Still so busy: Give elders time before time flies


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The older people are never a burden, but a blessing and a source of Barakah for the home and the family. Their experience and life stories can enlighten you in a way that no book or novel ever can.


If you see anyone around yourself- please be a source of pleasure and help for them. Listen to them; they are the people who have no careers, no success, and no vacations to look forward to. The major portion of their life is past them. It’s them and their sickness. Imagine how depressing! If they are in your homes, or you know them by any other source, it becomes your responsibility and duty to look after them; make them feel important, and let them take part in everything that matters.


The best thing you can give them is your time, and your patience to understand them- even if they can’t hear you properly, are not able to remember anything that you told them the other day, their behaviour changes with you frequently, or if they require extra time to carry out the daily life tasks. Realize that this phase comes with physical as well as emotional weakness.

Before brushing off the thought aside, all of us should keep in mind that this age could come to us too; we are all aging, and if not now, but at one point in our lives, we might go through the same dilemma.


It’s when they leave you that you realize how much they have taught you, and how much effect their presence had- even if they were bedridden. When I lost my grandfather, I realized that there was no one who could replace him. After his death, I used to find folded  pages of useful articles in magazines and newspapers that he kept  for me to read, for which I never had the time when he was alive. He was the one who had all the time of the world to listen to my tantrums, laugh at my silly chatter, and share jokes with me. He would talk about his love for photography, his travelling experiences, and the things he learnt from them; never did he talk about his illnesses, or the pain he was in- but it was his love that made us all look after him.


Therefore, help them out- not because they need it- but because you can look after them, and do things for them; help them not because they are old and weak, but because you are young and active. Believe me these people can be your gateway to Jannah. You can take their prayers, and Duas, and conquer the world and hereafter.

The increasing number of old homes in our society is a clear indication that most of us have failed to consider them important, value their right to be respected, and no more recognize their part in our upbringing, well being and happiness.

The tales of the people there are heart wrenching; how their kids never come, and meet them; how they told them that they are useless once they retired, and how they promised to come back to pick them, but never did. On the other hand, it tells us about how more and more people are willing to take care of the ones who have been abandoned.


These words sum up what you attain and lose- if you take care of your elder ones, especially when they are your parents. A Hadeeth says:  May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both , attain old age during his life time, and he does not enter Jannah (by rendering being dutiful to them) (Muslim).

Date- A man’s mate


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Dates are a miracle food that gives us tons of benefits. They are packed with a host of nutrients that provide several benefits for health; it is eaten as a regular dry fruit by most of the people. Many people consume dates as a staple food.

Dates contain vitamins, minerals, protein and they are a good source of fruit sugar. . They also contain magnesium, sulphur, iron, potassium, phosphorous and chlorine. Dates are rich in fiber- they contain both fibers soluble and insoluble fiber. Soluble fiber helps to lower the level of cholesterol, and insoluble fiber prevents from constipation.

The American Nutrition Center recommends an intake of 20-30 grams of dietary fiber per day, which can be supplied through dates. Dates are also good for gaining weight.

Eating a dates in the morning on an empty stomach kills intestinal worms, and other parasities. It is narrated said that Allah’s (swt) Apostle (sa) said: “He who eats seven “Ajwa” dates every morning, will not be affected by poison, or magic on the day he eats them.” (Bukhari)

Why dates are useful for your health?

Bones strengthen

Calcium and magnesium are important elements for skeletal growth, and balancing the body bone structure. Dates contain high level of calcium and magnesium, which protect the body against bone weakness, and preventing from osteoporosis.

Rich in Iron

Dates contain iron, which is highly recommended for those who suffer from iron deficiency. Moreover, it is great for blood purification as well.

Great energy booster

Dates are a good source of sugar- this sugar is not glucose, which rapidly raises the level of blood sugar but the fruit’s built in sugar does not. Dates are considered as the perfect snacks for an immediate boost of energy.


Organic sulphur is present in dates. This is not a very common element to find in fruits. But, it has excessive health benefits, including the reduction of allergic reaction and seasonal allergies. Dates can fairly handle the problem of seasonal allergies with its benefits of organic sulphur.

Weight gain

Dates possess sugar protein and many essential vitamins, which are good for health. Thin and slim people who are willing to raise their weight eat dates in even number. One-kilogram dates contain 300 calories, and the calories are enough to fulfill the day demand of your body. Of course, you should not eat just dates throughout the day, but if u want to increase your weight, you need to eat it

Why break the fast with dates?

Breaking the fast with dates is a Sunnah. Breaking ones fast with dates, as well as, praying before Iftar, are both mentioned in the Hadeeth.

“The Messenger of Allah (sa) would break his fast with ripe dates, then he would pray. If those were not available, he would eat dried dates. If those were not available, he would drink some water”.

Breaking the fast with dates is considered healthy, because dates contain high level of natural sugars. Sugars travel most quickly to the liver, where they are converted into energy more quickly than any other nutrient. Muslims have an immediate need for this energy when they break their fast, for they need energy to perform their sunset prayers. Ironically, when a person eats, the body uses energy to digest the food. Eating large quantities of food immediately after fasting is not healthy for the body. Eating a date first helps the body start its digestive process, and gives it the energy to deal with the secondary, more complex foods, eaten during Iftar.

Dates are also high in vitamins, and thus,  eating dates daily during Ramadan is like taking a daily multivitamin. This daily multivitamin can create a stronger and healthier body  fit for fasting. Dates also have a special place in Islam. In fact, they were one of the Prophet’s (sa) most frequently consumed foods.

Rules of writing a “Will” in Islam


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We need to educate ourselves with the compulsory rules of writing a “will” in Islam.  The topic is huge, but I will try to be as brief as possible. If Allah (swt) wills.

  1. Allah’s (swt) prescription for the six

Allah (swt) has decided our will for six relationships- husband, wife, son, daughter, brother and sister. We “cannot” write anything for these relationships in our will. They will get what is written for them in the Quran.

  1. Charity in the will

Similarly, we cannot leave in charity more than “1/3” of our wealth. Remaining is the right of the above mentioned six relations.  Charity is recommended to be done within the lifetime.  Once we leave this world, we can part 1/3 of our wealth for charity.

  1. Remain just to daughters and wives

Sadly, daughters and wives do not receive their rightful shares from the inheritance. Allah (swt) has taken our right to make any changes in the will He has made for the above six relationships.

Anyone, changing Allah’s (swt) decision, shall be answerable to Him in the hereafter.

  1. Will vs. gift

Will and gift are different. Anything given when one is alive is a gift. All children must be given equal amount of gifts under Islam.

There is a narration of a Hadeeth by Al-Nu’man ibn Basheer, where he said that his father brought him to the Prophet (sa), when he gave him a gift, to ask the Prophet (Allah (sa) to bear witness to it. The Prophet (sa) asked: “Have you given something similar to all your children?” He said: “No.” He said: “Then take it back.” Then he said: “Fear Allah (swt) and treat your children fairly.”(Bukhari)

Allah (swt) has stressed again and again to divide the wealth after settling debts. Once the debts are settled, whatever is left, can be divided amongst the six relationships according to what is ordered in the Quran.

