. The heart is the king.

The body is in a constant spiritual struggle between being held captive by appetite and anger and using them as a weapon to attain spiritual fulfillment. If the heart acts at the advice of the intellect and keeps appetite and anger under control, a part of happiness will be made accessible. But if the intellect becomes a prisoner of anger and appetite, the kingdom will become desperate, and the heart will be destroyed.

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Is Allah (swt) Happy with Me?

How can a believer tell that Allah (swt) is happy with him? Is there any sign?

If a person is doing what pleases Allah (swt), then he or she should feel that He is happy with him or her; otherwise, what was the point of Allah (swt) telling us to do what pleases Him? We don’t have to wait for any divine sign like a bolt of lightning from the heaven, stars, and so on. It is enough to know and feel certain that we are doing what pleases Allah (swt).

How does Islam describe happiness? Are there any examples from lives of the Sahabahs? Does our present-day definition of happiness differ from that of Islam?

Happiness is when we experience a state of emotional and spiritual satisfaction or pleasure, which is the ultimate happiness. We know from the lives of the Sahabahs that they were happy in the presence of the Prophet (sa). They were happy even in giving away their lives, when needed, for Allah’s (swt) pleasure.

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New Mommies: Beware and Prepare!

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  1. Keep your energy level boosted.

Breastfeeding, sleepless nights, unexpected visitors, home chores, and tending to older kids’ needs is undoubtedly taxing. This might not be a very suitable time to crash diet or dream of fitting back into your wedding gown. Please eat nutritious home-cooked food, fruits, nuts, vegetables, and energy-boosting snacks. Keep them handy in your bedroom. An already fatigued mind and body cannot afford to starve. The outcome is frequent ailments, horrible mood swings, and strained relationships. Later, as you mature from being a new mommy to a veteran, you will manage your diet more effectively and shed the extra pounds, too.

  1. Let the Iman thrive.

A new mother has a myriad of emotions bottled up. They can whip up a storm of tears. At other times, they may send her on a guilt trip. The changing body and volatile hormones are no help either. And, of course, Shaitan strikes with full force seeding evil and negative thoughts about everyone and everything you care for. The best remedy is to play Surah Al-Baqarah daily. Keep your tongue moist with Allah’s (swt) Dhikr. Watch and listen to Islamic videos and talks for spiritual uplift. Recite to your baby, as the child is listening. After Nifas (post-partum bleeding), return to your prayers regularly. Read at least one page of Quran daily with its translation. Only Allah (swt) knows, listens to, and understands what a mother braves.

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Parenting by Umm Ammarah (rtaf)

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We are told that women’s participation in battles was limited to nursing the wounded and bringing water to the soldiers. Here is a woman who participated in the Battles of Uhud, Khyber, Hunayn, Yamamah, and others. She entered the battlefield with no other intention than defending the Prophet (sa).

About her, the Prophet (sa) said: “From where can anyone get courage like you, O Umm Ammarah (rtaf)?”

Umm Ammarah’s (rtaf) defense of Islam did not end with the Prophet’s (sa) passing away; when the Fitnah (trial) of apostasy emerged, she pledged her support to Abu Bakr (rtam). He acknowledged that she was indeed a strong and daring woman; hence, he allowed her to join the Muslim forces fighting the apostate Musalymah Kathab.

The Battle of Yamamah was the toughest battle that the Muslims faced. Musalymah had gathered a large army and was confident that he will wipe off Islam. They plan and Allah (swt) plans too, and Allah (swt) is the Best of planners.

Umm Ammarah’s (rtaf) son Habeeb (rtam) was captured by Musalymah’s forces. Musalymah asked him if he testified Muhammad (sa) to be the Prophet of Allah (swt). Habeeb (rtam) replied in affirmation. Musalymah then asked if he testified that he (Musalymah) was a prophet of Allah (swt). Habeeb (rtam) replied that he could not hear. Again Musalymah asked if he believed Muhammad (sa) was the Prophet of Allah (swt). Habeeb (rtam) again replied in affirmation. Musalymah then repeated his question about his being a prophet of Allah (swt). Habeeb (rtam) replied that he could not hear. The show went on for some time, and Habeeb (rtam) remained firm in his replies.

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Want the Help of Angels?

“Verily, those who say: Our Lord is Allah (Alone), and then they Istaqamu, on them the angels will descend (at the time of their death) (saying): Fear not, nor grieve! But receive the glad tidings of Paradise which you have been promised! We have been your friends in the life of this world and are (so) in the hereafter. Therein you shall have (all) that your inner-selves desire, and therein you shall have (all) for which you ask for. An entertainment from (Allah), the Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Fussilat 41:30-32)

To believe in Allah (swt) is not enough. What is more important is to remain upon that belief until the last day, until you breathe your last. Istiqamah!

Allah (swt) is motivating us in this Ayah by telling us about what will happen at the moment of death to “those who say: Our Lord is Allah (Alone)” and then remain steadfast. Death is the most critical, scariest moment of anyone’s life, as even the Prophet (sa) described it saying: “Inna lil-Mauti La-Sakaraat” (“Indeed, death has got some agony”). Death is not easy; it’s a Museebah – a trial.

At this very critical moment, Allah (swt) will send his angels upon you telling you: “Are you scared of death?” The angels will tell you: don’t be scared and don’t be sad, because you are going to meet Allah (swt)! How could you be sad? Isn’t this what you want, to be in Jannah? Receive the good news of Jannah, which you were promised by Allah (swt) in this Duniya! How many pages have we read in the Quran describing Jannah for those who are Muttaqi, for those who are righteous, for those who fear Allah (swt), for those who know, who are aware that whether we are in public or in secret, Allah (swt) is watching us and giving commands to the angels to write down every single thing that we do. How could you sin? How could you do something Haram when you know that Allah (swt) and his angels are watching you?

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