Top Five Thoughts to Forgive Anyone

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How can you forgive someone when it seems too difficult? Try considering the following:


  1. It is the fastest way for you to get Allah’s (swt) forgiveness; ask yourself this question from the Quran- Do you not want that Allah should forgive you?
  1. It will free you from the pain- for holding onto bitterness makes you suffer. If you find their mistakes too big, remember that by definition, forgiveness is when they don’t deserve it.
  1. Forgiveness is the quality of the people of Taqwa. Do it for yourself if you want to be a person of Taqwa who enters Jannah.
  1. You want people to forgive you. You need others to forgive your mistakes instead of settling the score because you want peace on the Day of Judgement.
  1. What if they die tomorrow? Would you still feel angry, or would you feel regret for how things ended? Make peace with them now when you still have the choice.


May Allah (swt) make forgiveness easy for us. Ameen.

Transcribed for hiba by Anoshia Riaz





Reflections from the Hajj

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By Sheikh Omar Suleiman and Abdul Nasir Jangda

Shiakh Omar Suleiman:  Subhan’Allah, Every year Hajj gets easier. We are not living in the days anymore, where you would be walking in hot sun, and your feet are going to be burning

We are living in the days of five star hotels very next to the Haram, V.I.P air conditioned tents, trains- the air train which takes you from Muzdalifa, Arafah, Mina.

There is abundance of food, we had catering of food from Ash-Shuhada, and we had over twenty items in Mina, three times a day. The food was sickening, and there were two people, who were fighting and arguing with organizers that food is not labeled, so we are not getting what we are eating. Essentially, we have gotten used to of spoiled life style, which stops us from benefitting from Hajj. So, I reflected on story of Ka’ab bin Malik (ra) in a long Hadeeth, which talks about his redemption. Subhan’Allah, people do not understand that Ka’ab bin Malik (ra) was actually from the Rich- The Aghniyah of Madinah- he was from the richest of Madinah; socially very elite, he was a rich poet; some of the scholars said that he was amongst the  five sponsors of Prophet (sa) when he came to Madinah. When Ka’ab bin Malik (ra) had that chance to be forgiven, he heard the news from the people coming to him- he took off and gave his throbe away to the one who gave the good news as he was very happy. One thing to realize is that he did not have another throbe, so he had to borrow another throbe. When he went to Prophet (sa), he was told him:

‘This is the best day Ka’ab since your mother gave birth to you. -not your wedding day, not the day you got rich, it’s the day that Allah (swt) forgave you. The day Allah (swt) forgave your sins, the day you had a chance of redemption!

Even then, Ka’ab bin Malik (ra) wanted to give away everything else he had left; then Prophet (sa) said: ‘Keep some of the money with you,” he said: “Fine, I will keep some.” and he gave everything else away. He had realized that Allah (swt) had given him the chance to be forgiven.

For a few days, a little bit of struggle, a late bus here and there, a little bit of walking here and there, a little bit of heat here and there, waiting in line for bathroom. Some people are just happy to be there because there is a chance of redemption-the chance to be forgiven. And, essentially when you go there with that mentality- don’t allow yourself to complain, don’t allow yourself to jeopardize your chance of redemption, because you might not ever make it there again, and that might be your one chance, one shot to be there at the House of Allah (swt).

Of course, the doors of forgiveness are always open, but this is Hajj; you really don’t want to spoil your Hajj over late bus; over a point you are trying to improve to a guy who pushed you here and there; or a guard that you don’t like his attitude.

Shiakh Omar Suleiman: You truly understood the value of redemption, that Allah (swt) is going to forgive me  for eighty/ninety years of sins in three days, Allah (swt) is going to let go of all that and not hold me accountable for any of that. So, just remember when you go there, Insha’Allah- just think: ‘This is my chance of redemption, I am not going to screw it up, no money matters to me anymore; if Hajj agencies screwed me over, I will talk to them after Hajj, I am not going to complain about it right now. I will talk to them after Hajj.

If I got to sleep in the street, Alhumdulillah, I am there; I am in Hajj, that’s all that matters.

Shaikh Abdul Nasir Jangda: It’s really is an amazing opportunity, amazing chance. One of my observations is that, vast majority of younger people over there, of ages twenty’s and thirty’s were mostly from western countries. I met a group of people from China, every single person from the group was above of the age of sixty, it has become a lot easier for people of all ages, but Hajj is Hajj. It’s a Mercy.