A person has authority of writing a will for 1/3 part or less from his wealth only.

  1. The Will formula

Formula:  Wealth – Debts – (Charity, if written in the will to the extent of 1/3 of the total amount left) OR (anyone can be given 1/3 of the total wealth if it is in the will. Relatives, needy and poor are recommended) = Wealth remaining for distribution among husband, wife, son, daughter, brother and sister.

  1. Distribution of wealth- in the light of Quran

With regard to the distribution of personal belongings, we do not have the right to state how they should be distributed after we die, because the share of each heir has been defined by Allah (swt), and He has explained who inherits and who does not inherit.

So, it is not permitted for any person to transgress the limits set by Allah (swt), because Allah (swt) has warned against doing that.

Allah (swt) says in Surah An-Nisa (interpretation of the meaning),

“Allah (swt) commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance): to the male, a portion equal to that of two females; if (there are) only daughters, two or more, their share is two-thirds of the inheritance; if only one, her share is a half. For parents, a sixth share of inheritance to each if the deceased left children; if no children, and the parents are the (only) heirs, the mother has a third; if the deceased left brothers or (sisters), the mother has a sixth. (The distribution in all cases is) after the payment of legacies he may have bequeathed or debts. You know not which of them, whether your parents or your children, are nearest to you in benefit; (these fixed shares) are ordained by Allah (swt). And Allah (swt)is Ever All‑Knower, All‑Wise.

In that which your wives leave, your share is a half if they have no child; but if they leave a child, you get a fourth of that which they leave after payment of legacies that they may have bequeathed or debts. In that which you leave, their (your wives) share is a fourth if you leave no child; but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts. If the man or woman whose inheritance is in question has left neither ascendants nor descendants, but has left a brother or a sister, each one of the two gets a sixth; but if more than two, they share in a third, after payment of legacies he (or she) may have bequeathed or debts, so that no loss is caused (to anyone). This is a Commandment from Allah (swt); and Allah (swt)is Ever All‑Knowing, Most‑Forbearing.

These are the limits (set by) Allah (swt)(or ordainments as regards laws of inheritance), and whosoever obeys Allah (swt)and His Messenger (Muhammad sa) will be admitted to Gardens under which rivers flow (in Paradise), to abide therein, and that will be the great success.

And whosoever disobeys Allah (swt) and His Messenger (Muhammad sa), and transgresses His limits, He will cast him into the Fire, to abide therein; and he shall have a disgraceful torment.” (An-Nisa 4:11-14)

  1. Wealth to nieces and nephews

There is no reason why we should not give our nephews and nieces whatever we want of our wealth whilst we are alive. As they are not our own children, we are not obliged to give to them all equally. We can give gifts to those whom we love, and to whoever we wish; or to whoever among them is in need according to his or her need. Try to give to those who are religiously committed in ways that will help them to obey Allah (swt). It is also permitted to leave to them one-third, or less of your wealth- so long as they are not your heirs.

  1. Alteration of the deceased will

It is permissible to alter a will by the heirs- only if- it is made against Allah’s (swt) orders, with the intent to protect the deceased from Allah’s (swt) wrath. Similarly, it is a great sin to alter a will for personal gains. It is a great sin to deprive anyone of his/her share of the will.

And Allah (swt) knows best.




Girls’ tales: I want to marry but….”

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Observing the struggles of young girls with pre and post marital life, I was forced to search the reasons of their constant strife.


  • Why marriage is such a pain in neck for the parents of girls?
  • And why unmarried girls who are in the perfect age to marry, or have crossed the perfect age, those who could not marry at all, or divorced women, have to live their lives in constant agony?
  • Does Islam enforce this ruling that a girl be married at a younger age- even if she does not find a suitable match?
  • Does Islam call for suppression of women through marriage?
  • Is it only the girl who has to be blamed if she is found guilty of hating, or being disobedient to her husband?

Let me explain you one thing before we move on to find answers to these questions; and the duty of the parents regarding this issue is that we should understand that Islam and Muslim culture are very distinct entities.


Islam is our religion, our belief, but Muslim culture is what we practice in our day to day life.

We Muslims, often confuse religion with our regional cultures- because somehow Islam is considered to be integrated deep in our lives- which on profound insight can reveal that Muslim culture is very different from Islam.


The core issue is that girls are mostly brought up in a way where their hymens are considered much more precious than they themselves. They are to be married as soon as possible so that parents can be acquitted from this responsibility of presenting the girl with her intact virginity to her true owners. In this quest of parents, most of the girls have to face numerous problems with their individuality, faith and lives which I am daring to address here. I will try to throw light on these problems one by one highlighting the points where parents need to ponder.


Firstly, parents have to remove the generation gap, and try to understand, and accept the challenges of the modern age with a new and fresher perspective. For example- when you are trying your best to protect the virginity of your girl in this generation, the old orthodox method of keeping her locked up (metaphor) at home can yield worst results in this contemporary age.


You cannot prevent them from falling into Fitnah, but you can help them learn how to get out of it. Give them a good (not strict) spiritual environment to grow up in, and then trust them with their choices; if you truly succeeded in bringing them up well, then you will never have to struggle with them at any age.


Secondly, parents have to let their daughters attain good religious education as well as best modern education possible. Most of the girls are deprived of education, or forced in to this by cultural criterion. Hence, a girl is not appreciated by family where you will hear things like: “Why study so much when you know you will end up doing household chores after marriage?” Or “Islam gives more importance to your husband and family than your education” or in worst case, “

You are a woman; your sole purpose is to raise children.” This kind of attitude towards your daughters will only cause them to rebel (a gift of modern age).


Islam gives rights to all

Islam gives all rights to women to get education, and marry whenever and whoever she wants to. I know that you are trying your best to convince your daughters; but convincing them that Islam orders you to do so, or our culture demands this, is yielding some serious consequences; where girls- whenever in their life given a chance- try to break free from these shackles of “religio-cultural” prison.


You may find real life examples of Aminah Wadod, Ayaan Ali and many other women like them who are now questioning the genuineness of Islam.


Thirdly, parents usually don’t aim to see the compatibility of both parties before marriage. A girl, if she is crossing the age of twenty, is forced into marriage- as parents fear that no one will accept her after this because our motto of marriage is “the younger the better”. This is very frustrating for young girls as they are married usually against their will. Despite of her difficulty to accept her marriage, she is forced to comply with her husband, and in-laws- no matter what; and again people take support of Islamic rulings, and tell her to bear all what comes because Allah (swt) and His messenger (sa) asked her to be obedient to her husband, and not to go against his will.


The avalanche behind ‘I do’

In this scenario, where she is married without her consent- a marriage for which she has to repress her dreams, or even herself. And, when she finds it difficult to cope with, she is told to be patient- as Islam demands wife to be submissive to her husband. The only refuge Allah (swt) and His messenger (sa) also become cruel and unjust in her eyes.


What do you think it will result in? Only in disobedience or “heresy” for which you can find numerous examples around you- when a married girl would be found guilty of extra marital affairs, hostility towards children, self-loathing and in extreme situation, suicide.


