By Erum Khan – Partial Homeschooler and Passionate Entrepreneur
There are many human relations in this world, but marriage stands out as unique and unmatched. The fact that one has to live 24/7 with another human – often a stranger – opens the door to the greatest test of Adab, or good manners. In happy times, one may behave kindly and respectfully towards the other, but what happens when things get rough? How should one act?
- Start with Taqwa.
The foundation of marriage should always, no matter what, be Taqwa. Husband and wife must try to increase in their consciousness of Allah (swt), individually, as a couple and as a family too. If Taqwa is present in the heart, it will reflect in the statements, actions, daily routines, as well as in difficult times.
- Always try to seek each other’s pleasure.
The wife should practice this when making decisions for herself, the children and the household. This is to increase the love and mercy between the spouses. When she is at home, is she dressed in a beautiful manner that will attract and please her husband? Are her words and behavior showing respect?
A husband should treat his wife nicely, as our Prophet (sa) said: “Among the Muslims, the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well.” (Tirmidhi)
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