Love Allah and Allah will Love You

ALLAHIn one of my favourite verses of the Quran, Allah (swt) the Almighty, commands: “And indeed We have created man, and We know what his ownself whispers to him. And We are nearer to him than his jugular vein (by Our Knowledge).” (Qaf 50:16)
This verse of the Quran says it all. Allah (swt) is the Most Merciful. He loves His creations more than a mother’s love multiplied by seventy. It is only us who have to feel His presence in each and every aspect of our lives.
We are bound to thank Him for His blessings upon us. Even single second we breathe is itself a reward from our Lord. We have to seek Allah’s (swt) help in every matter and as a reward Allah (swt) will make us comfortable in our matters. If we try to make ourselves closer to Allah (swt), He will definitely and undoubtedly come towards us. I realized these impacts on my lifestyle.

1. More Meaningful Life

Once you set your priorities according to Allah’s (swt) commands, you will eventually feel that Allah (swt) does everything for a reason. You find that your efforts are fruitful and worthwhile. For example, if you are a student and you are focused to achieve good grades; if you are running a household, you know that it is not just for the sake of doing it – it is an obligation upon you and you will be rewarded for all your efforts and sincerity. It seems to you, as if everything you have been doing is worthwhile.

2. Time Management

You have a number of duties and responsibilities. Thus, once you schedule them, you can easily complete your tasks and get away from chaotic situations. You master the art of managing time with all your tasks accomplished. You try to keep away from all the worldly and, of course, useless activities, because you realize that this time is an Amanah from the Almighty. Managing time gives you worldly rewards as well as rewards in the hereafter. So you have a win-win situation!

3. Reward for Your Actions

You always get rewarded for whatever good you do. Allah (swt) rewards for all your good deeds. One exemplary deal from Allah (swt) is that even if we think to do something good and somehow we are not able to do it, we get a reward for it! Subhan’Allah! And when we perform it, we get double the reward. So whatever tasks you perform, do them with zeal and fervour and Allah (swt) will grant you success in both the worlds. Insha’Allah.

4. Relief from Worries, Distress and Troubles

If you are facing a stressful situation, Allah (swt) gives you the courage to handle it. You get stronger for that situation and are able to tackle it wisely. Moreover, Allah (swt) says that He is happy with the person who raises his hands in front of Him. He is always ready to bestow His mercy upon us.

5. Submission to Allah’s (swt) Will

When you submit to Allah’s (swt) will, you eventually find everything in Allah’s (swt) hands. You will feel that whatever is happening in your life, wherever the road is going, is absolutely Allah’s (swt) will. You have that feeling deep inside that it is all predestined by Allah (swt).

Allah (swt) is in favour of the believers, because He loves you and you love Him, too!

It’s not Bad to be Sad

sadCo-authored by Umm Isam

We often aim to escape from a phase of sadness, assuming that it’s not a ‘good’ or ‘normal’ state to be in. We feel sorry for people, who are undergoing certain sorrow or distress. Have we wondered why we are feeling this way? We often fail to realize that sadness is an emotion just like any other emotion in our life. Why do we feel so bad about being sad? How did we come to this conclusion that sadness is bad and happiness is good? Let’s look into some reasons which we fail to acknowledge.

It is important to note that we live in a capitalist structure of society, which was initiated in the era of industrialization. Capitalism defines the society in a way that everyone seeks happiness in a certain object or material product. It has designed the media, products, schooling system, movies and dramas in a way that depicts a constant search for material happiness. Media is a powerful agent of the capitalists. They use it to condition humans in a way that their subconscious mind is engraved into attaining worldly or material products in order to gain happiness.

A prominent example is the common ad of skin whitening creams, which always show two main scenes: the first scene with a girl who looks dull, dark and ‘sad’; the second scene shows a girl who looks fresh, fair and ‘happy’. Our mind is way smarter than we perceive it to be; hence, it catches even the slightest details and stores it in our subconscious memory. Next time, when we face a similar situation, we tend to pick what’s available in our subconscious mind. In this case, the media has fed us to look for happiness in a simple skin whitening cream.

