Lessons of Bravery from Asma Bint Yazid (ra)

flowerwoodChoice of Friends

Asma (ra) was much older than the Mother of the Believers Aisha (ra), yet she would visit her often to seek knowledge. Their relationship was based on mutual love and truthfulness. Their conversations were generally about issues of jurisprudence, and not gossips about the community.

Lessons to draw: Raise the standard of your friends. Genuinely reach out for people who are better than you in Deen. Respect and benefit from their knowledge. Knowing our time is precious, we must not waste it in Laghw (futile); but rather, look for opportunities to benefit ourselves and others. We must actively seek opportunities that will raise our scales in the hereafter. We should also polish our skills and be a productive member of the society.

Raise the standard of your friends. Genuinely reach out for people who are better than you in Deen.

Blessing in Food

Asma (ra) had a small place for prayer in her courtyard. Sometimes, the Prophet (sa) would go there to pray. One day when he arrived, Asma (ra) presented him food. The Prophet (sa) instructed his accompanying Companions (ra) to join him in the dinner. The Prophet (sa), the Companions (ra) and the family ate from the meal, and much was left over. There must have been forty people who shared the meal together.

The Prophet (sa) then got up and drank water from the leather flask. Asma (ra) preserved that flask and would use it when someone in the family fell ill. When a sick person would be served water from it, he would be cured. It was all because of the blessings of the Prophet (sa).

Lessons to draw: We might not have the Prophet (sa) among us anymore, but we learn that sharing our provision with others always brings more. We must be generous in sharing our food, our skills, our time and our knowledge with others- especially those who need it the most.

To increase the blessing in one’s provision one must also learn and follow the etiquette that our Prophet (sa) taught. Among them some are: it should be Halal (permissible) and Tayyab (pure). Therefore, purify your source of income and thoughts. Do not be greedy and selfish. Have concern for others too. Start every good deed and daily habits such as eating or sleeping with the name of Allah (swt).

We must be generous in sharing our food, our skills, our time and our knowledge with others- especially those who need it the most.

Narrator of Hadeeth

Being a regular student of the gatherings of the Prophet (sa) and Aisha (ra), Asma (ra) attained the honour of being a Hadeeth narrator. Around eighty one Ahadeeth have been narrated from her.

Lessons to draw: We cannot be a Hadeeth narrator, but how many Ahadeeth do we know by our hearts? Let us set up a Hadeeth memorising goal and memorise some.

Participation in Battles

Asma (ra) dedicated the early years of her marriage in tending to her home. When the children grew up and became independent, she used her skills and time for Allah (swt). She participated with the men in the battles. Not only as a nurse attending to the wounded, and supporting the men, but also as a warrior.  She had no weapons of her own and no means to procure one. She took the pole of her tent and killed nine enemy soldiers in the Battle of Uhud.

Around eighty one Ahadeeth have been narrated from her.

She lived up to a ripe age and later moved to Damascus where she died. She was one of the women promised Paradise.

Lessons to draw: We see in the life of Asma (ra) many roles. She was a student, a teacher, Hadeeth narrator, and a warrior. She performed all those roles, while efficiently performing her domestic duties. She felt no humiliation in doing house chores. At one point in her life, she was divorced. But, she continued to benefit herself and others. She did not allow anything to put a blockade in her determination to gather Hasanahs (good deeds) for herself.

Asma (ra) teaches us to raise our scales. She teaches us to prioritise our duties and bring a balance in them. She teaches us to keep moving, despite the challenges that we encounter.

(Adapted from the book: Seerat e Sahabiyat k Darakshan Pehlu by Mehmood Ahmad Ghazanfar and the lectures of Dr. Farhat Hashmi: Seerat e Sahabiyat)

Four Steps to Jannah

stepping-stones‘Abdullah bin Salam (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I heard the Messenger of Allah (sa) saying, “O people, exchange greetings of peace (i.e., say: As-Salamu ‘Alaikum to one another), feed people, strengthen the ties of kinship, and be in prayer when others are asleep, you will enter Jannah in peace.” (Tirmidhi)

Lessons from the Hadith:
This beautiful hadith encourages us to do three actions that generate mutual love and remove any kind of hatred, evil thoughts and dislike we could have in our hearts for others .and motivates us to do an action that helps to build a stronger relationship with our creator by worshipping Him at a time when everyone around us is sleeping.

