Connecting with Children – Handy Tips for Dads

In today’s globalized society, we often see that upon entering teenaged years, kids become strangers to their parents, especially the father. This was not the case in the past, as demonstrated by the relationship between Prophet Yusuf (as) and his father. We see that even as a youth he confided his secrets to him and came to him for advice. Why are our teenagers ignoring their fathers today? Perhaps it is due to some deficiencies in the ways fathers connected with their kids in their early years.

Listen to Them

Perhaps the most important factor is for a father to listen to his children. He must try to understand their psychology and unique personality. He should endeavor to understand what motivates and discourages his child. By doing so, the child will develop a trust for his father. He will see him as someone he can turn to for comfort, advice, guidance, support and empathy.

Play with Them

As many of us grow old, we lose the zest for life that is a vital characteristic in children. Fathers should attempt to regenerate that enthusiasm, while interacting with their children. While visiting a public park in New Jersey, I read a sign, which said: “Families that play together stay together!” Play can be traditional games like Oonch Neech, Baraf Pani, Aanch Macholi, four corners, tag or regular sports, or such board games as chess, scrabble, snakes and ladders, etc. By playing with children, fathers are strengthening their relationships with them.

Teach Them

Part of considering a father as a source of knowledge and wisdom comes when the father regularly engages in teaching children. He should not only help them with homework, but read to them beneficial books, and take them to museums, science centres, libraries, book fairs, planetariums, zoos and botanical gardens. When the child asks him for something he does not know, he should admit his ignorance and research the topic with his child using references and the internet. Among the subjects he teaches, he should not neglect religious subjects, as most answers to difficult questions that a teenager goes through are found in our beautiful Deen.

Take Them Out

Fathers should take children outdoors to beaches or parks on a weekly basis. This not only refreshes the children, who are cooped up at home throughout the week, but also makes them realize the handiwork of our Creator all around us. By sharing their amazement of marvelling at flowers, birds, trees, sea, sand, shells, stones, fish, animals and changing seasons, a father implicitly emphasizes his natural relationship with his children.

Worship with Them

Lastly, a father should establish worship with his family.  He should regularly take his children to Masjid for prayers, and make them participate in the Friday prayers, Takbeerat of the Eids, the Taraweeh prayers, Qiyam al-Lail, Salat ut-Tasbeeh, lectures and Halaqas. He should sometimes pray at home as the Imam of his family. By doing so, a father sends the message to his family that although he is in charge, he is also ultimately answerable to Allah (swt).

We do not know what destiny Allah (swt) has written for each child, but by taking the above steps, fathers will be assuring themselves that they have attempted to fulfill their responsibilities in the child’s early years. The only recourse left after that to fathers is to make supplications for their children, as the supplication of a father for his child is accepted.

A Clean Slate

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Being raised in a society of ‘liberal’ and ‘moderate’ Muslims that believe in the freedom of expression, one is obliged to respect and tolerate matters that are against the teachings of Allah and His Messenger (sa). Those who dare to disagree are accused of being rigid, backward, fanatic, extremist, or narrow minded, depending on the category the individual best fits, according to their level of acceptance and their intensity of reaction.

An average Muslim’s goal in life has become finding happiness by submitting to his own Nafs (the base self) and keeping it satisfied at any cost. This contagious disease of wanting to acquire Dunya, is what we strive to pass on to our children too.

We can bring a change, primarily, by taking charge of our Nafs and then passing on the Khair of this Deen through actions and speech to our offspring. 

Parents take pride in getting their daughters married to a well to do man regardless of where the money is coming from. Similarly, some others take pride in their sons earning a lot of money through any means. We are in danger of forgetting what is  Halal or Haram.

We need to ask ourselves, what kind of society do we want to give our children? How many people seriously worry about their sons not praying Salah, or daughters not wearing  Hijab or husbands earning Haram wages or parents not doing proper Tarbiyah (raising) of their children? Whose worshippers do we want them to be? Worshippers of The Most Merciful or worshippers of the most wretched, Iblis. This is one of the things we as parents will be held accountable for. Rasool Allah’s Hadith affirms the influence of parenthood as he (sa) said:

“No baby is born but upon Fitrah (inclination towards Islam). It is his parents who make him a Jew or a Christian or a Polytheist.” (Muslim)

