When a believer commits a sin, he is filled up with remorse and guilt. This is nothing but a sign of Iman. It is the mercy of Allah (swt) that He has informed us beforehand about the major and the minor sins. However, this does not give one a license to continue their minor sins. If one does not avoid minor sins, then one day they will fall for the major ones. May Allah (swt) protect us all. Ameen. If a person commits a minor sin, the Prophet (sa) advised us to follow it up with a good deed. This is done in order to wipe out the effects of the bad deed.
In Surah Hud it appears, “And perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), at the two ends of the day and in some hours of the night (i.e. the five compulsory Salat (prayers)). Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds (i.e. small sins). That is a reminder (an advice) for the mindful (those who accept advice).” (Hud 11:114) Many people appear to be religious, but they have some hidden bad habits such as pornography.
How can one get rid of addictive bad habits?
First, exercise your willpower. Go cold turkey. But if a person finds himself weak, he keeps reverting to the sin after repentance, and then such a person should increase his good deeds. Add a lot of voluntary prayers, recitation and Dhikr in your routine; so much so that you have no time left for Laghw (non-beneficial) matters.
Stories of the past – a solace!
Allah (swt) narrates the stories of past nations in the Quran to enlighten us about them and to give us comfort and solace; like there were people before you who endured much intense challenges. Thus, if they could persevere and become victorious, you would too; if you rely on Allah (swt) and follow His commands.
“And all that We relate to you (O Muhammad (sa)) of the news of the Messengers is in order that We may make strong and firm your heart thereby. And in this (chapter of the Quran) has come to you the truth, as well as an admonition and a reminder for the believers.” (Hud 11:120)
A similar verse appears in Surah Yusuf, “Indeed in their stories, there is a lesson for men of understanding.” (Yusuf 12:111) A person can learn a lesson through the hard way, by not paying heed to advice; or they can learn through the easy way, by reading about the lives of other people, and being cautious of what could destroy them.
The story of Yusuf (as)
This story is bound to leave your teary-eyed. Allah (swt) says, “We relate unto you (Muhammad (sa)) the best of stories through Our Revelations unto you, of this Quran. And before this (i.e. before the coming of Divine Inspiration to you), you were among those who knew nothing about it (the Quran).” (Yusuf 12:3)
In Prophet Yusuf’s (as) story, we learn about the evils of jealousy; brothers harming their own brother out of jealousy. A jealous person cannot live in peace. He destroys his own peace and that of others. We should remember that Allah (swt) has decided who would get what.
How to get rid of jealousy?
Instead of being jealous of what someone has, we should rather make Dua to Allah (swt) to bless us with the same or a better blessing. Another cure for jealousy is that, instead of looking at what people have been gifted, we should see what Allah (swt) has given us. Perhaps, there is something that we have and they don’t. For example, a sister might be married; but the person to whom she is married doesn’t respect her or provide her any emotional support. On the other hand is a sister, who is not married yet; but her parents are kind and loving. Let’s consider another example, a person complains about his wife being out of shape. There’s another man whose wife is in shape, but too difficult to get along. Each of them has something to be grateful for. Jealousy blinds us. When evil thoughts come to your mind, seek the refuge with Allah (swt) from the cursed Shaytan.
Prophet Yusuf (as) saw a dream that eleven stars, and the sun and the moon are prostrating him. When he narrated this dream to his father, his father warned him, “He (the father) said: “O my son! Relate not your vision to your brothers, lest they arrange a plot against you. Verily! Shaytan (Satan) is to man an open enemy!” (Yusuf 12:5)
An important advice
Here is an important advice for us. Do not share everything with others; especially your future plans, because Shaytan uses your loved ones as a tool to harm you. Do not talk about it, unless you have achieved your task completely. May Allah (swt) protect us from jealousy and causing harm to others. Ameen.
One of the names of Allah (swt) is Ash-Shakoor. He is the Most Appreciative of His servants’ deeds. When sin becomes accessible to a person and that person chooses to stay away from it for the sake of Allah (swt), Allah (swt) elevates such a person in status. We see this in the story of Prophet Yusuf (as). A beautiful, wealthy woman tried to seduce him in the privacy of her house. There was nothing that could stop them besides the fear of Allah (swt). Yusuf (as) replied, He said: I seek refuge in Allah (or Allah forbid)! Truly, he (your husband) is my master! He made my stay agreeable! (So I will never betray him). Verily, the Zalimun (wrong and evil-doers) will never be successful.” (Yusuf 12:23) What a response!