Marriage in Islam

Marriage in Islam is a very blessed act which aims to safeguard modesty, practice intimate love in a legal way, build a strong family, and a generation who would be spiritually, mentally, and physically strong enough to uphold and implement Islam in the entire world etc. But, my question for readers is that: Is today’s Muslim marriage fulfilling its objectives? A girl as a daughter, wife, and a mother is the most important part of a family; and when, this oppression and confusion becomes a part of her life- she can’t find an escape; she just chooses to give up life, which makes a huge impact on the society as a whole. Children brought up by such a mother would be spiritually dead and will just be another blemish on the Muslim Ummah.


My advice to parents is to get out of this mesh of religious teachings, and cultural norms. Learn true principles, and objectives of Islam; and neither be victims nor victimize your children with religion brimmed with cultural beliefs; and “enter Islam completely” to shun such grim culture.


The calm after the storm – Beautiful Dua

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And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqun.

(Al-Furqan 25:74)

 Our Master. Our Lord. Gift us. Grant us. In Quran we find ‘آتِنَا’ give us, ‘اعطنا’ to give a grand gift, gift us an expected gift, a beautiful gift,’ لَنَا هَبْ this is a gift you are asking Allah (swt) to give you; this prepositional phrase is brought earlier especially for us. We are asking for a special favour from Allah (swt), and what is this favour that we are asking of Allah (swtَ)? Grant us from our spouses, and not just our children which is ‘اولاد – ذُرِّيَّتِنَا’ future generations of us.

In other words, you are not even asking for your immediate children, but your lineage for generations to come. Grant us from all of them coolness of eyes.  Make our eyes cool by means of spouses, and by means of our children.

Afflicted by an indoor storm?

All of us  have to appreciate the power of this Dua because of the crisis of the world today. The world’s fundamental institution of family is under attack. Most of the people here, even Muslims are not immune to this problem.  You find refuge from the storm in your home. But today, the storm is not outside the house, the storm is inside the house, and you have to get away from home to get away from the yelling, the screaming, and the name calling, and the insults, and the depression, and the sadness, and the friction between husband and wife, and parent and children. Our homes are broken. Brother is not talking to brother. Parents are not talking to children. This is a crisis inside the home. The family has become a place of sorrow, of depression, of sadness, of anger, of rage.

So what’s the escape plan?

People feel like they want to escape this indoor storm, and here Allah (swt) tells us to ask so perfectly, so eloquently that the home should become the place of refuge.

It’s like the outside world is a storm, and you suffer on the outside, and your refuge, your safe haven is the door to your home, to your spouse, to your children. When you see them, your worries disappear. But for most of us, when you see them, your worries begin.

And so, we ask Allah (swt) to give us from our spouses, and our children- coolness of eyes, that’s what we ask Allah (swt). When somebody says I want to get married- go further, not just get married, I want to get married to a spouse that will cool my eyes. That I will be coolness of his/her eyes and he/she will be the coolness of mine. And, Allah (swt) took the Dua further, and then we understand why talk about future generations.إِمَامًا’لِلْمُتَّقِينَ ‘وَاجْعَلْنَا -and make us leaders over those who are cautious, conscious, fearful, pious, righteous. Those who are fearful before Allah (swt) and it makes you realize your relationship right now isn’t just about you.

Be the proud leader of your generation

You are setting a precedent in your family for generations to come. So, when you are not acting as good husbands, and good wives, and good parents, and good children- what are your future generations going to do? And, who is going to be answerable for that negative trend that was started by you? Who is going to be answerable for that? It’s an intelligent Dua that we should find coolness of our eyes- not only in our immediate family- but the future generations should be people that are righteous too.

Because, when we are raised on the Judgement day, we are Imam over the entire family- whether they were messed up or not.

We better ask for the kind of people if they are underneath us- not those who are dragging us down on the Judgement day- but those who are elevating us. And, we beg Allah (swt) that He gives all of us those kinds of families. I beg all of you sincerely that we all make this sincere Dua to Allah (swt)…

I sincerely pray that Allah (swt) gives all of us, and makes from our spouses, and our children those that our coolness of our eyes, and that he makes us Imam, a leader over those that are pious and righteous. May Allah (swt) forgive all of our shortcomings; accept all of our Dua, and make the means of our forgiveness easy upon us. Ameen.



Transcribed for hiba by Sarah Saqib Teli


Reality check- Assess your success!

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If I was going with a bunch of young men and women on the bus, and we drove by a beautiful mansion- just a gorgeous house on top of the hill; just an absolutely beautiful stunning house; and the driveway enters the house; the gorgeous car parked outside; and on the back of the house there is an incredible backyard, a swimming pool and whatever you can imagine  is there. As if a piece of Jannah on Earth. And, as we are driving through, we see the man walking into the house, and I ask these young men and women that: “Do you think that this guy is successful?” Overwhelmingly, what is going to be the response? “Yeah, pretty successful. Look at him- he is accomplished with many successful things.”

When you take a picture of someone graduating from a college, shaking hand with the President of university, and handed over their Degree of Diploma; and somebody asks that do you think that he is successful?

Muslims or non Muslims, everybody going to say that: “Sure! It is a kind of success”.

When somebody gets a job, it’s a kind of success. Sure, we congratulate them for getting good job.

When somebody buys a house; when somebody starts a new business; when somebody buys a new car; when people get married; people accomplish things in life, and we celebrate them because these are different kinds of small and big successes- isn’t that true?

So the bus keeps driving, and  we see a  homeless man whose living in a  cardboard box on the street, and it looks like he is wearing clothes from a couple of years, and you don’t want to go close to him because of the smell; and I ask my students if they think that guy is successful.

What do they say? They say he is not successful. Now imagine- I was riding in this bus but in this bus, there were not Muslim boys and girls; they were Christian boys and girls; or Jewish boys and girls; or Atheist boys and girls; or Buddhist boys and girls; and I ask them the same questions. Do you think their answers would be same? Yes, their answers will be the same! That’s the problem.

The problem is:

The way we think about Success, and the way we think about Failure- for Muslims, it is supposed to be different.

All human beings can see in a certain way- that’s fine! They have an apparent view of Success and Failure- but us Muslims, Allah (swt) has given us clear glasses;  and once you look reality through these glasses- you see something that other people cannot see. And, when you put those glasses on, and you start thinking about the Book of Allah (swt), and you realize that one of the most beautiful, captivating, magnificent homes that was ever built was the castle of Firon, and if our bus was driving by the house, and he was walking into his house, and I ask my Muslim children: “Is that man successful?” What would there answer be? Firon is not successful; He is one of the worst losers in the human history.

Who was second kind of the person we ran into? The homeless guy.

Ibrahim (as) was kicked out of his house. He was told to leave the house, and so he became homeless. Was he successful? He’s one of the most successful human beings that ever lived.

Now, the Quran is teaching that a homeless man is successful, and incredibly wealthy man is a loser- meaning “Success has nothing to do with wealth, and failure has nothing to do with poverty. “

Success and failure are different concepts for us than they are for everybody else.

Transcribed for hiba by Faiza Rizwan


‘Boys will be boys’- is a hoax!