Anticipating our children approaching a fire, would we sit back and only warn them by saying, don’t go near it, it will harm you.’ No, we would take drastic measures and would do anything to stop them from being harmed. Then why do we settle on mere suggestions about preparing for Akhirah? Why do we lack the extensive measures? Is it not inevitable? Does it not need a severe action/reaction? How can we not be anxious about it while surrounded by  Fitnah (trials/mischief)? Do we possess a family visa for Jannah? Allah (swt) says in the Quran:

O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded. (At-Tahrim 66:6)

Ironically, instead of preparing our children for Akhirah from childhood and providing them with favourable conditions where they can embrace their Deen with confidence, we adopt a relaxed approach. After providing them with various distractions and Fitnah throughout childhood and getting them used to a worthless and aimless lifestyle, we expect them to focus on the real goal as grown-ups.

After death, our children will either be a reason for our comfort or torment.They are sent to as clean slates for us to decide what we want to write on them. Therefore, they will either escort us to Jannah or push us into hellfire.

This is similar to plunging someone in filth while expecting them to remain clean. Have we ever pondered on the fact that we will be questioned for every blessing sent to us? How can we assume that we will not be held accountable for bringing up of the worshipper of Allah, being one of the most significant blessings?

After death, our children will either be a reason for our comfort or torment.They are sent to as clean slates for us to decide what we want to write on them. Therefore, they will either escort us to Jannah or push us into hellfire.

Allah’s Messenger (sa) said:

“When a man dies, all his good deeds come to an end, except for three cases; the charity of continuous blessings, beneficial knowledge which he leaves behind and a righteous child who prays for him.” (Muslim)

Sorrowfully, we believe that as long as we get worldly prosperity, tangible benefits, respect, validation, appreciation and happiness, we’ve reached our goal.

People openly disobey Allah and it affects very few and those who are genuinely concerned are mocked and ridiculed with nasty names. Such type of mind-set is encouraged by Shaitan, as he wants to make us act like him.

The question is, do we want such a society for our future generations where their motives are questioned and are directed by the masses, where our children and we are embarrassed to embrace our beliefs and values with conviction and confidence? After what our generation has seen and gone through, do we want to allow this Fitnah to pass on to our children? This becomes a reason for our failure in this life and the next.

We can individually and collectively resolve to reform ourselves. We can bring a change, primarily, by taking charge of our Nafs and then passing on the Khair of this Deen through actions and speech to our offspring. The need of the day is to rectify our lives by reshaping our beliefs, perspectives, and ideas and to redirect our focus to the correct source, Allah (swt). Why? Because, we want to be liberated from the shackles of Iblis and his allies and we want the eternal success and everlasting bliss, through complete submission to the will of Allah (swt). This my friend, is the solution.

May Allah (swt) help us remember Him, repent and rectify ourselves, individually and socially. Ameen.

Walking the Talk

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Raising good Muslims is a difficult task. Many a times, parents encounter problems while raising their kids to become good Muslims – problems that seem impossible to solve. Following is a valuable piece of advice for those who find raising a Mumin a tough call.

Parents are Allah’s (swt) precious blessing. They love us unconditionally and want the best for us. We only realize the extreme love that our parents have for us, when we become parents ourselves. We then understand that whatever our parents used to do for us was for our own good. Furthermore, we also realize that good parenting is a great responsibility. Parents lay the foundation of a Muslim nation.

Having children is a natural desire ingrained in mankind. The Quran tells us how prophets supplicated for a pious offspring. Prophet Ibrahim (as) and his wife Sarah supplicated to Allah (swt) for a child despite their old age. It is said that Ibrahim (as) was more than 110 years old, when the angel came and told him that he would have a child. His wife was around 95 years of age. Even though they had been praying to Allah (swt) for an offspring for at least 80 years, they were shocked to hear the good news, since they were very old. Similarly, Prophet Zakariyah (as) wanted a child – he had been supplicating to Allah (swt) for over 70 to 80 years. The angel came and blessed him with a child by the name of Yahya.

There are many stories in the Quran about good parenting that we can take lessons from. Analyze how Prophet Ibrahim (as) treated his son Ismail (as) after he saw in a dream that he has to sacrifice him. What does he do? Does he sneak into his teenager son’s room and tie him up quickly to do what was required of him? Does he trick him? No, he engages in a very mature, intellectual conversation. He treats his teenage son like an adult.