Shiakh Omar Suleiman: No matter how much we pay, your package;  V.I.P/deluxe, you still going to have difficulty.

Shaikh Abdul Nasir Jangda: That is the opportunity that we will be able to make some sacrifice to cleanse ourselves, to purify ourselves. When I saw those people, I was thinking that, why would somebody come for a Hajj when he is sixty, and when it is difficult for them; they are old, they can barely walk; somebody is on the wheelchair. I realized that, it took them this long enough to save money to be able to do it. It made me wow for a young person in America in his thirty might have done Hajj for four, five times; and this person waited for sixty years to be able to do Hajj. What an amazing blessing it is, that is why they see opportunity, and they love it, they do not complain.

Mostly, people have the general idea of the Fiqh of Hajj; they read a book, take some notes, they are usually with Shaikh in groups. I noticed that there is a serious lack of common sense there, because Hujjaj do not need a lot more Fiqh than a lot more common sense.

While sharing Hajj reflections to my students, I told that one cannot fake Hajj- if you are patient then you are going to become patient. If you have an issue of anger then you are going to lose it at Hajj. You get exposed!

When we enter Haram physically exposed to the elements, we also become spiritually exposed as well, and we need a lot more common sense.

Lastly, we bear all pain and sacrifice just for one reason that is only- Allah (swt). It’s that simple. People spend thousands of dollars for Allah (swt); people leave their kids to their families, their homes- Why? Because of Allah (swt), people are willing to sleep in sand, in ash, in middle of the desert. The sole reason of why everybody does what they do- there is Allah (swt), and that is the goal and focus.

Shiakh Omar Suleiman:

Just remember! When you go to Hajj, make sure you understand that you are one of very few that have been chosen for Hajj, and you are a guest of Allah (swt); and as a guest you should fulfill all the rights at that point.

You should understand that you are not the host, so do not go there as a guy who paid saying: ‘I paid for this, I paid for that’; Allah (swt) has invited you there, so Allah (swt) will decree whatever you get there, what difficulties you will go through there, and as a guest you are honored to be there. If you were to go to a ‘white house’, you are not going to sit there and complain to yourself that: ‘I paid twenty dollars for ticket to tour this place’, you will just be happy to be there to meet the President.

So, Allah (swt) called you there; Allah (swt) invited you there as a guest; you forgo your rights, and just go with the flow and the thought that it is accepted. May Allah (swt) accept our Hajj. Ameen.

Transcribed for hiba by Hira Naqi




Yaum e Arafah 2015

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It was a sweltering morning. I wondered how much more will the temperature rise as we boarded our bus from Mina after the Fajr prayer. 9th of Dhul Hajj, the day Satan grieves most. Why? Because on no other day does Allah (swt) free so many necks of the believers from the Hell fire against their pleas of Taubah.

Yaum e Arafah has been termed as Hajj. These are the same plains where one day we all will stand to account for our whole life before Allah (swt) – on the Day of Judgement.

Hence, all the pilgrims stand facing the Qiblah from noon until shortly before sunset pleading Allah (swt) for forgiveness. This is called Wuqoof, and it is highly recommended to recite “La Ilaha Illah Allah Wahdahu La Sharika Lahu- Lahulmulku Walahulhamdu- Wahuwa Ala Kulli Shai In Qadeer.” (There is no God but Allah. He is one. He has no partner. His is the dominion and His is the praise. And He is able to do everything.)

Molana Tariq Jameel was invited to narrate the Prophet’s (sa) Hajj to the pilgrims, and apprise them of its noteworthy rituals with a deeper meaning. He talked about the prophet’s (sa) nearly ten days journey of Hajj. Molana also explained our beloved messenger’s (sa) last sermon.

It was shameful to think how the Ummah had tossed aside most of the advice heeded to them by the Prophet (sa) just before he departed from the world. He would cry a great portion of the night begging Allah (swt) “Ummati, Ummati” (My nation, my nation). Until Angel Gibrael would appear by Allah’s (swt) command to ensure him that Allah (swt) will not disappoint the Messenger (sa) regarding his Ummah. The question is how concerned are we as his Ummah about not disappointing him. Do we even care? Do we even know who he was? Do we even bother finding out and try living up to his expectations of us?