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Are all men same?

The word ‘men’ tends to make ones insides churn with frustration;
and brings to mind all kinds of words like chauvinists, annoying, irritating

. They like limiting women in all spheres of life; are hungry for dominance over them, and consider it their moral ‘duty’ to subjugate the independent ones of today. God forbid, she decides that she wants to pursue a career and bring dishonour to the family!

A recent conversation that I had with my brother to shed some light on what’s really their ‘problem’. Recently, having learnt how to drive, I was ranting to him about how I should be allowed to drive myself to wherever I wanted to go. I accused him of being someone who couldn’t accept that women of today are independent, and don’t need men to get everything done- it’s something which irks them, making them feel like they’re losing the control, resulting in conflict between the two parties. However, that’s what I thought. What he had to say was something completely different, and I had to admit, unexpectedly.


‘We want to take responsibility for our women. That’s all.’

Looking at it from their perspective, I realised that their desire isn’t to lock us up in the house, slaving away to cooking food for them from dawn to dusk.

They just want to make sure that their women don’t need to be worried about the tiniest of things because they’ve taken care of it.

They’d rather be the ones to stand in the lines under the scorching heat to pay the utility bills, or to make sure that the car’s filled with gas, or that the kids are dropped to and picked from school at time- in case the driver decides to take an impromptu leave. They would rather be the ones to deal with the vicious world outside the safety and protection of the house, than have their beloved women go through it every single day. Not because they can’t deal with it because they’re too weak- but rather- because they’d themselves rather be the ones to bear the brunt.

I’m in no way saying that there aren’t men who are abusive, or inconsiderate- because unfortunately, that is far from the truth. Many women suffer from extreme pain at the hands of the men they love and care for. All I’m saying is that all of them aren’t like that, and a vast majority of them are misunderstood as a result of the actions of a few.

So, instead of bashing the men in our lives all the time, and calling them out for every little mistake they do, we need to cherish the thousands of little things they do, which go unnoticed by us. Being respectful towards them, and being mindful of what they do for us- will go a long way in simmering down heated arguments with them.

Lastly, let’s try to hear them out. We tend to form judgements about them without even knowing their part of the story- resulting in them feeling misunderstood, and bottled up feelings- which pop up in ugly forms later. Know that it isn’t it a competition, so let’s not make it one.

Summing it all up with the beautiful verse in the Quran,

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means…”(An-Nisa 4:34)

Let’s pray to Allah (swt) to make our men the leaders of the righteous, to give them the courage and strength to stand up for the right, and to protect them always. Ameen.


Life plays harder- Until you find the secret soft corner!

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Everybody goes through his own set of tribulations, and it’s very rare that people have a happy time all their life; such people are rare.

But Ibn Abbas (ra) said that the foundation of  Dunya ‘world’ is tribulation.

The best worship is waiting for the ease from Allah (swt) to come when you’re in hardship.

So if Muslims would just have that perspective, they would realize that if they are just patient here, with all these tribulations- it will surely pay off later in Jannah. While being patient, we are in Ibadah (worship); we can just be sitting in our house, and if you’re ‘Muhtasib’ (engaged in Hisba) with Allah (swt), you’re in Ibadah (worship of Allah (swt)).

But if, you are there complaining- why always me? And everything is horrible; and it’s doom and gloom; and it’s all black and it’s all dark; Allah (swt) will give you more things to complain about. And, He’ll give you some real things to complain about because there is a Hadeeth- if you complain about small calamities, Allah (swt) gives you greater calamities.

That’s why, Ibn Abbas (ra) said that in every Nikmah (tribulation), there are three Ni’mah (blessing); in every tribulation, there are three blessings.

And, the first one is that it could be worse than it is. That it’s in your worldly matters, and not in your Deen like if you lose money, its money; but if you lose Deen, you lost everything- so that’s a Ni’mah (blessing).

If you think about it, he didn’t say:  “Don’t give us any calamities,” he said: “Don’t give us tribulation in our Deen!” We’re going to get tribulation, and we know that, because that’s the nature of Dunya. So, you are going to get tribulation, but don’t make it in Deen- make it in Dunya. That’s a Ni’mah that you lost your job, Alhumdulillah. I didn’t miss my prayers, Alhumdulillah.  I didn’t lose my Iman (faith), Alhumdulillah. There is Wudhu (ablution) area, and a place to pray Alhumdulillah. Because jobs come and go, but Deen- once it’s gone, Allahu Alam (Allah (swt) knows best) if  you’ll ever get it back.

Then the final one, it’s in this world. As long as the Musibah (difficulty) is in this world- it’s a Ni’mah, because the real Musibah is the Musibah in the next world. Hence, if you look at that and realize, we are in blessing Wallahi- the whole lot of us; some may be more than others outwardly, but the whole of  Ummah is in blessing Wallahi….

Transcribed for Hiba by Faiza Rizwan

Powerful Dua of a parent

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In the name of Allah (swt), the most Beneficent, the most Merciful

All praises are for Allah (swt), the most Compassionate, the most Forgiving.

Salutations and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad (sa), his family and companions.

Oh Allah (swt), I submit myself to You.

I realize that parenting a child is a very difficult task, and I turn to You in humility for Your help.

I implore You for Your wisdom and guidance.

Oh Allah (swt), I know that our children are an Amanah from You, to care for and to raise in a manner that is pleasing to You.

Help me do that in the best way.

Teach me how to love in a way the You would want me to love.

Help me where I need to be healed, improved, nurtured, and made whole.

Help me walk with righteousness and integrity, so that You may always be pleased with me.

Allow me to be a God-fearing role model with all the communication, teaching, and nurturing skills that I may need.

Oh Allah (swt), You know what our children need. Help and guide us in praying for our children.

Oh Allah (swt), put a hedge of safety around our children. Protect their bodies, minds, and emotions from any kind of evil and harm.

Oh Allah (swt), I pray that You protect them from accidents, diseases, injuries, and any other physical, mental, or emotional afflictions and abuse.

Oh Allah (swt), I pray that You keep our children free from any addictions and vices.

Draw them close to You for protection from every ill and evil influence of our society, whether it’s apparent to us or not.

Oh Allah (swt), grant them the best of company as their friends — people who will inspire them to love and worship and obey You.

Oh Allah (swt), grant our children Hidayah, and a heart that loves to obey You.

Shine Your light on any secret or unseen rebellion in their hearts, and destroy it before it takes root.

Oh Allah (swt), guide them away from any pride, selfishness, jealousy, hypocrisy, malice, and greed and make them uncomfortable with sins.

Penetrate their hearts with Your love and reverence today and always.

Oh Allah (swt), make apparent to them the truth in any situation, and let them not be misled by falsehood.

Oh Allah (swt), grant our children the ability to make clear decisions, and let them always be attracted to good things that are pure, noble, true, and just.

Oh Allah (swt), guide them in making choices that please You.

Oh Allah (swt), help them to taste the sweetness of walking with a humble spirit in obedience and submission to You.

Oh Allah (swt), grant them the wisdom to choose their words carefully, and bless them with a generous and caring spirit.