This teaches us that if we treat a teenager like an adult, he starts acting like one. On the contrary, when you treat him like a kid, he never grows up. Ibrahim (as) told his son the truth – he trusted him and knew that the way he has raised him, his son will never reject Allah’s (swt) command. Ibrahim (as) then sought his son’s advice. This is how Islam treats a teenager. Islamically speaking, when one reaches the age of 14 or 15, s/he is an adult and is required to be a full practicing Muslim. Unfortunately, our society which emulates the West, considers an individual before 18 years of age to be an immature adolescent. However, Islam teaches us that if a mature, intellectual person is treated like a kid, s/he will act like one, resulting in delayed maturity. The companions of the Prophet (sa) gave their children responsibilities and pushed them to act beyond their years. When they treated them like adults, they began to act like one.

In the Quran, the story of Luqman (as) has a lot of lessons for parents. He taught his son Islam; made sure that he worshipped Allah (swt) Alone; taught him to be respectful to his parents and to be conscious of Allah (swt) wherever he was. He did not beat him over every single action. He instilled in him the overall consciousness that a Mumin has of Allah (swt). He also taught him to be active and fulfill social obligations, command what is good, forbid what is evil and have humility and perfect manners.

Ibn Qayyim, the famous scholar, stated that the greatest reason a person goes astray is that his parents do not take care of him and neglect him. At times, too much love also spoils children. The overly protective and loving parents think they are doing the best for their son or daughter, but in reality they are not. The companions would have their young children, who were only six or seven years old, fast the whole month of Ramadan. How many of us would do that? It is imperative to develop the child’s interest and make him or her fast at the age of eight, nine or ten years.

Furthermore, parents should always instruct their children to perform prayers and recite the Quran. Parents should be firm yet loving. They should not be overly strict; otherwise, the children will retaliate. There are very few families where a father raises a family in an Islamic environment with gentleness. This is the key, because if you are too strict, the youngsters can backlash.

For children, parents are the role models – they try to emulate their actions; hence, if the parents are pious and practicing Muslims, the children will learn to be the same. Even if they go astray for some time, they will eventually mend their ways and become good Muslims, because their parents were always meticulous and practicing Muslims. However, if the parents do not give any importance to Islam, the children will learn to be the same (with a few exceptions). If parents will only give verbal instructions without showing practically what our beautiful religion teaches us, it will not impact their children’s minds. If parents will tell them to be good, but are not good themselves, then they are nothing less than hypocrites. Their children will see through them immediately, and as soon as they leave the nest, they will go astray (if they are not already!).

On the contrary, if parents will walk the talk, practically show their children what Islam teaches us, live up the ideals of Islam and be a good Muslim, their children will have a strong Islamic foundation. Even if they go astray temporarily, they will soon come round and be Mumins.

Parents who do not understand the importance of practical representation and just give verbal instructions to their kids will soon realize that their efforts are in vain. Complaining will be of no use when their kid is 18 years of age. If they have not done anything for the last 18 years, they cannot make a difference now. Their children’s hearts will not nurture that deep understanding and love for Islam, and even if they try to make them follow it, they will fail. Many parents face this problem and later complain that they cannot get their son to be interested in Islam. Why weren’t they interested in Islam when their child was young? Why didn’t they open up the Quran? Why didn’t they fast and pray? Why do they expect their child to do what they didn’t do?

The key to good Islamic upbringing lies in practical application. The simple solution is for the parents to be Muslims. They should be role models for their sons and daughters, and their children will grow up looking at them, appreciating them and imitating them. The way to perfect Islam and to make sure that Islam lives on from generation to generation is to practice it yourselves, so that your children grow up seeing that reality of Islam, practicing it themselves and passing it down to their children.

Transcribed and adapted for “Hiba” by Bushra Naseem.

Brooming your Kids

Brooming the Kids

By Abeer Khan

My mother loves a clean and tidy house. Having been brought up in a house, where women were happily engaged in all sorts of productive activities, from sewing bridal dresses to cooking culinary delights, she has come to expect nothing less from her daughters. Thus, my two sisters and I have been trained – in combat style – by our mother, to juggle our studies along with household chores. It is fun, although I must confess that it is not always smooth sailing.

Not many youngsters are lucky enough to be brought up in a similar manner. With so many families relying entirely on maids for housekeeping, a lot of teenagers, girls and boys, often do not have many domestic duties. I believe they miss out on a very important phase of character development. Occasional housework drills a lot of humility into a person and makes us realize, how hard our poor maids have to work, in order to keep the cutlery gleaming and the surfaces polished.