All these actions are also connected as they help us grow slowly, step by step to build a stronger relationship with people and ultimately get closer to Allah (swt).

1. Spreading Salaam
The Prophet(sa) said, “You will not enter paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another: ‘spread salaam’ (the greeting of peace) among you.” [Muslim]

2. Feeding others
A man asked the Prophet(sa) , “What sort of deeds or (what qualities of) Islam are good?” The Prophet(sa) replied: ‘To feed (the poor) and greet those whom you know and those whom you do not Know.”

“‏ تُطْعِمُ الطَّعَامَ، وَتَقْرَأُ السَّلاَمَ عَلَى مَنْ عَرَفْتَ وَمَنْ لَمْ تَعْرِفْ ‏”

[Bukhari and Muslim]

3. Strengthen the ties of Kinship:
A man said to the Prophet(sa): “Direct me to a deed which may admit me to Jannah.” Upon this he (sa) said, “Worship Allah and never associate anything with Him in worship, establish Salah, pay Zakah, and strengthen the ties of kinship.”

‏تعبد الله لا تشرك به شيئًا، وتقيم الصلاة، وتؤتي الزكاة، وتصل الرحم‏

[Bukhari and Muslim]

4. Praying at night

Narrated Abu Hurairah: Allah’s Messenger(sa) said, “Our Lord, the Blessed, the Superior, comes every night down on the nearest Heaven to us when the last third of the night remains, saying: “Is there anyone to invoke Me, so that I may respond to invocation? Is there anyone to ask Me, so that I may grant him his request? Is there anyone seeking My forgiveness, so that I may forgive him?” (Sahih al-Bukhari )

‏ يَنْزِلُ رَبُّنَا تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى كُلَّ لَيْلَةٍ إِلَى السَّمَاءِ الدُّنْيَا حِينَ يَبْقَى ثُلُثُ اللَّيْلِ الآخِرُ يَقُولُ مَنْ

يَدْعُونِي فَأَسْتَجِيبَ لَهُ مَنْ يَسْأَلُنِي فَأُعْطِيَهُ مَنْ يَسْتَغْفِرُنِي فَأَغْفِرَ لَهُ ‏‏‏.‏


Thus the Prophet(sa) has urged the believers to soften their hearts by combining the good actions in both words and deeds which is a perfect treatment that sows seeds of love and friendship in their hearts.

Action Points:
Peace of mind, contentment, happiness and freedom from worries and anxiety… this is what everyone wants, and these are the ways in which people can have a good life and find complete happiness and joy in this life and Akhirah. But this can only be achieved when one has the nature of caring and giving.

All actions mentioned in the hadith requires self control and patience and when we are able to conquer this, the path to enter in Jannah with peace becomes easier.

On the other hand we must engage ourselves in remembrance of Allah (swt) as this is the greatest means of feeling content and relaxed and of acquiring peace of mind in dunya and then ultimately in Akhirah as Allah (swt) said in Surah al-An’aam:127

لَهُمْ دَارُ السَّلَامِ عِندَ رَبِّهِمْ ۖ وَهُوَ وَلِيُّهُم بِمَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ
“For them will be a Home of Peace in the presence of their Lord: He will be their Friend because they practiced (righteousness)”

When we are at peace with others, our heart is at peace to worship our creator. And thus we are able to enter Paradise with peace and that is the ultimate achievement, the epitome of success and the greatest of rewards.