What stirred my soul was when brother Tariq Jameel mentioned that if we were here standing before Allah (swt) expecting His divine mercy and forgiveness, we should have come with a sound heart. Firstly, we must forgive all who have deliberately or unintentionally wronged us. Once our heart is pure, we can then seek repentance for ourselves.

A corrupt heart that holds grudges, and enmities against other brothers and sisters in Islam is not deserving of forgiveness.

Once while the companions were seated with the Prophet (sa), he announced that the man who will enter next is from the people of Paradise. Surely, an elderly Sahabi entered. This continued for the next three days. AmribnulAas (rta) was a devout worshipper who worshipped extra-ordinarily. He was very curious to find out what was it that he was missing out on, and had not yet received glad tidings of Jannah from the Prophet (sa) while that Sahabi had.

Amr (rta) requested the Sahabi to offer him lodging for the next couple of days. The Sahabi gladly accepted him. As the night fell, Amr (rta) prepared for a long spell of prayers in anticipation, but discovered that the Sahabi did not offer any special voluntary prayers, and instead turned to sleep. Puzzled Amr (rta) waited for the next day hoping to find the cause of honour for this Sahabi.

The next day was equally surprising. The Sahabi went about his routine business, and offered normal worship; while Amr (rta) kept waiting for that special quality or moment- but was disappointed to find nothing. Finally surrendering, he announced his departure to the old Sahabi, and revealed to him his real intention of stay with him. As Amr (rta) prepared to leave perplexed, the elderly Sahabi stopped him and mentioned: “There is nothing extra ordinary that I do for worship; however, I make it a point to clean my heart every night before I turn to sleep. Maybe that could be it.?”

Amr (rta) had solved the mystery. That was it. A pure heart that held no malign against any of Allah’s (rta) creations- Mamlat (relationships) and Huqooq-ul-Ibad (rights of the creation). Every believer needs to be extremely cautious about it. Tread on eggshells.

Allah (swt) will not forgive someone who has broken the heart of any of His creations. And most of the times, we don’t even know about it.

If they are around, beg forgiveness of them. If they are gone, pray to Allah (swt) to grant them enough reward and elevate their status, so that they do not need any of our good deeds on the Day of Reckoning.

Honouring Huqooq Allah is relatively easier as our Lord (swt) is Merciful, and eager to forgive His slaves who have transgressed. Take care of people’s rights as it invites Allah’s (swt) special love and recognition.

May Allah (swt) make the Day of Arafah easy for all believers. Ameen.



A Decade of Happy Marriage


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9 happy marriage

Being a young girl, I repeatedly had to listen to such statements: “Whatever you study, one day you have to get married and do the household chores.”

I used to ignore it as much as I could. After the bone-breaking study of medicine with all work and no play schedule, there came a time when I had to tie a knot with somebody and leave all my books. I had to start from scratch and set foot in the sea of entirely new experiences and learning. Anatomy and biochemistry that had become a part and parcel of my life got replaced by the study of kitchen management and hacks.

My married life is now ten years old, and a proud feather is added to my marriage cap. I have realized the deeper meaning of marriage – it is a pact of making your sharp corners round.

According to Mufti Ibrahim Desai: “There can be no doubt in the success of a marriage governed by the fear of Allah (swt).”

I don’t celebrate marriage anniversaries by parties or hip-hop; but I do celebrate by pondering over the lessons that I had learnt during that year and store them in my memory. Each year, I implement those lessons into my life to get more happiness and success. My secret of a blissful marriage is based on the following lessons.

  1. Silence is the best medicine

It is very usual to have differences, but to remain calm and composed is an art, which is achieved through excellent self-control tactics. Arguing at times of conflict can make the situation worse by letting the Satan enter into it.

Abu Saeed Al-Khudri reported that the Prophet (sa) said: “If anyone is humble for the sake of Allah (swt) by a degree, Allah (swt) will elevate him one degree, until he reaches the highest degrees; if anyone is arrogant towards Allah (swt), Allah (swt) will lower him one degree until he reaches the lowest of low degrees.” (Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani)

The very first thing that took me to the tantrums after my marriage was the late night schedule of my husband’s job. As my father was a government officer, we used to enjoy the evening tea with him at home. When I shared that with my hubby, I got a mind-blowing lecture of office responsibilities and problems. The best I could do was to pray to Almighty Allah (swt) and remain silent. The next year, my hubby changed the job, in which he had the facility to return back home early and could work from home. Silence helped me keep a peaceful environment at home.