Getting kids to play a role – even a small one – in housekeeping, is only going to prepare them in dealing more effectively with difficulties and responsibilities that come in later life. A particular Mr. X would be less likely to pick on his food, if he has spent some time in the hot kitchen, learning to cook a dish or two. There are countless situations, where our domestic skills will help us out and prevent us from blowing our top. I have noticed how housekeeping teaches you these skills and virtues:

Discipline

When you have to do the cleaning before the guests arrive, there is no delaying it. It would hardly leave a good impression, if you are inconspicuously trying to wipe off the dust on the center table in front of the company.

Management skills

One sibling usually becomes the leader and divides the work to maintain peace and order during housework. How to manage and divide chores is important for future teamwork projects, because one has to put up with similar complaints and fusses that one would encounter during a cleanup Sunday.

Patience

Well, cleaning something over and over again, knowing that it’s going to get dirty soon, is bound to make you a little patient if anything – take a mirror, for example, which has a natural affinity to greasy spots and fingerprints.

Respect for your mother

…for all the years she did your laundry without complaints.

Ability to bear with your boss

Just imagine your boss to be an evil dust bunny, who just needs an extra brushing every once in a while to get him all shiny and sweet. If he is not happy with an assignment, improve upon it – for when a stain does not go with an ordinary cleaner, you have to take out the extra powerful one sitting underneath the sink.

Learning to deal with great expectations

Sometimes, the amount of housework you do is just not enough, and your mother will surely expect more from you as you grow. Isn’t it the same with life? As you grow, the world starts expecting more from you. Since “high achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation”, we need to learn to deal with those expectations. Housekeeping teaches us just that.

Crisis management

Everyone knows how frenzied that one moment is, when the bell suddenly rings on a lazy Sunday afternoon and you take a peek through the eye-piece to see a couple of formal guests standing at the doorstep. All hell breaks loose, as you frantically run all over the place, wiping surfaces and stuffing clothes in the cupboards, while also trying to get into shape yourself. Now, does this situation not teach you how to deal with a crisis?

So, the next time you think you will be overburdening your kid by asking her to take out the trash or by asking him to do the dishes, just stop and realize how those chores could actually teach him/her the importance of producing less garbage (to reduce his chore time and save the planet, of course) and being grateful for a clean plate. These chores seem insignificant right now but will play a huge role in shaping your child’s character in the long run.

Children Reaching Puberty

pubertyCulturally, aspects like puberty are considered taboo. It is considered to be a matter of grave shame to even mention it, let alone explain it to our growing children. Consequently, our ignorance and false beliefs inflict most damage to our children, who at their tender age of innocence and discovery find themselves in dark alleys. They don’t know whom to turn to for their questions and are left to their own devices to feed their curiosity. The most comfortable arrangement for parents is usually to keep a tight lid on such sensitive issues or pass the buck over to teachers, friends, and other sources to take ownership.

This is a vital educational process, and parents cannot sit back disconnected, assuming everything will turn out to be just fine! Here are a few tips to help parents who are contemplating a talk with their children approaching puberty. Even if your adolescent kids are past that stage but never had a chance to discuss it with you, this is the time to explore their thoughts and give them a clearer understanding regarding the subject.

Need

It all begins with your own need as a parent to recognize that education on puberty and relevant issues is significant for your child’s biological, emotional, social, and moral well-being. Admit and understand that in absence of correct and complete information your kids may feel frightened, moody, confused, or at a low esteem, due to the sudden changes in their bodies.

Disparity

Make no distinction between girls and boys when imparting education on intimate matters. The most difficult challenge arises when boys in the house start asking questions like why their sister is not praying, fasting, or reading Quran with them. Generally, they are told lies, or excuses are made to hush up the subject. Hence, it is necessary to educate boys as well as girls, to avoid story telling which is prohibited in Islam anyways. Besides, boys are no different from girls in terms of changes and feelings that they experience with puberty, so why should they be treated differently?

Time

The most effective time to provide your children with any information is before signs of puberty begin to arise. This may vary in kids from nine years onwards. You may talk in general about Allah’s creations and the fact that He created things in pairs. After opening up a line of communication, be available for their questions and observations in future.

