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A Momin is the one, who protects his private parts. Here sexual desire is not portrayed as evil in itself, because then it would imply that the righteous people live unmarried lives (away from the world like monks and hermits), which would be very unnatural. Therefore a parenthesis has been added to say that there is nothing wrong with satisfying your desires in lawful ways – the evil comes only when one transgresses the prescribed limits.
It was reported by Abu Dharr that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said: “In the sexual intercourse of any one of you there is reward (meaning, when he has intercourse with his wife).” They said: “O Messenger of Allah, when any one of us fulfils his desire, will he have a reward for that?” He (sa) said: “Do you not see that if he were to do it in a Haram manner, he would be punished for that? So if he does it in a Halal manner, he will be rewarded.” (Muslim, 720)
In our times, guarding oneself from all types of shamelessness is extremely difficult. Let us take a closer look at the ways Satan can trap us into thinking that we are far away from this grave sin.
Pornography (a topic, which we are embarrassed to discuss) is a growing epidemic in our society – it leading to immoral behavior. Pornography is a 97 billion business worldwide and has, in fact, become larger than the revenues of such top technology companies as Microsoft, Google, Amazon, Ebay, Yahoo, Apple, Netflix and EarthLink combined (www.familysafemedia.com “The War Within Our Hearts”). Once this habit sets in, it is extremely difficult to control. A believer is not permitted to look at the opposite gender clothed, let alone look at a person unclothed. Furthermore, acts of intimacy between husband and wife are meant to be kept private. Likewise, such activities make women into objects to be seen, rather than human beings. This, in turn, creates an environment, in which we neither respect women nor set a good example for our families. This is why the Prophet (sa) had put “guarding what is between the two legs” as one of the means for attaining Jannah. (“The War Within Our Hearts”)
Allah (swt) knows that sexual desires are natural and has, therefore, ordered the believers to lower their gaze and observe Hijab guidelines.
The Prophet (sa) has also said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it helps him to lower his gaze and protect his chastity. And whoever cannot do that, let him fast, for it will be a protection for him.” (Bukhaari, 9/92; Muslim, 1400)
Furthermore, Allah (swt) ordered the believers not to go even near fornication – all paths leading to fornication must be cut: “And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse.” (Al-Isra’ 17:32)
If the eyes will see such unlawful images in magazines, websites and videos, the heart will eventually be affected, paving the road to travel down until fornication is reached. We cannot fool ourselves that what we do is not serious, as it is stated in a Hadeeth:“The eye, their fornication is an illicit sight.”