  1. Conquer through love

Love is the language that everybody understands. Showing constant gratitude and love takes your hubby to the Mount Everest of his self-esteem. In turn, he showers you with the same.

  1. To err is human, to forgive – divine

Females have a 967432 GB of memory, and on any little issue, they open up the historical book of complaints, which ignites never-ending arguments. I used to avoid it by imagining the large number of women burning in hellfire, due to ungratefulness to their husbands.

It was narrated by Abdullah ibn Abbas (rtam) that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said: “I was shown Hell, and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said: “Why, O Messenger of Allah (sa)?” He said: “Because of their ingratitude (Kufr).” It was said: “Are they ungrateful to Allah (swt)?” He said: “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime and then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say: ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Bukhari)

  1. The foolish secret

I know this is difficult to apply for many of us, but believe me – it works. I used to surprise my hubby by listening to common talks with great astonishment. It is a secret, which I apply regularly and keep my relationship filled with joy.

  1. Invest in your relationship

Sharing lovely gifts and words adds strength to my life and fuels my passion to live together. A beautifully-wrapped present leaves a long lasting effect on the heart of your hubby – it will never be a waste!

  1. Out of sight wins the mind!

It sounds awkward but this is another secret to my fulfilling joyous life. Whenever I used to return from my mom’s house, I used to find a new spark in my married life. Being away for some time allows one to re-discover, and have some ‘me’ time. It helps both to settle and look into the disputes with an impartial aspect.

  1. Give credit

Your achievements and success must be because of your hard work, but transfer the credit to your hubby, as that success wouldn’t have been possible without his broadmindedness, compromise, support, and appreciation. Try to be more courteous and giving.

  1. Show gratitude

Thank your hubby often; it takes just a second but kindles the light of respect and love. Nothing big is required to admit his support – only a nice comment on his return from the office or shop can make the day wonderful for both of you.

  1. Share with care

Effective communication is the life and blood of a successful relationship. Not a single day of my married life has passed without sharing problems, asking or just telling the whole day routine. It gradually and slowly builds up the understanding between the two souls.

  1. Trust is a must

Last but not the least, trust is the key to a prosperous and ever growing married life. Hiding petty matters from the hubby may be of no value at the moment, but it will eventually shake the pillars of married life. Remember the key point that after your marriage, your hubby is the most worthy person in your life. Although ten years have passed, I am still striving to the best of my abilities, so that I don’t let anyone down. Insha’Allah.

In The Dark, I See The Spark!


In the dark, silent nights,

The pillow absorbs the warm tears that roll down my eyes.

The aches are still apparent.

The agony which tears apart every inch of my soul.

The memory of letting you down several times.

The hurt of giving priority to those other than you.

The burning feeling of cheating you.

The fear of becoming a hardened one.

The anguish of being lost and alone.

The shiver of spell bound heedlessness.

The denial of standing in front of you one day.

The nervousness of being accountable.

The pit in stomach when hear of your justice and anger.

The forgetfulness of daily obligatory prayers.

I cry and become restless for wasting one more day.

In dark, silent nights,

The pillow absorbs the warm tears that roll down my eyes.

I sob out of love for you Ya Rabbi.

I ask, I ask for Jannah like a stubborn child.

In the dark, silent nights,

I long for your pleasure.

I pray for steadfastness.

In the dark, silent nights,

The hope is still high-

As your blessing is more observant.

[Part 1] Repent Now – He (swt) is Waiting!

uturn“But whosoever repents after his crime and does righteous good deeds (by obeying Allah), then verily, Allah will pardon him (accept his repentance). Verily, Allah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Maidah 5:39)

Allah (swt) has sent us all on this earth to worship Him only. This life is momentary and full of trials and adversities. We are given a method to live this life but as humans, we are likely to make mistakes along the way. There will be daily encounters with the Shaytan. We have to make choices every now and then in this temporary life.