Oh Allah (swt), I pray that they never stray from the path of Deen, and that You give them a future filled with Your best promises.

Oh Allah (swt), always keep our children cleansed, and pure from evil and Shayateen.

Oh Allah (swt), keep them steadfast in establishing Salah, and help them revere the Glorious Quran as Your Word and Law, and to read it with understanding daily. Let it be their source of light and guidance.

Oh Allah (swt), let our daughters love wearing Hijab, and our sons the dress of a humble Muslim.

Let their dress be a representation of their Iman, and of their love and respect for Your commands.

Lead them to a position where they rely truly on Your power alone, and fear You in the open and in secret.

Oh Allah (swt), make them so strong in their Deen that they never encounter doubt.

Oh Allah (swt), do not allow any negative attitudes in the place of our children’s lives.

Oh Allah (swt), guide our children in honouring and obeying You, Your Rasool (sa), and us as parents (when we are commanding that which is pleasing to You).

Make them the coolness of our eyes.

Oh Allah (swt), fill our children with compassion and caring that will overflow to each member of our family and society.

Oh Allah (swt), grant them piety.

Oh Allah (swt), help them love, value, appreciate, and respect one another with good communication between them always.

Oh Allah (swt), drive out any division between our children and bring them healing.

I pray there be no strain, breach, misunderstanding, arguing, fighting, or severing of ties.

Oh Allah (swt), allow them to one day marry righteous, God-fearing, kind, hard-working, intelligent, beautiful, healthy spouses who get along with each other, and respect and love (and genuinely enjoy) every member of our family and who lead our children (i.e. their spouses) even closer to You and Jannat ul Firdaus.

Oh Allah (swt), please grant me the company of pious friends, relatives, extended community members, and teachers who will be inspirational role models for my children, and will help me raise them to be the best of believers.

Oh Allah (swt), please don’t let me become self-satisfied and arrogant in my parenting, but please don’t humble me or shame me through my children’s misdeeds either. Please let me always give credit for their good character to You, and please don’t ever let me stop praying for them.

Oh Allah (swt), please don’t let my children be “late” in meeting any of life’s milestones that are expected of them.

Oh Allah (swt), protect my children from debt. Make them givers and not takers.

Oh Allah (swt), grant my children noble professions with Halal incomes that give them respect and dignity in Your Eyes, and in the eyes of their fellow human beings.

Oh Allah (swt), grant them worldly comfort and Aafiyah so that my children can come to You through the Door of Gratitude, and so that they are not forced to come to You through the Door of Patience. Please let them always be grateful and patient.

Oh Allah (swt), I pray for a close, loving, happy and fulfilling relationship with them for all the days of our lives, and to be reunited with them in Jannat ul Firdaus. آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ


Making sense of the killings


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Today the very fabric of society stands shaken. What and who can justify the killings of innocent kids?

If we travel back into time around 220 BC, China was divided into three kingdoms. Those were the times when amazing Chinese poetry was written; romantic heroes were depicted in movies to come; new dialects emerged and great laws were written down. But tragically, those were also the times when China was constantly at war within. Those battles caused unbelievable harm to the people of China who perished in millions. They couldn’t tolerate each other. They would wage war if one clan combed his hair differently than the other clan. That was a reason for them to hate each other. Many smaller nations hurt them in that vulnerable stage.

Today, we see a powerful superpower in the face of China standing united. Yes, united. That was the key. When they realized how division had weakened them, they joined hands to become one. And so, every household today has a high percentage of its merchandise either coming from China or being manufactured there- be it mobile phones, the clothes we wear, the furniture we use, etc.

A very famous parable circulates about three bulls and a lion. As the three stood together, the lion could not hunt them. Then the lion had an opportunity to trap one of the bulls. It cunningly convinced two bulls to break away from the third one. Hence, the two stood back, and let the lion devour the third bull. Next, the lion ate the second bull promising refuge to the one left alone. Lastly, as predicted, the lion pounced on the third and final bull. Just before the third bull was about to die it commented “In reality I was eaten the day I let the first bull be eaten for my own benefit. My death was sealed the day I was de-united. I am just being killed today.”

“Muhammad (sa) is the Messenger of Allah. And those who are with him are severe against disbelievers and merciful among themselves.” (Al-Fath 48:29)

Are we behaving mercifully towards our brothers and sisters? Or the ways of Khawarij have cracked into us? Khawarij were a group of people who had long beards and knew the Quran beautifully; yet, earned Allah’s (swt) anger. Their main worry was to fight other Muslims. For them it was said that they will leave the religion as an arrow leaves the bow. There was much less Iman in their hearts.

If we do not prevent ourselves from this behaviour, if we do not control the agenda, if we do not curb the hatred and rancor- we are heading towards disaster. If only we rewind the scene to the time when Allah’s (swt) had a conversation with His angels as described by the Quran. The angels showed concern to their Lord (swt) that is He going to put on earth His Khalifah who will spill blood? Allah (swt) informed them that He knew what they knew not. It was Allah’s (swt) great plan. And what was that? Allah (swt) was going to change the world through knowledge.

Whoever acted according to the revealed knowledge would be merciful.

Knowledge will ennoble them, bring logic and reason to them, and guide their hearts to mercy. What we see is a byproduct of ignorance about Allah (swt). They have forgotten Allah (swt), so Allah (swt) has made them forget their meeting with Him on Yaum-ul-Qiyamah. It is knowledge that enlightens you about the rights of others; the more you learn, the more you discover your own ignorance and strive to better yourself.

Even the fish in the oceans prays for the one who seeks knowledge. If Ulema of Islam are not the Auliya (helpers) of Allah (swt) – I don’t know who is?

We need to launch schools, colleges and universities of the international level that can impart education on Deen and Duniya both. We need to invest in projects that ensure spiritual, as well as, intellectual uplift. The products of such ventures will bring back the lost glory of knowledge, and academics as was the case from 9th until 14th century when Muslim scholars and their scholastics ruled the world.

AmribnulAas (rta) conquered North Africa thrice. Each time he conquered it, the country went back to fighting internally. Then he altered his strategy, and brought Sahabah from Madinah to come and live with the population. Rest assured everything calmed down. The knowledgeable companions brought light of their knowledge and actions, and illuminated the hearts of the people.

Hassan Al Basree once said that the Himmah (strength) of a Jahil (ignorant) is his narration.

But the concern of an Alim (scholar) is action on the knowledge he has gained. There is a strong co-relation between Amal (action) and Ilm (knowledge). As the Quran questions- is the one who know equal to the one who knows not?

Without true action- in the light of the Quran and the Sunnah- every knowledge seeker becomes a hypocrite or a pseudo-intellectual carrying a label and huge degrees. But, there is no Barakah left in his knowledge. He is as blind as the ones following him. He suffers from a disease of self-righteousness. He knows better, and cannot see the goodness of others; hence, he claims superiority. The essence of Taqwa (fear of Allah’s (swt) presence) is lost. All that one wants to tackle is his own differences, even if he has to resort to violence. This sickness has become rampant in the Ummah today.

