15 Common Mistakes in Ramadan


Common Mistakes

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Errors committed regarding the rules and regulations of fasting

  1. The most common is that the Muslims- many a times- they don’t do Niyyah for fasting.Intention is very important; without Niyyah, without intention, the fasting is not accepted. Hence, making intention is obligatory.
  2. Many Muslims continue eating their Sehri even after the Fajr Adhan has started; and they think that the end of the Suhoor time is only at the end of the Fajr Adhan. In fact, the moment the Fajr Adhan starts, the moment the beginning of Dawn starts, the Suhoor time ends. So, this is error which normally nullifies or invalidates the fast.
  3. The third error is that many people delay paying their Zakat-ul- Fitr; and many a times, they pay that after Eid-ul-Fitr Salah. If we pay the Zakat-ul- Fitr after Eid-ul-Fitr, then it is like normal charity, it does not come under the Zakat-ul- Fitr.

Errors contradictory to the Sunnah of fasting

  1. Many people skip the Suhoor.
  2. Some people have an early Suhoor i.e. they have the suhoor one or two hours before the Fajr time; in fact the Suhoor is a blessing- every Muslim should have it. And, the Prophet (sa) said: “You should delay the Suhoor as much as possible.” Thus, you can have Suhoor till just before the Fajr time.
  3. The third mistake committed by Muslims in this category is that they delay opening their fast- that is they delay their Iftar. Prophet Muhammad (sa) said: ‘The people will be good, as long as, they hasten in breaking their fast. That means immediately after sunset, they should have their Iftar.
  4. Many Muslims read unauthentic Dua during Iftar. The most authentic Dua for Iftar is:


Meaning: “My thirst is quenched, the veins are moistened, and the Ajr is near Insha’Allah (God willing the reward is near).”

  1. Some people when they read this Dua for breaking the fast, they say it before breaking the fast. Before they put the date in their mouth, they say this Dua; and its contradictory to its meanings- that my thirst has been quenched, and the veins have been moistened- thirst cannot be quenched before breaking the fast. So normally, it should be said after you eat the date, after you have water, and you are satisfied- may be some minutes after you break the fast, you can read this Dua.
  2. Many Muslims eat excessively during Iftar, and many of them, even eat throughout the night.
  3. They are negligent, as far as, Taraweeh are concerned. Because Taraweeh is not a Fardh-they think there is no problem if a Muslim misses Taraweeh. Though Taraweeh is not a Fard, but it’s a very important Sunnah; and a Muslim who misses Taraweeh, is missing a great reward.
  4. Many Muslims who perform Taraweeh, they read very fast- 100 miles per hour. They try to finish it in short time, and they defeat the purpose; in fact, they should read it in the moderate pace so that people understand, and they grasp the words of Allah (swt).
  5. Those who go for Itikaf in the mosque, many of them socialize during Itikaf- as though it’s the time to meet people and friends- which is totally contrary to the Sunnah.
  6. Many Muslims think that the Laylatul Qadr is on the 27th night of the Ramadan, and they only worship Allah (swt) on this night. In fact, the beloved Prophet Muhammad (sa) said: “Search for the laylatul Qadr in the odd nights of the last 10 days (the last Ashra).” Therefore, Laylatul Qadr can either fall on the 21st, 23rd, 25th, 27th, or 29th Hence, this is one of the common errors made by Muslims.
  7. They spend their time during Ramadan in unproductive work rather than engaging in Dhikr, and worshiping Allah (swt). They must rather spend time offering the Nawafil (the voluntary Salah) – the Sunnah Salah besides the compulsory Salah.
  8. They should do a lot of Dua.
  9. Ask for forgiveness; this is the month of forgiveness.
  10. They should read the Quran- as much as possible- to get blessing of Allah (swt).
  11. They fast and they keep themselves hungry; but basically, they are not mentally prepared for the fast. And, it is as though, they are staying hungry. But, the main purpose of fasting is to acquire Taqwa which is not obtained.

Transcribed for Hiba Magazine by Hira Naqi

Ask the Savvy Parent: Mealtimes are Wartimes

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Dear Savvy Parent,

How do I get my 4-year-old son to not be such a picky eater, and also eat on his own without my husband or I having to feed him?

Dear parent,

First off, you are not alone in this. There are many parents who face similar challenges. It is important to remember that picky eating is temporary. If you don’t make it a big deal, it will usually end before school-going age.

Change will not happen overnight. It will take some time for you to see any changes or improvements. Don’t give up and always be consistent. Relax and take it easy. The key is consistency.

Here are some proactive things you can do to deal with fussy eating and help your child learn to eat on his own and try new foods:

  1. Offer the same foods for the whole family. Don’t be a “short-order cook,” by making a different meal for your child. Never cook something for your child that you would not eat yourself. Most children like to eat the meals their parents are eating.
  2. Make sure your child eats with the whole family. There is no point making him or her sit and eat, while no one else is. You would end up fighting a lost battle.
  3. Most kids like to try foods they help make. Encourage your children to help you prepare meals and snacks. Let them help you with the grocery shopping. Teach your child to tear lettuce or add veggie toppings to pizza, for example. You will be surprised what you can get children to eat if they have helped to prepare it.
  4. Try to make meals a stress-free time. Talk about fun and happy things. If arguments often happen at mealtimes, your child may develop unhealthy attitudes toward food.
  5. Offer two choices. Rather than asking “Do you want broccoli for dinner?” ask: “What would you like for dinner: broccoli or cauliflower?”
  6. Use the Bowl of Bites Method to decide the number of bites the child must eat.  At times, trying to negotiate the number of bites can be never ending and lead to arguments. This is where the bowl comes in (explained below).
  7. Your children will be okay even if they don’t eat a meal now and then. Children never starve themselves. If they are not eating, leave them be. Make sure snacks are out of reach, though. Carry on with your meal. Eventually when they do get hungry and want food bring out the plate of food that was not eaten during mealtime. Eventually they will give in and eat it. At this time, give them verbal reinforcement.

Bowl of bites
For some parents, establishing a required number of bites can help. Select a reasonable number of minimum bites, for example, five. Two or three bites are not enough. In a bowl, keep about 10 pieces of small paper, folded in half, with a number written inside them. Have a variety of numbers ranging from the minimum (in this case, six) to about nine. During mealtime say, “Let’s see what the bowl of bites decides for us.” Allow your child to pick out a piece of paper and read the number on it. Whatever the number says is the number of bites that are required to be eaten. If your child is the type to go back and forth negotiating to get his way, the best way to get around such a situation to remove yourself out of the negotiation. These “bowls” can also be adapted to be used in many other situations.

For a child who will not eat on his or her own, the bowl of bites can also help by establishing the number of bites the child has to eat on his own. In this case, the numbers could start smaller such as three. Alternatively, taking turns can help. Your child takes a bite on his or her own and then you feed them the next bite and so on. Eventually, as they get comfortable with this, you can feed less and less bites.

Change will not happen overnight. It will take some time for you to see any changes or improvements. Don’t give up and always be consistent. Relax and take it easy. The key is consistency.

Insha’Allah, I hope this helps. Happy Parenting!

The Savvy Parent

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