Repent in good and bad times

Life is a continuous struggle. We fall and we get up again but the struggle continues till our last breath. Allah (swt) tests us every day through blessings and through trials. A Muslim is patient when he is going through a trial, and in times of blessings, he is grateful to Allah (swt). Thus, a Muslim is in a state of either Sabr (patience) or Shukr (gratefulness).

When we face difficulties in life, we are worried and often repent. We ask Allah (swt) for His forgiveness and pray more. But as soon as the tough period is over, we gradually lose contact with our Lord (swt) and get busy in our worldly matters. Some people need a few such incidents to make sincere Taubah; but for others, a whole lifetime is not enough, as they forget their Master (swt) and continue to commit sins.

Sins may be huge but they are not greater than Allah’s (swt) mercy

Abu Hurairah (rtam) narrated that the Prophet (sa) said: “When Allah (swt) created the creation, He wrote in His Book. He wrote (that) about Himself, and it is placed with Him on the Throne: Verily My mercy overcomes My anger.” (Bukhari)

People often think that their sins are huge, but they do not realize the enormity of Allah’s (swt) forgiveness. He waits patiently for His people to turn to Him in repentance: “O you who believe! Turn to Allah with sincere repentance! It may be that your Lord will expiate from you your sins, and admit you into Gardens under which rivers flow (Paradise).” (At-Tahrim 66:8)   

Often, when a Muslim’s faith becomes weak, he may be overwhelmed by his desires. Shaitan makes the forbidden attractive to him, so he wrongs himself and commits sins. Allah (swt) accepts the repentance of anyone who repents sincerely after doing wrong as He (swt) is the most Forgiving and the most Merciful.

Repent from your heart

Repentance does not mean to utter certain words without thinking. A Muslim should repent honestly from his heart, realizing his wrongdoings, regretting his sins, and offering a sincere apology and promise to his Lord (swt) not to repeat the ill actions.

Repent before death

The doors of Allah’s (swt) forgiveness remain open until a Muslim faces his death. Allah (swt) mentions in the Quran:

“And of no effect is the repentance of those who continue to do evil deeds until death faces one of them and he says: ‘Now I repent;’ nor of those who die while they are disbelievers. For them We have prepared a painful torment.” (An-Nisa 4:18)

The Prophet (sa) said: “Allah (swt) extends His hand at night to forgive those who sinned during that day, and He extends His hand during the day to forgive those who sinned during the night. This will continue to be the case until the sun rises from the west.” (Muslim)

We may get tired of repenting but Allah (swt) never tires of forgiving

We may get tired of committing sins, but He never gets tired of forgiving His slaves. Allah (swt) loves the repentance of His slaves and expresses joy over it. The Prophet (sa) said: “When a person repents, Allah (swt) rejoices more than any one of you would rejoice after finding a camel you had lost in the desert.” (Bukhari)

[Hadeeth Commentary] Reliance on Allah (swt) for guidance and Forbiddance of Oppression

Adapted for Hiba by Tasneem Vali


It was related on the authority of Abu Dhar Al-Ghifari that the Prophet (sa) said, of what he related from his Lord, the Magnified and the Exalted be He, Who said:

“O My servants, I have made oppression unlawful for Me and unlawful for you. So do not commit oppression against one another. O My servants, all of you are liable to err except for those, whom I guide on the right path, therefore seek guidance from Me so that I should direct you to the right path. O My servants, all of you are hungry (needy) except for those whom I feed; therefore seek food from Me so that I may feed you. O My servants, all of you are naked (need clothes) except for those whom I provide garments, therefore seek clothing from Me so that I should clothe you. O My servants, you sin by night and by day and I am there to pardon your sins, therefore seek forgiveness from Me so that I should grant you pardon. O My servants, you can neither do Me any harm nor can you do Me any good. O My servants, even if the first amongst you and the last amongst you and the whole human race of yours and that of Jinns become as pious as the most pious heart of any one amongst you, it will not add anything to My Power or Kingdom. O My servants, even if the first amongst you and the last amongst you and the whole human race of yours and that of Jinns become as wicked as the most wicked heart of anyone amongst you, it will not decrease anything from My Power or Kingdom. O My servants, even if the first amongst you and the last amongst you and the whole human race of yours and that of Jinns gather together on a sector of land and all ask of Me and if I were to give every one of them what they asked for, that will not in any way decrease what I have any more than a needle decreases what is in the ocean when it is put into it. O My servants, these deeds of yours which I am recording for you I shall reward you for them, so he who finds good should praise Allah and he who finds other than that should not blame anyone but himself.” (Muslim)