We have two sides of the coin. On one hand, we have extremists who follow self-construed understanding of Islam, and take up arms to endorse it. On the other hand, we have modernists who dilute Islam, and call for an understanding that suits to their liking and lifestyle. But, Islam is moderate, and cannot be understood according to our own desires.

Bukhari narrates that before the last hour strikes; there will come a part of time that shall be full of Fitnah.

A man will sleep a believer and wake up a disbeliever. And He will sleep a disbeliever and wake up a believer. This will be due to a tremendous trial. The heart of a believer is weak and fragile. A stupid doubt can lead him to atheism, and his heart can waver as soon as a Fitnah strikes.

But, when I see Pakistan, I see tremendous hope. When there is good, there is opportunity; and when there is bad, I see greater opportunity. Every nation takes approximately twenty five years to rise. Look at Japan after Hiroshima bombing and Germany after its collapse. Pakistan has three great assets:

  1. Over 60% of its population comprises of youth. This is spectacular demographic. Nowhere in the world do you find this kind of a number. All we need to do is invest in their right education. Invest Dollar 1 today to save Dollars 10 tomorrow. This youth can be the fulcrum of change with the right leadership and mentorship.
  1. Islam is in the D.N.A. of every Pakistani. False ideologies will not take root here for long.
  1. Pakistanis are an extremely charitable nation. Even abroad in England 10 Downing Street reported that an average annual donation of a Muslim to another Muslim is Pound 668. And a large portion of it comes from Pakistanis.

I, being the chairman of Mercy Mission, want to personally see this growth. By the year 2030, I dream to see a pious, confident, selfless and self-sufficient Pakistan. It is our organization’s goal to help build a world where Muslim communities live faithfully, and benefit the society globally. And our change will come through education, Insha’Allah.

Transcribed from a talk at Motiwala residence for Hiba by RanaRais Khan



Deal with hardship with faith in a stable ship

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Stick to the pillars of Islam

One must give utmost importance, as Muslims, to the pillars of Islam; and  one of the strongest of them is Salah.

If you fulfill your five daily prayers on time, the rest of it becomes easy. So if, you can get up for Salat-ul-Fajr- there is no persecution for that. You are in your home for example, you have set you alarm clock َللّٰه. You get up,  make your Wudu, and you fulfill your Salah; and if obviously, if the Masjid is nearby, or if there are Masajid in your area, your locality, you will attend the Masjid Insha’Allahللّٰه. And if, you fulfill your Salah on time, then your Iman is boosted, your heart is strengthened, there is literally a security around your heart to a certain extent. It becomes easy for you to maintain your identity.

What is more important- your Salah or dress code?

If, your Salah is not in place- you become dissolved in society, community, and you are just a normal human being. What is so different about you?

Not much, because the only thing was your dress code, but that also got dissolved because your Salah was dissolved. If Salah is a pillar of Islam, the dress code is important- but it’s not the pillar. In order to fulfill that pillar, you will need to dress appropriately. In these times, if we stick to those issues that are between us and Allah (swt), it becomes easier for us to maintain the society affairs.

Your Salah is a matter between you and Allah (swt); you fulfill your Salah, so therefore, your dress code won’t be a problem, your interactions won’t be a problem, your identity won’t be a problem, and even if it is, and even if you are persecuted due to Islamophobia- persecution might be a big word- but people might harass you a little bit, or perhaps look at you with some funny eyes so to speak. You won’t really mind, you won’t be bothered, you know that these people never mind, you know they don’t know much, and maybe you might have the opportunity to clarify.

Have a Wifi link with Allah (swt)

Connect with Allah (swt) in private, if you expect Allah (swt) to rectify your public links. May Allah (swt) make it easy for us. Ameen.

والله اعلم  



Transcribed for hiba by Sarah Saqib Teli

The Sacrifice of Ibrahim (as) | Extremely Emotional


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My brothers in Islam, Allah (swt) does not look at the amount that you sacrifice, but what Allah (swt) looks at is- this heart. Does this heart love Allah (swt) the most?

Allah (swt) commands Ibrahim (as) to slaughter his son Ismail (as). Can you put yourself in the place of Ibrahim (as)?

The attachment, that Ibrahim (as) had for his son Ismail (as) is more than the average attachment that, a father has for his son.


Because, Ibrahim (as) waited for over one hundred years until he had his first child.

Ibrahim (as) waited for over one hundred years until Allah (swt) gave him the first child.

Ibrahim’s (as)  heart was a lot more attached to Ismail (as) than the average heart of us as parents (because mostly Allah (swt) grants us a child just after marriage.) But then, when that Ibrahim’s (as) only child grew up, piety and righteousness appeared on the face of Ismail (as). Ibrahim (as) saw his son as a very righteous and pious Prophet to be.

When you have a righteous son with a bright future, your heart becomes a lot more attached to this son.

So, Ibrahim (as) became so attached to Ismail (as), and Ibrahim (as) saw Ismail (as) growing with piety, and righteousness, and obedience to Allah (swt) and his parents. And that moment, when Ibrahim (as) became so attached to Ismail (as), so close to Ismail (as), so loving to Ismail (as)-

Allah (swt) commanded Ibrahim (as) to slaughter his son Ismail (as), Allahu Akbar!

What a test……!

What a test……!

What was the test upon Ibrahim (as)?

It was not to leave Ismail (as) after Allah (swt) tested him to take Ismail, and his mother Hajar in the middle of a valley when no being lived there. But then, the test was that Ismail (as) be slaughtered by his father Ibrahim (as):

قَالَ يَا بُنَيَّ إِنِّي أَرَىٰ فِي الْمَنَامِ أَنِّي أَذْبَحُكَ فَانظُرْ مَاذَا تَرَىٰ ۚ قَالَ يَا أَبَتِ افْعَلْ مَا تُؤْمَرُ ۖ سَتَجِدُنِي إِن شَاءَ اللَّـهُ مِنَ الصَّابِرِينَ

And, when he (his son) was old enough to walk with him, he said: “O my son! I have seen in a dream that I am slaughtering you (offer you in sacrifice to Allah), so look what you think!””

(As-Saffat 37:102)

Imagine you say that to your son! The police would be knocking on your door in less than a minute.

Ismail’s (as) response to his father’s dream

What did this righteous, pious young man say to his father? He said: O father! Do what Allah (swt) had commanded you to do, By the will of Allah; you will find me among those who are patient!

Patient! Patient! For the sake of Allah (swt), if that Allah (swt) commands you, O dad, do not even hesitate.

Because, Allah (swt)’s commandments come before loving son!

Allah’s (swt) commandment comes before loving anyone!

And now, Ibrahim (as) grabs his son Ismail (as) walking…but where did they go?

To some beautiful park, to an amusement and entertaining park? Walking with his son knowing that could be his last time walking with his son, and that could be the last time a son could walk with his father.

And then, he laid him on that rock he saw in his dream where he slaughtered his son Ismail (as). He grabbed the knife and came to slaughter his son Ismail (as), but, by the will of Allah, Allah (swt) prevented the knife to slaughter Ismail (as). Then, the call came from Allah (swt), from above the heavens, and Allah (swt) called upon Ibrahim (as) that it was the Big Test! Don’t slaughter him.