Preparation

Read and prepare yourself. This will enhance their trust in your knowledge and will put you in a comfortable slot too. Just as you have taught them school academics, good manners etc. this will be just another educational experience for your kids rather than a melodrama. Following is a checklist to help you prepare:

  • Anatomy (structure) and physiology (function) of the human body
  • Emotional, moral and physical aspects of puberty
  • The menstrual cycle
  • The sexual act and guidelines in Islam
  • The reproductive cycle
  • Conception, development of the fetus and birth
  • Islamic perspective on marriage and modesty

Information

Take into consideration their level of understanding and maturity before answering their questions. However, do not push the subject too much nor dump heaps of information at once. Give them gradual bits of information as they begin to question. Also, avoid graphic descriptions that create anxiety and fear. Remember, that this is a learning opportunity for them and not a forum to create thrill and suspense.

Concealment

Do not conceal information. They will eventually come to know through hand-me-down information tossed around by older siblings, friends, pornographic magazines, movies, or web sites. It is far better that they hear it from you.

Modesty

You may explain gently to your kids that a subject like this is a private issue not to be discussed in public. Islam greatly advocates modesty and refuses to place anyone in an embarrassing position by making a talk show out of personal and intimate matters. Neither does it allow ridiculing anyone or embarrassing him or her. To be educated about puberty is one thing, but to create and spread perversion is absolutely forbidden.

Trial

Puberty is also a test from Allah to check which of His slaves are ready to observe the limits set by Him by safeguarding their chastity and satisfying their intimate desires within the legal capacity of marriage. Culturally, we expect chastity of girls; however, boys are granted leniency. Here, it needs to be reiterated, that boys are as much answerable and accountable for their actions as are girls.

Appreciation

The beauty of Allah’s blessings is such, that along every trial He has placed abundant mercy and satisfaction in everything granted to us. It is the case of puberty. Dr. Aisha Hamdan quotes: “Sexuality is a blessing given to us from Allah. It is obvious for the purpose of procreation, but is a mercy from Allah that there is also enjoyment and satisfaction that comes with it.” Teach your children to be thankful to Allah for it.

Marriage

Sexuality and marriage go hand in hand in Islam. Maintaining illicit relations are prohibited. The Prophet Muhammad (sa) said: “He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him to lower his gaze (from looking at forbidden things and other women) and save his private parts (from committing illegal sexual acts) and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to observe fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power.” (Bukhari)

Allah will question our kids standing at the threshold of adolescence for their choices and actions. As capable parents, we must empower them to learn to guard themselves against the many trials surrounding them today.

If the subject makes you highly uncomfortable, ask a trusted friend or a relative to be available to talk to your child, but do not stifle his right to learn and apply correctly. Educate them truthfully, keep a vigilant eye, pray to Allah, and place your trust in your kids to enable them to pass the tests with flying colours (Insha’Allah)!

The Creator and Our Kids

Image creator and kidsLove and recognition of Allah (swt) is not a cap that can be picked up from any store and worn on our heads. It needs to be grown gradually with care, wisdom and knowledge. It starts with the inception of life and not after one turns fifty, and heads towards the prayer mat. What our kids need is the right start in the right direction. Here is how we can achieve this goal:

Pre-birth relations

Allah (swt) breathes a soul into the unborn child in the fourth month of its conception in the mother’s womb. Allah (swt) states: “It is He Who fashioned you in the wombs as He pleases. There is no deity except Him, the All-Mighty, the All-Wise.” (Al-Imran 3:6)

By the seventh month the foetus is able to respond to stimuli including pain, light and sound. By the end of the eighth month, it has undergone tremendous brain development and is now capable of seeing and hearing.

Besides nurturing a bond with her unborn child the mother may help her child develop ties with its Creator too.

The mother can recite the Quran aloud, or play an audiotape. This will provide solace to her, and also familiarize her baby with the Divine Revelation.

Much of the anxiety of a pregnant woman departs by praying to Allah (swt) for her own, and her unborn child’s health and safety.

The parents can give their child a head start by indulging themselves in simple good deeds.

Most significantly, the parents will have prepared a home environment, to welcome the baby, where everyone thinks and talks about Allah (swt).

Relations at birth:

Once the baby is born, as parents, we must thank Allah (swt) for the blessing bestowed upon us. The child is now admitted as the newest member of the Muslim Ummah by following Prophet Muhammad’s (sa) Sunnah, which is not obligatory but comes highly recommended. This includes the following rituals:

Adhan should be called out in the newborn’s ear. The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said: “If one has a baby and makes the Adhan in its right ear and the Iqamah in its left ear, Satan will not disturb the child, Allah willing.” (Bayhaqi)

Tahneek refers to softening a date by any ordinary means and rubbing a small amount in the baby’s mouth.