This Hadeeth is a ‘Hadeeth Qudsee’, meaning a Hadeeth where the Prophet (sa) relates what Allah (swt) has said, His actual words. This Hadeeth demonstrates our relationship with Allah (swt) and teaches us to rely exclusively on Him for all our needs. Allah (swt) informs us of His attributes; Merciful, Forgiving, Powerful and Compassionate, compared to human beings, who are needy and weak. We need Allah’s (swt) Guidance and His help in all aspects of our lives. We are told categorically that no form of oppression or injustice will be tolerated in Islam.

Unlawful Oppression


Allah (swt) – the Light of Guidance

Allah (swt) is the originator of all guidance, be it from a book, a lecture, a person or an article. We as individuals are incapable of providing guidance unless Allah (swt) wills. We may attempt to show people the right path, but the true guidance comes from Allah (swt) alone. Guidance is a great mercy and blessing from Allah (swt). This guidance, in the form of the Quran, was revealed to us by Allah (swt) through His Messenger, Muhammad (sa). Allah (swt) showed us the right path to follow and warned us against Shaitan, who is our greatest enemy. Reciting Surah Al-Fatiha in every Rakah reminds us of our extreme need for our Lord’s Guidance and Support. (An-Nawawi)

Types of guidance:

  • Hidayat Al-Bayan – guidance related to the knowledge. Allah (swt) never forsakes us; He will bring us some means to guide us, guidance to know Allah (swt) and His attributes. Allah (swt) will never forsake us or leave us without showing us Who we need to worship. When Allah (swt) provides people guidance, not all will accept it. Allah (swt) offers guidance through different means but it will be your choice and free will to accept, reject or think about it. Some people know this is guidance from Allah (swt) and they accept it and Allah (swt) increases their level of guidance. If we accept, appreciate and act upon it; Allah (swt) gives us more and makes it easy for us to follow.
  • Hidayat Al-Tawfeeq – the guidance to do. The guidance will not just be in your heart. For example, someone is always angry and she needs guidance to become a calm person. She will listen to a lecture about patience and see examples of people who are angry and how they deal with it. She will realize and then change. Hence Allah (swt) will change her heart. Allah (swt) will give her the Hidayat Al-Tawfeeq so that in the most stressful situations she will not get angry.

Don’t be unjust towards Allah (swt) by seeking guidance from a slave just like us. Maybe that way of guidance will turn you away from the truth. With Allah (swt) it is always different than what you expect. You think something, and Allah (swt) does it differently; contrary to what you thought. Guidance resembles light and misguidance resembles darkness.


Allah (swt) is Ever-Forgiving

Repentance is a tool Allah (swt) has provided us with, in case we slip. Islam recognizes that humans have weaknesses and will occasionally do wrong. We may neglect/postpone our obligations or indulge in sins, but Allah (swt) reminds us He is Forgiving.


Allah (swt) is the Provider

Allah (swt) provides us with all our material needs: food, clothing, shelter etc… You need Allah (swt) to clothe you even if your wardrobe is full. Allah (swt) loves that His creation has a connection with Him all the time; we must ask with humility and Allah (swt) will increase our sustenance for us.

Allah’s (swt) Treasures and Bounties are Endless

Allah’s (swt) resources will not be reduced by the least in giving us what we ask for. The Hadeeth shows Allah’s (swt) generosity. Allah (swt) gives His servants a lot of bounties and favours. The more they ask Him, the more He gives. He wants us to ask Him more and seek His help and support. This is different from human beings because humans do not like to be asked frequently. The more you ask a human, the more he hates you and eventually turns away from you. He wants us to come closer to Him and show Him our needs and humbleness. (An-Nawawi) Allah (swt) protects you from harm and Allah (swt) benefits you. So you rely on Allah (swt) exclusively. If you make rules and everyone follows your rules; you will benefit. If people do not follow your rules; you will despair. Allah (swt) created us not because He needs us, but because of (wisdom) Hikmah. Allah (swt) created us and we benefit from having been created. Allah (swt) does not need His creation to worship Him.