Another common example of imposed happiness can be seen on Facebook. Have you ever noticed on Facebook any pictures of your friends crying or looking dull? I am sure not or very rarely. Even if people are feeling gloomy and sad, they pose with hugs and smiles when someone brings out the camera. It is obvious that they are smiling merely for Facebook and do not feel the actual happiness of that smile. This happens because of the basic concept that we have to be happy all the time, which is neither necessary nor natural.

Media perpetuates products and ads, which depict humans fetching happiness all the time, or it tries to provide steps of gaining ultimate happiness. Movies and dramas are filled with ‘they lived happily ever after’, happy endings and successful protagonists, giving us a message that we have to avail happiness in the same way, and if we don’t, then we are not normal.

Furthermore, the system of capitalism has also initiated many diseases, for example, depression, bipolar disorders and even eating disorders. It depicts and defines ‘happy’ for us, and then we develop a feeling of Hasad (envy) trying to seek that happiness for ourselves; hence, we increase the risks of such diseases as depression and anxiety. The societal pressure to look happy weighs people down so heavily that they often need to seek professional help.  People experiencing depression visit psychiatrists, who prescribe anti-depressants. These drugs are highly priced and require to be taken for a long time. Pharmaceutical companies are making millions out of them, so they rope in doctors, who at times are not even qualified to prescribe these drugs. Furthermore, the chemicals in these drugs prevent the self-correctional process of human body that Allah (swt) has granted, thus throwing everything into disarray. Sometimes, all a sad person needs is counselling from another wise person or friend, instead of antidepressants.

The pressure to feel joyful is so immense that when a child falls or a teenager fails at something, parents don’t even want to acknowledge their sorrow. A child is told that all is okay and he must not cry. The adolescent is admonished to display bravado and not immaturity. In contrast, psychologists strongly advise to acknowledge these distressful feelings and emotionally empathize with these kids. This is to ensure that they will trust their feelings the next time. If we muffle them, they would eventually become desensitized and won’t respond to anybody’s pain, assuming it to be wrong. If we cut our finger and do not acknowledge it, we can actually bleed to death unknowingly. It is Allah’s (swt) mercy to feel hurt in order to recover and survive.

Allah (swt) designed everything with symmetry. If there is hot, then there is cold, too. Too much of anything makes survival difficult and can eventually destroy the system. Similarly, Allah (swt) designed happiness and sadness together, complimenting each other and giving symmetry to our life.

We, as Muslims, are well aware of the fact that nothing can stay forever. How can we expect happiness or even sadness to stay forever in our lives? A common example is going on a vacation. We enjoy ourselves and experience great happiness; however, if the vacation gets too long, we eventually start getting homesick. This is because nothing can keep us happy or sad forever. The system of Allah (swt) is flawless and everything is balanced with both positives and negatives.

Allah (swt) is the One, Who makes us happy or sad. In a state of sadness, we are not permitted to utter the words of Kufr, fall into disbelief, pose threat or harm to others, and doubt the existence of Allah (swt), or whether He has forsaken us. Some incidents in life cannot be explained through reasoning and seem very unjust, but Duniya is not Dar-ul-Jaza (a place where we will be rewarded). It is imperfect. It is a place of test for a believer, so he can score well with Sabr and Salah and attain the most exquisite bounties of Paradise, which will be perfect. Good people may be afflicted with severe hardships. Sadness should be a means to draw closer to our Rabb (swt) and ask for forgiveness.

If you remember Allah (swt) in times of joy, He will stay close to you in times of distress. A strong believer never forgets his Creator and always invokes Him alone for strength in sadness.

Instead of looking for happiness all the time, we should consider the perfect system designed by Allah (swt) and realize that no matter which emotion we experience, it should be treated well. Research has shown that crying can actually make people feel better and relieve the stress that was accumulating in their body. Therefore, it is better to let your sadness out and feel it completely; however, we should not let it overpower us and influence our lifestyle. We should learn from life events and move on. Don’t allow the media to condition a definition of happiness for you; rather, develop your own happiness. Be adventurous, take risks and always trust Allah (swt).