Ya Allah (swt)! But you commanded me to slaughter him.

Well, it’s not about slaughtering your son or not, it’s about what’s in your heart!

What’s in your heart?

Ibrahim (as) did everything he could to slaughter Ismail (as) but Allah (swt) did not allow the slaughter of Ismail (as)- because, slaughtering Ismail (as) did not benefit Allah (swt), but, what Allah (swt) wanted to see was, the sincerity and love for Allah (swt) in the heart of Ibrahim (as).

Sacrifice! It’s not about what you sacrifice, what you give? It’s about pure intention and love in the heart to make Allah (swt) happy!

Transcribed for hiba by Hira Naqi




Reflections from the Hajj

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By Sheikh Omar Suleiman and Abdul Nasir Jangda

Shiakh Omar Suleiman:  Subhan’Allah, Every year Hajj gets easier. We are not living in the days anymore, where you would be walking in hot sun, and your feet are going to be burning

We are living in the days of five star hotels very next to the Haram, V.I.P air conditioned tents, trains- the air train which takes you from Muzdalifa, Arafah, Mina.

There is abundance of food, we had catering of food from Ash-Shuhada, and we had over twenty items in Mina, three times a day. The food was sickening, and there were two people, who were fighting and arguing with organizers that food is not labeled, so we are not getting what we are eating. Essentially, we have gotten used to of spoiled life style, which stops us from benefitting from Hajj. So, I reflected on story of Ka’ab bin Malik (ra) in a long Hadeeth, which talks about his redemption. Subhan’Allah, people do not understand that Ka’ab bin Malik (ra) was actually from the Rich- The Aghniyah of Madinah- he was from the richest of Madinah; socially very elite, he was a rich poet; some of the scholars said that he was amongst the  five sponsors of Prophet (sa) when he came to Madinah. When Ka’ab bin Malik (ra) had that chance to be forgiven, he heard the news from the people coming to him- he took off and gave his throbe away to the one who gave the good news as he was very happy. One thing to realize is that he did not have another throbe, so he had to borrow another throbe. When he went to Prophet (sa), he was told him:

‘This is the best day Ka’ab since your mother gave birth to you. -not your wedding day, not the day you got rich, it’s the day that Allah (swt) forgave you. The day Allah (swt) forgave your sins, the day you had a chance of redemption!

Even then, Ka’ab bin Malik (ra) wanted to give away everything else he had left; then Prophet (sa) said: ‘Keep some of the money with you,” he said: “Fine, I will keep some.” and he gave everything else away. He had realized that Allah (swt) had given him the chance to be forgiven.

For a few days, a little bit of struggle, a late bus here and there, a little bit of walking here and there, a little bit of heat here and there, waiting in line for bathroom. Some people are just happy to be there because there is a chance of redemption-the chance to be forgiven. And, essentially when you go there with that mentality- don’t allow yourself to complain, don’t allow yourself to jeopardize your chance of redemption, because you might not ever make it there again, and that might be your one chance, one shot to be there at the House of Allah (swt).

Of course, the doors of forgiveness are always open, but this is Hajj; you really don’t want to spoil your Hajj over late bus; over a point you are trying to improve to a guy who pushed you here and there; or a guard that you don’t like his attitude.

Shiakh Omar Suleiman: You truly understood the value of redemption, that Allah (swt) is going to forgive me  for eighty/ninety years of sins in three days, Allah (swt) is going to let go of all that and not hold me accountable for any of that. So, just remember when you go there, Insha’Allah- just think: ‘This is my chance of redemption, I am not going to screw it up, no money matters to me anymore; if Hajj agencies screwed me over, I will talk to them after Hajj, I am not going to complain about it right now. I will talk to them after Hajj.

If I got to sleep in the street, Alhumdulillah, I am there; I am in Hajj, that’s all that matters.

Shaikh Abdul Nasir Jangda: It’s really is an amazing opportunity, amazing chance. One of my observations is that, vast majority of younger people over there, of ages twenty’s and thirty’s were mostly from western countries. I met a group of people from China, every single person from the group was above of the age of sixty, it has become a lot easier for people of all ages, but Hajj is Hajj. It’s a Mercy.

Shiakh Omar Suleiman: No matter how much we pay, your package;  V.I.P/deluxe, you still going to have difficulty.

Shaikh Abdul Nasir Jangda: That is the opportunity that we will be able to make some sacrifice to cleanse ourselves, to purify ourselves. When I saw those people, I was thinking that, why would somebody come for a Hajj when he is sixty, and when it is difficult for them; they are old, they can barely walk; somebody is on the wheelchair. I realized that, it took them this long enough to save money to be able to do it. It made me wow for a young person in America in his thirty might have done Hajj for four, five times; and this person waited for sixty years to be able to do Hajj. What an amazing blessing it is, that is why they see opportunity, and they love it, they do not complain.

Mostly, people have the general idea of the Fiqh of Hajj; they read a book, take some notes, they are usually with Shaikh in groups. I noticed that there is a serious lack of common sense there, because Hujjaj do not need a lot more Fiqh than a lot more common sense.

While sharing Hajj reflections to my students, I told that one cannot fake Hajj- if you are patient then you are going to become patient. If you have an issue of anger then you are going to lose it at Hajj. You get exposed!

When we enter Haram physically exposed to the elements, we also become spiritually exposed as well, and we need a lot more common sense.

Lastly, we bear all pain and sacrifice just for one reason that is only- Allah (swt). It’s that simple. People spend thousands of dollars for Allah (swt); people leave their kids to their families, their homes- Why? Because of Allah (swt), people are willing to sleep in sand, in ash, in middle of the desert. The sole reason of why everybody does what they do- there is Allah (swt), and that is the goal and focus.

Shiakh Omar Suleiman:

Just remember! When you go to Hajj, make sure you understand that you are one of very few that have been chosen for Hajj, and you are a guest of Allah (swt); and as a guest you should fulfill all the rights at that point.

You should understand that you are not the host, so do not go there as a guy who paid saying: ‘I paid for this, I paid for that’; Allah (swt) has invited you there, so Allah (swt) will decree whatever you get there, what difficulties you will go through there, and as a guest you are honored to be there. If you were to go to a ‘white house’, you are not going to sit there and complain to yourself that: ‘I paid twenty dollars for ticket to tour this place’, you will just be happy to be there to meet the President.

So, Allah (swt) called you there; Allah (swt) invited you there as a guest; you forgo your rights, and just go with the flow and the thought that it is accepted. May Allah (swt) accept our Hajj. Ameen.

Transcribed for hiba by Hira Naqi




Prophet Ibrahim’s Sacrifice

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On the story of Ibrahim (as), what are some of the most incredible tests that he was put through?

  • Sacrificing his son.
  • Jumping into fire.

Can you think of some other?

I would say leaving the family where? Middle of the desert. I am not worried about leaving in the middle of the desert; I am more worried about how you get there?

Because, when you are on a road trip with your family it’s torturous!

And, we like traveling in our SUV’s, in our vans’ with air conditions, with the hand held devices, and whatever is playing on the radio, with the scenes outside- and the kids saying: that area…, that area….!