Allah (swt) is the Most Rich (Al-Ghani)

If you don’t worship Allah (swt), He can create a billion other people to worship Him. Life does not stop because of one person. Everyone being pious will not add anything to Allah (swt). If you do good, it is good for you and nobody else.

  • Allah (swt) does not need anybody.
  • Allah (swt) does not need anybody to worship Him.
  • We need Taqwa; Allah (swt) does not need our Taqwa, we need to become Muttaqeen.
  • We need to obey Allah (swt); Allah (swt) does not need our obedience.
  • We need to be close to Allah (swt); Allah (swt) does not need us to be close to Him.
  • We need to be humble; Allah (swt) does not need our submission.
  • Nobody can harm Allah (swt); nobody can benefit Allah (swt).
  • Nothing can increase Allah (swt) in His dominion, nothing can decrease His dominion.

Do not worship or follow Allah’s (swt) commands as if you are doing Allah (swt) a favour. Allah (swt) enriches all creation. An example of a parable is given – except what is decreased from the ocean when a needle is dipped into it. Imagine you put a needle in the sea, it would have no effect, and it would not decrease anything in Allah’s (swt) dominion or treasure. Whatever Allah (swt) gives, it does not affect Allah (swt); our actions do not affect Allah (swt), He is our Rabb, and nobody is like Him.

Accountability on the Day of Judgment

At the end of the Hadeeth, it is mentioned and stressed that everyone will be accountable for their deeds. Whoever finds a good record; should be thankful to Allah (swt) and praise Him for that. Those who find other than that should not blame anyone except themselves. This is a clear statement that shows the personal responsibility we have for our actions (An-Nawawi). When your time in this world comes to an end, then the accountability starts. At the time of death, you can see the result. What you see at the time of death is preparation of what is to come. If you did well, you will be among the successful ones. And if you did not do well, you will be in trouble. Your actions are your responsibility.


The lesson we take is that when we express our needs to Allah (swt), it must be with humility for Allah (swt) is the only One who can guide us and forgive us. We must repent when we err. Thus gaining the pleasure of Allah (swt) should be our major goal in this world.

Pray Before You are Prayed Upon

last dayAnd the day draws to an end…

I think of how my life would change if I found out that this is the last month of my life. A state of perfection cannot be achieved in such a short time. Thus, I would prefer to live a life without regrets of not fulfilling my duties to my Lord, to the people and to myself. As Muslims, we know that this life will end and we will be answerable for every word we speak, every action we do and every prayer we may recite.

However, if I know the end is near, I will lose interest in going to places, stop eating frantically or stocking up whatever possible for family. Rather, I’ll try to be more content with what I have, treasure the people in my life and ask for their forgiveness, finish my incomplete prayers and finally, prepare for the ultimate journey by repenting to the Almighty.

I would leave a will for my children and mentees, taking inspiration from the ten precious advices Luqman (as) the wise, offered his son. Allah (swt) liked them so much that he honoured them to be a part of the Quran. We as Muslim parents should communicate this valuable advice to our children, family, and members of society. There cannot be a better legacy to leave for one’s mentees and children.

Moreover, if we follow and implement this advice, then Insha’Allah we all will be on the straight path leading to Paradise.

Try doing this exercise yourself!

This short and thought provoking exercise influences our entire way of living. It makes us reflect on how ready we are to present ourselves to Allah (swt)! Amazingly, the more I think, the more I tend to realize that nothing can be more important than asking for forgiveness when we know that the day is soon coming to an end. Is not repentance and humility what we were sent here for? Aren’t we astray from the right path and disillusioned/distracted by the worldly charms?

May Allah (swt) forgive us and guide us towards His path. Ameen

“To Forgive is Divine” – The Way of a Muhsin

Apr 11 - MohsinBy Alia Adil

“I shall allow no man to belittle my soul by making me hate him.” (Booker T. Washington)

We were studying Surah Yusuf. We read the Ayah where Yusuf (as) reassures his step-brothers that Allah (swt) will forgive them, implying that he himself has already forgiven them. Later, Yaqub (as) also tells his sons that he will soon seek forgiveness for them from Allah (swt). It made me think how easy it can actually be for a human to forgive another human, who has constantly been transgressing his rights.