Tasmiyah means naming a child. The Prophet (sa) said: “On the Day of Resurrection, you will be called by your names and by your father’s names, so give yourself good names.” (Abu Dawood)

Aqeeqah means to slaughter a sheep or other animal to celebrate birth of a child.

Relations in the first two years

A man came to Malik Ibn Nabiy asking for advice about his daughter’s education. Malik asked him: “How old is she?” The man replied: “One month.” Malik said: “You missed the train.” This statement may seem an exaggeration, but a child’s learning starts from the time it comes to this world. Our baby swiftly learns to cry for attention, food, a nappy change, and more. Parents can do much during these formative years:

The parents can continue reading the Quran, or playing an audiotape of it for the baby at least once or twice a day.

Parents become very upset when their child disturbs their prayer. The Prophet (sa) use to offer his prayers even while carrying his grandchildren in his arms.

Parents can set out a separate prayer mat and allow the kid to imitate them in prayers, as children love to emulate grownups.

Whenever the toddler does something deserving praise, he should always be told how Allah (swt) must be happy with him and will reward him, Insha’Allah.

As parents, we should not invoke fear of the Creator into children’s hearts by telling them how they will be punished for bad behaviour. The Prophet (sa) said: “There are three (kinds of people) whose actions are not recorded: a sleeper until he awakens, a boy (referring to children) until he reaches puberty, and a lunatic until he comes to reason.” (Abu Dawood)

Relations in the first five years

Abu Hurairah (rta) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (sa) said: “No child is born except on the Fitrah (of connectedness to Allah (swt)), as the animal gives birth to a perfect offspring. Do you find it mutilated? Then his parents Judaize or Christianize or Magianize him.” (Bukhari)

Norma Tarazi a writer, explains: “Being born in Fitrah does not mean being perfect. Our Fitrah prepares us to receive the guidance of Allah (swt) and to search for it, but we need that knowledge from outside ourselves in order to live in the best way.” The provider of this knowledge is the parent. Ibn Al-Qayyim rightly observes: “If you consider the causes of bad behaviour in children, you will, in general, find that the parents are the main cause.” Parents can play a positive role by following these steps:

It is best to teach children the Quran at an early age, since their minds are razor sharp and can pick new things easily and steadily.

Kids love bedtime stories, so this is an opportunity to narrate real life accounts of our prophets and their companions.

Parents can teach kids short Duas for different occasions, which help the child remember Allah (swt) at frequent intervals like, before eating, sleeping etc

We can inculcate gratitude in the child by helping him understand how the good food, toys, games, love, and everything in life comes from Allah (swt).

Whenever the child errs, parents may explain to him that he can mend ways by sincerely repenting to Allah (swt), and resolving to do better next time.

Relations in the first ten years

The companions of the Prophet (sa) took this great duty of child education at heart. They harshly reprimanded those who gave more attention to the grownups than to the children. Amr Ibn Al-As (rta) saw a group of men sitting next to the Kabah. They ordered the children to keep away from their gathering. He told them: “Do not do that! Let them join you and be near you, and give them guidance. They may be young today, but they will be adults tomorrow.” Parents can gear their kids’ energies in the right direction by doing much:

Once the kid is mature, we can explain him the purpose of our existence. Our mission to do good and stay away from evil. Once we return to Allah (swt), we will be judged for our deeds and accordingly rewarded for them.

We must teach the meaning of the Quran in any language of preference. We can only expect our kids to benefit from this knowledge if they are able to understand it and not by having just read it like a parrot.

The parents can invite their children to observe the wonderful creations of Allah (swt) and how the Quran defined them hundreds of years ago even before they were discovered scientifically.

As parents we must build our child’s trust in the Creator (swt). The kid must believe that it is Allah (swt) who can help him in any situation; He is watching him, and listening to him everywhere.

Assessing the prevalent scenario around us, Mounir Ibrahim a prolific writer comments: “Our children are indeed the future trustees of the Muslim Ummah. The importance of education should be even more emphasized in these times when falsehood is so widespread. If the parents do not rescue their children with a strong Islamic education, the children will melt in the pot and may join the ranks of those who wage war against Allah (swt) and the believers.”