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْجَنَّةَ وَمَا قَرَّبَ إِلَيْهَا مِنْ قَوْلٍ أَوْ عَمَلٍ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ النَّارِ وَمَا قَرَّبَ إِلَيْهَا مِنْ قَوْلٍ أَوْ عَمَلٍ وَأَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ تَجْعَلَ كُلَّ قَضَاءٍ قَضَيْتَهُ لِي خَيْرًا ‏
O Allah, I ask You for Paradise and for that which brings one closer to it, in word and deed, and I seek refuge in You from Hell and from that which brings one closer to it, in word and deed. And I ask You to make every decree that You decree concerning me good, Ameen!

Courtesy: Alhuda Canada

Repressing a Rage – Lessons from the Sunnah


Abu Hurairah (rta) reported that a man said to the Prophet (sa): “Advise me!” The Prophet (sa) replied: “Do not become angry and furious.” The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet (sa) said in each case: “Do not become angry and furious.” (Bukhari)

Consider this: Why did Prophet Muhammad (sa) repeat this advice? It was for effect. Our hearts are like a valley; it needs lots water in order to clean it. Repetition is good for your ‘Yaqeen’, and for your heart. Repetition of key information will provide you with a firm base upon which you can accordingly alter your conduct.

Now let’s analyze the meaning of the Hadeeth: The core phrase is ‘La Tagdab’ – don’t be angry. Why? This is because anger is like Shaitan throwing fire in the heart of the son of Adam. We usually say the phrase: “My blood is boiling.” The heart of an angry person is considered to be boiling. We also say: “My face turned red with rage.” This is because an angry person gets red-faced and thus, anger becomes visible to others.

Why do you get angry? Here’s a checklist:

  • When I am humiliated by someone
  • When I feel that I am losing control                                                              .
  • When I feel threatened
  • When I encounter difficulty in dealing with people
  • When things don’t go the way I had planned
  • When something disrupts my schedule
  • When people around me behave inconsiderately
  • When people deal with me in a way that is unacceptable
  • My pride/ego is hurt/bruised

What accompanies anger?

  • You are angry about one particular thing but you will end up picking a fight with everyone around you on some other petty issues.
  • You will suddenly remember all your old peeves and problems. Shaytan will make you recall these bad memories – this happens especially between spouses.
  • You perceive everything negatively. An angry person always tries to harm the people most beloved to them – with actions and with words.
  • Regret. When you calm down, you are filled with remorse. To apologize is very difficult.
  • Extreme anger can be dangerous, especially if it leads to speeding on the road, for example.
  • Anger leads to numerous diseases.

Points to remember

  1. Not being able to accept a negative situation negates your Tawakkul (trust in Allah (swt)) and your belief in Allah (swt)’s Name: al-Wakeel.
  2. Don’t assume everybody knows the same as you do, or thinks the same as you do. When things happen against your expectations, you get angry and frustrated. In life, deal with Allah (swt), Allah (swt) will give you more than you expect. Surely, Jannah is more than our expectations. When things go wrong again and again, this is nurturing from Allah (swt).
  3. Don’t react when you are angry. How? Turn to Allah (swt): Ya Rabbi, you keep me firm. People think their power manifests itself with anger, when they yell, scream, hit or throw things. In contrast, the Prophet (sa) said: “The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.” (Bukhari)
  4. Recall the rewards of suppressing your rage. The Messenger of Allah (sa) said: “Whoever suppresses his rage, while he is able to exact it, Allah (swt) will call him before all of creation (on the Day of Judgement) so that he can choose whichever of the Hoor he wishes.” (At-Tirmidhi)

The key to deal with the anger

  1. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Turn a deaf ear. Don’t take everything personally.
  2. Remember the Sunnah: Abu Dharr reported: The Messenger of Allah (sa) said to us: “If one of you is angry when he is standing, let him sit down so that the anger will leave him; otherwise, let him lie down.” (Abu Dawood)
  3. Make Wudhu if you are still angry.
  4. Leave the room. Walk away from the situation. Resolve to deal with it when you are calm.
  5. Remember that the Prophet (sa) only got angry for the sake of Allah (swt).