Prophets of Allah (swt) are models for us to emulate, and we can only do so if we put their teachings into practice. If you have been tortured (mentally or physically), if your rights have been trampled upon or if your life has been made miserable and you feel that a particular person is responsible for it, then how easy is it to forgive?

This question led me to Prophet Muhammad’s (sa) example in Taif. The inhumane treatment meted out to him, as a result of his call to the truth, shows the level of brutality a human being can possibly have towards another. But what was his response? He did not talk about revenge. All he was concerned about was his relationship with Allah (swt) – he was desperate to know whether this trial was a result of Allah’s (swt) anger or otherwise. All that mattered to him was that his Lord should be pleased with him. As long as he had that bounty, other issues were trivial. Allah (swt) was his primary concern.

Why is it that when we face a similar situation, our reaction is entirely different? This is because our primary concern is people, leaving Allah (swt) only as the second. Aisha (rta) has narrated: “Allah’s Apostle (saw) never took revenge for his own self in any matter presented to him till Allah’s limits were exceeded, in which case he would take revenge for Allah’s sake.” (Bukhari)

We need to set our priorities right. We need to realize that Allah’s (swt) pleasure is what truly matters. When our purpose becomes to gain the pleasure of Allah (swt), then forgiving others becomes possible.

Islam is a comprehensive religion that caters to the whole of humanity, keeping their strengths and weaknesses in consideration. It also gives us space for our own unique circumstances in life. If the threat from the other person is of an ongoing nature, we are granted the right to choose how to deal with such a person. The Prophet (sa) informed us that the supplication of the oppressed does not go unanswered.

Allah (swt) says: “The recompense for an evil is an evil like thereof, but whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is due from Allah. Verily, He likes not the Zalimun. And indeed whosoever takes revenge after he has suffered wrong, for such there is no way (of blame) against them. The way (of blame) is only against those who oppress men and wrongly rebel in the earth without justification, for such there will be a painful torment. And verily, whosoever shows patience and forgives that would truly be from the things recommended by Allah.” (Ash-Shura 42:40-43)

Thus, everything depends upon our attitude – a positive mind will be full of hope, while a negative-minded person will remain dissatisfied and vengeful. From the early generations of Islam, we learn about a person who slandered a scholar. In return, the scholar gave him a gift of dates. Later, when asked about the gift, he said: “Because he did good to me (i.e., on the Day of Judgement, the man would have to give him some of his good deeds or take from him some of his bad ones due to this offence).”

Ibrahim At-Tamimi once said: “When a man wrongs me, I pay him back with an act of mercy.”

However, we must never forget that no one can harm us, if Allah (swt) has ordained our well-being, and no one can save us from harm, if Allah (swt) wishes so. Nothing happens outside the Decree of Allah (swt). When someone hurts you, take it as a test from Allah (swt) and handle it with wisdom.

So then, what should be our response? Allah (swt) tells us: “And those who remain patient, seeking their Lord’s Countenance, perform As-Salat, and spend out of that which We have bestowed on them, secretly and openly, and defend evil with good, for such there is a good end.” (Rad 13:22) This Ayah holds a strong message – repel evil with good, injustice with forgiveness.

Abu Hurairah (rta) has narrated: “A man said to Prophet Muhammad (sa): ‘I have relatives, I try to keep the ties of relationship with them, but they sever relations with me; I treat them kindly, but they treat me badly; I am gentle with them, but they are rough to me.’ He (sa) replied: “If you are as you say, it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes, and you will be with a supporter against them from Allah (swt), as long as you continue to do so.’” (Muslim)

Prophet Muhammad (sa) has said: “No one is wronged and bears it with patience, but Allah (swt) will increase him in honour.” (At-Tirmidhi)

At-Tabarani recorded that Prophet Muhammad (sa) has said: “Whoever seeks forgiveness for the believing men and women, then a good deed will be written for him for every single believing man and woman.”

Allah (swt) says: “The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily! He, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend. But none is granted it (the above quality) except those who are patient, and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion (of the happiness in the Hereafter i.e. Paradise and in this world of a high moral character). (Fussilat 41: 34-35)

May Allah (swt) grant us the patience to forgive others and the ability to turn our foes into our friends. Ameen.