And after, three hours on a trip, you say: Oh I am never going to do this again- it was hard!

Can you imagine- the SUV Ibrahim (as) is driving and a baby? What air conditioning? What climate control? What rest stops? Subhan Allah!

I am a father, if I leave my kids at the airport; and I am late to pick them up, I do that all the time. I used to have a job of picking up my kids from the school, and that one time I overslept, and I did not tell my wife- as she was not there. So, I am driving and she calls, how are the kids? I say: they are good. But, she would go: O my God! You forgot to pick them up. How could you? And I am thinking in my head: Yes! How could I leave them in an air condition room with the teacher infront of them in the secure laws of school for the next thirty minutes?

I would say: No! No!

I am sorry!

I am sorry!

I pick them up now.

But, where Ibrahim (as) is leaving his family? What seems to the naked eye is sudden death; there is no way out of that except death! And he has to leave them .

Transcribed for hiba by Hira Naqi


Yaum e Arafah 2015

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It was a sweltering morning. I wondered how much more will the temperature rise as we boarded our bus from Mina after the Fajr prayer. 9th of Dhul Hajj, the day Satan grieves most. Why? Because on no other day does Allah (swt) free so many necks of the believers from the Hell fire against their pleas of Taubah.

Yaum e Arafah has been termed as Hajj. These are the same plains where one day we all will stand to account for our whole life before Allah (swt) – on the Day of Judgement.

Hence, all the pilgrims stand facing the Qiblah from noon until shortly before sunset pleading Allah (swt) for forgiveness. This is called Wuqoof, and it is highly recommended to recite “La Ilaha Illah Allah Wahdahu La Sharika Lahu- Lahulmulku Walahulhamdu- Wahuwa Ala Kulli Shai In Qadeer.” (There is no God but Allah. He is one. He has no partner. His is the dominion and His is the praise. And He is able to do everything.)

Molana Tariq Jameel was invited to narrate the Prophet’s (sa) Hajj to the pilgrims, and apprise them of its noteworthy rituals with a deeper meaning. He talked about the prophet’s (sa) nearly ten days journey of Hajj. Molana also explained our beloved messenger’s (sa) last sermon.

It was shameful to think how the Ummah had tossed aside most of the advice heeded to them by the Prophet (sa) just before he departed from the world. He would cry a great portion of the night begging Allah (swt) “Ummati, Ummati” (My nation, my nation). Until Angel Gibrael would appear by Allah’s (swt) command to ensure him that Allah (swt) will not disappoint the Messenger (sa) regarding his Ummah. The question is how concerned are we as his Ummah about not disappointing him. Do we even care? Do we even know who he was? Do we even bother finding out and try living up to his expectations of us?

What stirred my soul was when brother Tariq Jameel mentioned that if we were here standing before Allah (swt) expecting His divine mercy and forgiveness, we should have come with a sound heart. Firstly, we must forgive all who have deliberately or unintentionally wronged us. Once our heart is pure, we can then seek repentance for ourselves.

A corrupt heart that holds grudges, and enmities against other brothers and sisters in Islam is not deserving of forgiveness.

Once while the companions were seated with the Prophet (sa), he announced that the man who will enter next is from the people of Paradise. Surely, an elderly Sahabi entered. This continued for the next three days. AmribnulAas (rta) was a devout worshipper who worshipped extra-ordinarily. He was very curious to find out what was it that he was missing out on, and had not yet received glad tidings of Jannah from the Prophet (sa) while that Sahabi had.

Amr (rta) requested the Sahabi to offer him lodging for the next couple of days. The Sahabi gladly accepted him. As the night fell, Amr (rta) prepared for a long spell of prayers in anticipation, but discovered that the Sahabi did not offer any special voluntary prayers, and instead turned to sleep. Puzzled Amr (rta) waited for the next day hoping to find the cause of honour for this Sahabi.

The next day was equally surprising. The Sahabi went about his routine business, and offered normal worship; while Amr (rta) kept waiting for that special quality or moment- but was disappointed to find nothing. Finally surrendering, he announced his departure to the old Sahabi, and revealed to him his real intention of stay with him. As Amr (rta) prepared to leave perplexed, the elderly Sahabi stopped him and mentioned: “There is nothing extra ordinary that I do for worship; however, I make it a point to clean my heart every night before I turn to sleep. Maybe that could be it.?”

Amr (rta) had solved the mystery. That was it. A pure heart that held no malign against any of Allah’s (rta) creations- Mamlat (relationships) and Huqooq-ul-Ibad (rights of the creation). Every believer needs to be extremely cautious about it. Tread on eggshells.

Allah (swt) will not forgive someone who has broken the heart of any of His creations. And most of the times, we don’t even know about it.

If they are around, beg forgiveness of them. If they are gone, pray to Allah (swt) to grant them enough reward and elevate their status, so that they do not need any of our good deeds on the Day of Reckoning.

Honouring Huqooq Allah is relatively easier as our Lord (swt) is Merciful, and eager to forgive His slaves who have transgressed. Take care of people’s rights as it invites Allah’s (swt) special love and recognition.

May Allah (swt) make the Day of Arafah easy for all believers. Ameen.



Hajj Reflections- Tale of a mother and her baby


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The month of Dhul Hijjah takes my thoughts to my mom. She once said that a mother’s life is that of “Sayee”. She runs to and fro for her children; making ends meet; providing for them; watching over them. All this so that her children’s eyes don’t get wet with tears of grief, and their hearts are not filled with feelings of hopelessness.

On a hot day, it had only been a short while since Suhoor, yet my lips were parched. There was a dry, warm wind blowing. I can vividly visualize Hajrah, mother of Prophet Ismael (as), and wife of Prophet Ibrahim (as), running from one mountain top to other mountain top in search of water for her thirsty baby. Her garments must have flapped against her body- as the warm winds shifted dunes in the hot dry desert. Her baby must’ve squealed, and cried with thirst till he ran out of tears. Subhan’Allah, how Allah (swt) loves them at that point! The uncomplaining mother just making Sayee and praying;  convinced by her Lord’s will, and His pleasure was her goal. The gift that our Rabb sent their way was a miracle that has existed to date, and holds powers that still overwhelms people. This miraculous gift turned the desert into a thriving city, and became the centre of civilization for the Muslim Ummah!

The love the Almighty felt for the persevering mother has signs for us. The Almighty Allah (swt), our Rabb, loves those who persevere, and stick to their just cause- attaining His pleasure remains their underlying motive, and their driving force- Allah (swt) loves them!

Wow! I think it’s super cool- Allah (swt) loves them and He gifts them with His choicest bounties. Subhan’Allah. Allahu Akbar!

Insha’Allah, I’m sure my mom too did her Sayee super well. And made our Rabb super happy. Insha’Allah, I’m sure my Almighty Allah (swt) will reward her in His excellent ways for her successful Sayee.

May Allah (swt) make our Sayee in this life a success; and grant us His wondrous gifts that we can’t imagine or fathom. May Allah (swt) love us, and make us deserving of His love. Ameen.